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@100918 what do you think is the reason you don’t get outbreaks? If you don’t have outbreaks and have never transmitted it, how do you know your test wasn’t a false positive?

I’m sorry, I was hoping antivirals would be your answer. My first outbreak lasted a few weeks but I don’t recall getting continual blisters. Hang in there. If it gets worse contact your dr again. You may also want to try Lysine, that seems to work well for HSV1. The good news is this should be the worse it ever is and any recurrence will be minor compared to this. I’m sorry I couldn’t be more helpful.

I don’t know about being friends. I’m really struggling with this myself. On one hand, the man/woman didn’t do anything wrong if they decide not to continue the relationship (if it’s done respectfully) so a friendship may be a nice thing that comes out it. On the other hand they rejected me purely because of HSV and it’s going to hurt to watch that person date someone else. I’m leaning towards not being friends as it’s just a painful reminder of rejection. Regarding shame, it’s hard, but try to get over it. It’s nothing to be shameful about. Think about it, millions of people did the same thing you did, you just were unlucky. There’s a lot of things worse in life to be worried about.

I’ve felt the same way. I feel like lately it’s a double whammy, I have HSV but now I’m the worst of the worst because I have HSV2. I understand HSV2 sheds more which makes it more likely to transmit but it’s still herpes. Whether you have GHSV1 or GHSV2 you are going to deal with the same issues. I don’t need to be made to feel like I’m doomed because I have type 2.

I’m sorry you are having such a hard time. Did the Dr prescribe antivirals? It seems odd if they didn’t. You should be taking them which will help the process.

I’ve been on Valacyclovir for about two months now and I don’t think it’s working at all. I’ve had more outbreaks than ever before and it does nothing to clear up outbreaks any faster. I also decided to switch to name brand Valtrex until I found out how much it was. We’re talking hundreds of dollars. I think a 30 day supply was in the $600 range. My doctor just sent in a prescription for acyclovir so I’m going to try that and see if it makes a difference. I’ve also been super stressed lately so maybe it’s not the drug at all and just my system but I figure it doesn’t hurt to try something new and see what happens.

I’m female so can’t entirely relate but I have permanent spots from where my outbreaks occur. They don’t flare up unless I’m having an outbreak but it does look like a scar since the skin is discolored. I read one of your other posts. Did you ever follow up with the ex?

I would say if it’s been 2 years and he’s still around he’s not going anywhere. Have you come out and directly expressed to him how you are feeling?

I’m going to respectfully disagree with the opinion on using HSV dating sites, meet ups, Facebook, etc. All that does is perpetuate the stigma that this is some awful disease and that you have to date within your own species and seek out another HSV person to get a date. I get it, rejection sucks, I’ve been there but I’m not going to treat myself any differently and limit my prospects.

I’m having crazy bad outbreaks lately that coincide with my period and last for weeks Antivirals (even 2g daily of Valtrex)do absolutely nothing to help. I’m having a hard time lately and going through some personal issues so I’m chalking it up to stress. Plus my diet is crap so I’m hoping in the next few weeks everything calms down and I’m going to really make an effort to eat well and try to exercise. Not sure if there’s any truth to the diet piece but figure it can’t hurt.

@SeeingClearly I apologize if this is too personal but was your boyfriend wearing condoms? If you were on antivirals I’m just wondering how he got it. I know even with antivirals and condoms there is still a chance.

I agree it’s a disease, I just don’t like that phrase because it makes it seem a lot worse than it actually is (for most people).

I hate the phrase “risk your health” it sounds like you are asking someone to put themselves in a life or death situation which in this instance couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t think anyone should be shamed for not wanting to engage with a person who has hsv. I believe where the frustration comes in is that a lot of the times the people who “bounce” as you put it, do so because they are uneducated about the virus and believe the stigma. To walk away from casual sex is one thing but to walk away from a meaningful relationship that could make you happy for the rest of your life is ridiculous.

That’s easy to say to someone who has no problem getting dates, get rejected and try again, but when you really struggle and only date once in a while those rejections are BRUTAL. I’m at the point that I’d rather lower my standards and be with someone than be alone forever.

@100918 can I just say how awesome you are. You literally have changed my whole attitude about myself this weekend and you have no idea how valuable that is so thank you!! @Teach28 hang in there, I’m confident this will get easier and will be one of the least of your concerns in life.

I feel like my dating pool has been significantly reduced since not everyone will be ok with HSV. Do you feel you have to lower your standards to be accepted?

Thank you for your response and thank you for replying to a lot of the posts from people, it really makes me feel better. I’m older at 45 and this guy is 47. The funny thing is he has HSV1 and knows a lot about both strains but views type 1 oral as no big deal (he didn’t disclose it to me) but type 2 is the plague which is how I think most people view it. Rejection is tough and it’s just disheartening to know I have a future of these disclosures and rejection until I find someone accepting, if ever.

I was falling in love with someone and very excited about the relationship. Told him about my HSV2 status and he suggested I use a dating site for HSV+ people because they are more “my kind.” He didn’t say it maliciously but meant it would save me the disclosure talk and rejection. I’ve been crying for the last 3 hours straight. I’m starting to think all these success stories are made up because I have yet to meet someone who doesn’t look at you with pity and disgust when they find out. I know you are going to say he was not the right one but how many times can you put yourself through this before it has a seriously damaging mental toll?