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  1. I’m sorry, I was hoping antivirals would be your answer. My first outbreak lasted a few weeks but I don’t recall getting continual blisters. Hang in there. If it gets worse contact your dr again. You may also want to try Lysine, that seems to work well for HSV1. The good news is this should be the worse it ever is and any recurrence will be minor compared to this. I’m sorry I couldn’t be more helpful. 

  2. I don’t know about being friends. I’m really struggling with this myself. On one hand, the man/woman didn’t do anything wrong if they decide not to continue the relationship (if it’s done respectfully) so a friendship may be a nice thing that comes out it. On the other hand they rejected me purely because of HSV and it’s going to hurt to watch that person date someone else. I’m leaning towards not being friends as it’s just a painful reminder of rejection. 

    Regarding shame, it’s hard, but try to get over it. It’s nothing to be shameful about. Think about it, millions of people did the same thing you did, you just were unlucky. There’s a lot of things worse in life to be worried about.

  3. I’ve felt the same way. I feel like lately it’s a double whammy, I have HSV but now I’m the worst of the worst because I have HSV2. I understand HSV2 sheds more which makes it more likely to transmit but it’s still herpes. Whether you have GHSV1 or GHSV2 you are going to deal with the same issues. I don’t need to be made to feel like I’m doomed because I have type 2. 

  4. I’ve been on Valacyclovir for about two months now and I don’t think it’s working at all. I’ve had more outbreaks than ever before and it does nothing to clear up outbreaks any faster. I also decided to switch to name brand Valtrex until I found out how much it was. We’re talking hundreds of dollars. I think a 30 day supply was in the $600 range. My doctor just sent in a prescription for acyclovir so I’m going to try that and see if it makes a difference. I’ve also been super stressed lately so maybe it’s not the drug at all and just my system but I figure it doesn’t hurt to try something new and see what happens.

  5. I’m going to respectfully disagree with the opinion on using HSV dating sites, meet ups, Facebook, etc.  All that does is perpetuate the stigma that this is some awful disease and that you have to date within your own species and seek out another HSV person to get a date. 

    I get it, rejection sucks, I’ve been there but I’m not going to treat myself any differently and limit my prospects. 

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  6. I’m having crazy bad outbreaks lately that coincide with my period and last for weeks Antivirals (even 2g daily of Valtrex)do absolutely nothing to help. I’m having a hard time lately and going through some personal issues so I’m chalking it up to stress. Plus my diet is crap so I’m hoping in the next few weeks everything calms down and I’m going to really make an effort to eat well and try to exercise. Not sure if there’s any truth to the diet piece but figure it can’t hurt. 

  7. 7 hours ago, SeeingClearly said:

    Hey moving4ward! I think how you feel is totally normal. From a females perspective you should keep the first doctors appt to yourself. I’m sure she’s very upset she gave it to you she doesn’t need to know you’ve been struggling with thoughts of it since then. I disclosed to my boyfriend and he was accepting and I went on antivirals but he still got it. I found out he had been stressing about it for a while and that broke my heart. Everyone deals with this crap differently, I’d suggest really trying to make it work but if it doesn’t thats okay too. Best of luck!!

    @SeeingClearly I apologize if this is too personal but was your boyfriend wearing condoms? If you were on antivirals I’m just wondering how he got it. I know even with antivirals and condoms there is still a chance. 

  8. I hate the phrase “risk your health” it sounds like you are asking someone to put themselves in a life or death situation which in this instance couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t think anyone should be shamed for not wanting to engage with a person who has hsv. I believe where the frustration comes in is that a lot of the times the people who “bounce” as you put it, do so because they are uneducated about the virus and believe the stigma. To walk away from casual sex is one thing but to walk away from a meaningful relationship that could make you happy for the rest of your life is ridiculous. 

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  9. 12 hours ago, Amando said:

    Never ever, No way!

    why should you lower your standards because you have HSV?

    Date the same as you always did before, the only difference is you need to disclose,
    if they reject you, just move on & go again!

    I know it can hurt getting rejected, I've been there but it never stopped me from trying again.

    The biggest thing is in your own head, having HSV is not a death sentence, far from it 😉

    That’s easy to say to someone who has no problem getting dates, get rejected and try again, but when you really struggle and only date once in a while those rejections are BRUTAL. I’m at the point that I’d rather lower my standards and be with someone than be alone forever. 

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  10. 1 hour ago, 100918 said:

    I'm sorry that he had that reaction. It could have been a knee-jerk reaction and he may come around after he has some time to digest what you told him and does some research.

    If he doesn't, then you really are better off without him.

    Not sure if you saw my story, but when I was first diagnosed, I had just started seeing someone (was during STD testing I had done before gettting intimate - I was insisting he get tested, so I went to get tested as well...only fair, right?), and I disclosed to him as soon as I found out. He had a similar reaction, but didn't tell me to go date my own kind (which is actually a total dick move, tbh). He ended things. I was very upset because things had been going well.

    However, about a week or so later, he came around and decided that he wanted to be with me anyway. At that point, I turned HIM down because I realized that I deserved better than someone who would say hurtful things in a moment when I was being completely vulnerable with him.

    About 3 1/2 months later, I met my boyfriend. When I disclosed to him a couple weeks later, he was 100% accepting, had no issue with it at all, and basically told me that it was nothing as far as he was concerned. It's been almost 5 months, and we are still together and very happy.

    The way I look at it, you can never find happiness if you don't put yourself out there and risk getting hurt. And finding someone who will love you unconditionally is worth the hurt along the way.

    Can I ask how old you are? And how old the men are that you're dating? That could be a contributing factor to the reactions you are getting. Also, set your standards high. You deserve someone amazing, not just settling for someone you think will be good enough.

    Chin up! Allow yourself the time to be upset, and then pick yourself up and brush yourself off. 

     

    Thank you for your response and thank you for replying to a lot of the posts from people, it really makes me feel better. 

    I’m older at 45 and this guy is 47. The funny thing is he has HSV1 and knows a lot about both strains but views type 1 oral as no big deal (he didn’t disclose it to me) but type 2 is the plague which is how I think most people view it. 

    Rejection is tough and it’s just disheartening to know I have a future of these disclosures and rejection until I find someone accepting, if ever. 

  11. I was falling in love with someone and very excited about the relationship. Told him about my HSV2 status and he suggested I use a dating site for HSV+ people because they are more “my kind.” He didn’t say it maliciously but meant it would save me the disclosure talk and rejection.  

    I’ve been crying for the last 3 hours straight. I’m starting to think all these success stories are made up because I have yet to meet someone who doesn’t look at you with pity and disgust when they find out. 

    I know you are going to say he was not the right one but how many times can you put yourself through this before it has a seriously damaging mental toll?

     

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