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  1. @mr_hopp thank you for your response. I am trying really hard to not let it get to me but I think between this and all the chaos going on in today’s world, I’m having a harder time dealing with it than I usually would. I too, am proud that I had the courage to tell him. He’s younger than I am so I feel like maturity has a lot to do with why he decided not to take the risk. He still messages me every day saying he misses me but I’m wondering if continuing to talk to him is doing more harm, than good. Sorry for the vent. I am just at a loss right now lol.
  2. Hey everyone. I disclosed for the first time to a guy I was dating for a month. He took it really well and we continued seeing each other but never had sex. He is moving two hours away and all along the talk was that we were going to try and do the long distance and see how it goes. Well it seems that now he doesn’t want to do it because he feels as though we can’t have sex because of my situation. I’m broken to be honest. I was upfront and honest with this guy and put my guard down. I had hopes that this would develop a stronger relationship and in the end, he bailed. I feel defeated by this. It makes me wonder if I will ever find someone who truly accepts me for me. I don’t know how to feel at this point. Just could use some words of encouragement. Thanks for reading.
  3. I have been waiting for the day where I could finally post in this topic starter! I have had my first successful disclosure and he was completely understanding and accepting. We have gotten to know each other on an emotional level more than anyone I’ve ever met. I am so proud of myself for having the courage to tell him as I know a lot of people don’t. The next part has been a little tricky. We have not had sex yet and honestly both him and I are scared to. I don’t want to pass this on to him. I would be devastated. But at the same time I want to see how our physical connection is. I have not had sex in over a year and am nervous that our first time will cause an outbreak. What can I do to prevent this? Does the anxiety of transmitting eventually go away?
  4. Thank you for the kind words! So I ended up not disclosing that night, but instead disclosed the next day via text. I know some people may say it’s not the best way to do it but I find myself better at explaining thing in writing rather than saying it in person. He was very understanding and said he was so sorry this happened to me. He asked me a few questions and then continued on with our normal conversation. He’s coming over for dinner tonight so I’m not sure if more will be brought up then. All I can say is that whether or not this works out I am soooo proud of myself for being able to tell him. I am hoping this shows him just how open and honest of a person I am.
  5. I plan on disclosing for the first time ever, tonight. I am extremely nervous as to how his reaction will be but honestly feel like it needs to be said. Even if it doesn’t work out with him at least I can say I have finally built up enough courage to disclose to someone I am developing feelings for. Positive thoughts send them my way!
  6. Love this story about you and your boyfriend. I have recently met someone and we are taking things slow but I can feel that this conversation is going to come up in the near future. I was wondering...did you use the term HSV or herpes? I know it sounds stupid but in my kind when I say HSV it doesn’t sound as dirty to me. I also am unsure of how much information I should give him. Whether it be all the statistics or just the cliff notes version. He’s a super good looking guy, with a wonderful career and we have the best time together. I am just so nervous that this disclosure will ruin things for us. It’s hard to put your heart out there when you honestly don’t know the end result when disclosing.
  7. Coming from someone who’s mother attempted suicide, stay. Your children are worth staying for. Your life is worth staying for. Your love life is not a reason to leave. It will happen when it’s suppose to happen. You draw what you think you deserve. So if you think you don’t deserve the best, then you will attract the worst. Filter out the shitheads and get yourself a MAN. Raise your standards..do not lower them. Focus on you and the rest will follow. Hugs!
  8. Thank you! Have you had a lot of luck with partners accepting you? I just hit a year of having GHSV2 and luckily have only had one outbreak since my first. Just ready to get back into the dating world and want to make sure I have all the facts to feel confident when I disclose.
  9. Hello! So it will be a year this month that I have had GHSV2. I am now interested in getting back into the dating world; however I still have questions about dos and don’ts of a sexual relationship with someone. Can one of the veterans in here let me know some things that may be different now in a sexual relationship than it may have been before diagnosis? I would start taking antivirals once I meet someone and using protection as well. But can they perform oral at all on me? Can they touch me at all down there? I just want to make sure all of my questions are answered and that I know everything so I know how to answer a potential partner who may have tons of questions before pursuing a relationship with me. Thanks!
  10. It is only transmitted through skin to skin contact. You don’t have anything to worry about from any of the the information you provided.
  11. Yeah I have been on dates but have found that I am more picky on who I want to continue seeing because of having to share this information with them, which I guess isn’t necessarily a bad thing lol. I don’t want to just tell anyone. I have read in Westover Heights that after a period of time of having HSV, you build antibodies so it would prevent transmitting to other areas of your body (for example: your mouth).
  12. @Kacey no I have not. I am nervous as well. I’m still unsure with all the do’s and don’ts with having sex. I haven’t been in a rush to meet anyone but when I do I want to make sure when it comes time for that- that I am fully informed to keep my partner safe and so hopefully I can still enjoy it like I used to.
  13. I have read a lot that stress is a trigger for outbreaks. I am going through a divorce with a child involved as well so I know how stressful that can be. I have just been running/eating healthy/surrounding myself with friends in order to keep my stress levels down as much as I can. You just have to do what works best for you!
  14. I haven’t take medication at all since being diagnosed in January. I have not had another outbreak since my first. I think as long as you keep yourself healthy and try not to stress then you may be ok. But if you are planning on being sexually active-I would suggest being on medication to lower the risk of transmission to your partner.
  15. @mr_hopp I have similar questions to the ones asked above. Would you be able to provide some information for these questions? 😊 i would also like to add to the questions on what if your partner is HSV2- ? What activities with a partner should be avoided?
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