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  1. 1 hour ago, Flowerteacher55 said:

    Hi!

    Great question. You can always request copies of your previous labs for your files (it is your blood after all, you have a right to see the levels!). You can call your doctor and ask or the lab where your blood work was done. 

     I hope this helps!

    Blessings to you! 🙂 

    grace 

    Hello, thank you for comment! The place I got my work done, was awhile ago (teen health connection), I’m no longer a teen anymore so I’m not sure if they will allow that? You think I should still give a call, or try with a new hospital? Thanks again!

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  2. A girl told me earlier that, “getting to know them first”, leads to problems, and that they have a right to know RIGHT away. And you’ll never know when the right time will be, and if he falls for you quickly, & you’re searching for the right time, everything gets messed up. Honestly I’ve done it after I’ve know someone, because while it is important, I think it’s important to discuss not just my status, but for them to know theirs as well… sex isn’t always my priority  when getting to know someone either. Now I’m kinda hesitant to think there’s ppl out here who think it will ruin everything but not telling straight away. A first date isn’t even enough to cover everything imo anyway. 

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  3. Sorry to say, but your friends needs to get a grip. She kisses her baby right? Shares food with her baby right? Other ppl kiss her child right? Most adolescents come into contact with HSV1 as child’s. It’s kinda unavoidable. Secondly, just because the child drunk after you doesn’t mean he’s gonna automatically be exposed to it. Lastly, it gets easier. Well for me. I advised you to research. 90% of the global population carries a strain. You’re not alone. The stigma really comes from the pharmaceutical companies. And society made it worse. Please take care of yourself, and if I can make you feel better by sending educational links, I’d be happy to do so. I assure you, if you don’t have constant symptoms, you kinda forget it there. 

  4. I’m really big on manifesting, so I probably look silly rn typing this out but I’m terrified. Blood test didn’t tell me which type & I asked if he wanted me to be specifically test to find out but he said no since we were already having sex and how everyone basically has it. (We drunkenly had sex before we got together officially. I got tested before we became a couple) He does have hsv1. This week I’ve been having a yeast infection & me and my parter had sex. I take my anti viral everyday, as well. Well my bf has been feeling fatigue for a few days, & we’re not sure if it’s the flu or covid. Hopefully neither. he does work long hours and has depression. But he feels better today. He’s Told me he’s had this itch for a few days, but that’s all it is. Just an itch. Been about three days. And the absolute worth thought came to my head. What if I infected him. He is uncut so he’s more susceptible to infection. I am absolutely terrified I’m gonna ruin his lif & dreams of going into the military. This is the exact reason I didn’t want a relationship. I feel like shit. I’m praying it’s just a yeast infection but if not, I’m gonna be so upset at myself. He’s already depressed & I’m potentially adding on more. I honestly just wanna run away. 

  5. On 4/16/2020 at 1:25 PM, MM1987 said:

    Feels like a scolding, which is fair enough. I'm very open to being called out on selfish behaviour and reasoning.

    The things I have mentioned in the list aren't opinions or me trying to 'minimise' 

    they are true observations... that DO have a minimising effect...or at least seem to paint something of a grey area.

    more like.. why is this thing okay.. but this thing isn't? ... I'm not a bad person for observing that there is a lot of conflicting information and opinions around herpes,and asking for guidance. For example... I discussed the diagnosis with a friend.. who said she 'gets coldsores'... as 80 percent of people do... she definitely does not disclose that information when she has oral sex... and 50% of new cases are caused this way... She frowned and scowled when I said that a friend suggested I use condoms, go on meds, and disclose only if I want to. Why is one despicable but people with hsv1 having oral sex are not? Or are they 'bad' people too? 

    Lots of the information I have come across simultaneously minimises herpes (its a skin condition, extremely low rate of transmission, asymptomatic) but also makes it out to be extremely serious (like comparing to HIV which contributes to the death of millions of people).

    Sexual health clinics don't test for it.. CDC doesn't recommend testing... Dr said use condoms and disclosure is a personal choice...80 percent of people who have it dont know and pass it on... and nothing is done to prevent that, those examples suggest that its not serious.. or not taken seriously by health professionals.. yet a person who has it, is expected to take it EXTREMELY seriously in terms of disclosure... and may have to deal with very serious relationship and mental health problems as a result of disclosure. I guess I find that confusing. 

    In terms of my own feelings, I did not feel deceived, the person who passed it on says he didn't know he had them, and as all sexual contact poses a risk of herpes/hpv I suppose I see it as being unlucky. If he knew- was not on medication and was not using condoms I would feel deceived/he was irresponsible... if he knew and was taking responsible preventative measures but did not disclose I would not mind, but this is because I know that would bring the risk down to 2.5% which in my opinion is incredibly low. If I was in a relationship with someone I would want them to tell me, but mainly because I want them to share themselves and be comfortable... I would not be angry if they had done what was within their power to reduce transmission. I suppose I see the risk as inherently there regardless of knowledge of or disclosure.

    Thats the point though isn't it... everyone is different with what they find an acceptable risk.. where I find 1-2% risk completely insignificant, to someone else that might be too much and that's their choice.. that I should not be making for them.

    I appreciate the perspective and wake up call.

    The more I think about it the more I lean towards a break from relationships and sex in general, so as to reduce the potential anxiety of disclosure. I'm definitely not at a stage where I am willing to disclose and open myself up to being rejected and shamed for this

  6. On 7/29/2016 at 12:47 AM, Leep said:

    Hello. I contracted the Big H from my ex husband. He knew he had it but never disclosed it to me. I was a virgin when we got married. A couple months later I experienced a lot of itching on my left hand, and a sore appeared. I thought it was an insect bite. I went to the doctor and he did a swab test of it. I got the call that change my life forever, I had contracted HSV-1 and HSV-2. I never had cuts on my hand but some how I was able to get it. I never performed oral on him but did put my hand on him. So it is very possible to get it on your hand. I am now remarried and we've been together for 13 years. He has not contracted the Big H thank goodness. If I feel anything we abstain from having any type of contact. So far this has worked for us.

    Wow! When I use to get genital outbreaks, at the same time I use to get a few bumps on this one particular spot on my arm that would tingle! I’m sure I was experiencing the same as you. And when I took my medication, it went away the same time as my outbreak down there. I was always afraid to tell my doctor about it tho, but I used a bandaid to cover it. I would include a picture for comparison if that’s fine with you. So I’m sure I touched myself while having a outbreak & spreading it thru a cut on my skin. 

  7. On 7/28/2016 at 2:32 PM, Bambina3 said:

    I so often wondered about this myself, and have posed this question before...

    Before diagnosis my ex had a lot of foreplay, using a lot of hand and arm rubbing.

    He shortly after broke out on his arm (from hand up) in something we've never seen before and it lasted weeks! I often wondered if it could be h.

    Wow! 

  8. I’d say if you guys have frequent sexual conversation, which let’s be honest we’re grown it happens, & maybe if you’re talking about this corona virus, maybe bring up this virus? You know how many ppl could have corona & be asymptotic & it’s the same with hsv? See where his head is at with that, & take it from there, you don’t have disclose there but this is a great way to bring it up 

  9. On 2/24/2020 at 1:18 PM, Missmissy said:

    Thank you for replying so quickly!! I really appreciate it! I completely agree with everything you say, last year when the tingling first showed up I called planned parenthood because I wanted to be tested and they said they wouldn’t do bloodwork unless I have an active outbreak so I cancelled that appointment. Then in the summer I had my physical in June 2019 and I had an std blood test done, I was told everything was negative but I’m not sure if that tests for herpes or just hepatitis, hiv, etc. 

     

    anyway, after that I had some peace of mind bc bloodwork, right? But I still don’t know my status 100% and now, since my friend was actually diagnosed 3 months ago & I still see her all the time it makes me nervous I might’ve been exposed again! Ughh you’re right it’s rabbit hole and it seems like doctors would rather us be ignorant if there’s no sores. Idk I want a test but I’m so scared of how I’ll react if it’s actually positive... and it might be. 

    Why are u thinking of ur friend like this? Does she know you think she’s a contagious walking thing? 

  10. On 2/12/2020 at 1:38 AM, IJDK said:

    Its not as easy as ppl make it seem they spit facts at you. You read and do your research but doesn't help with the pain of the outbreak. The discomfort. The fact that you have it. I try not live a normal life then boom outbreak constant reminder that this is my life.

    Have u tried anti viral?

  11. On 2/4/2020 at 5:25 AM, Snookie B said:

    As it all sounds good & happens for some, it doesn’t happen for all. Don’t matter what you do & what medicine you take there’s always that % of transmitting. You can’t expect someone to accept it no matter how much they love you.

    However I’m a female 9yrs H+ & my boyfriend is H- . We are going to try the home insemination process.

    you can message me for more details or look it up on YouTube.

    Why this sounds so condescending. If I could dislike this comment, I would. 

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  12. On 1/9/2020 at 11:05 AM, DoesntDefineMe said:

    Thank you! Have you had a lot of luck with partners accepting you? I just hit a year of having GHSV2 and luckily have only had one outbreak since my first. Just ready to get back into the dating world and want to make sure I have all the facts to feel confident when I disclose. 

    No problem, & So far I’ve only disclosed to one parter & he was chill about it because to most it’s really no big deal! But yes I encourage you to get ur stats & facts because the more confident & comfortable you sound the more accepting the outcome will be. There’s a tag on here that lets you hear others herpes disclosures success stories to give you more encouragement :)

  13. Yes they can perform oral sex. I’ve had hsv2 for a year now, (ik I’m not a veteran, but I hadn’t seen any comments lol) still do all the normal things. It shouldn’t & doesn’t stop you. Download the owners e-book & handouts it’ll tell ur the facts & stats & also how passing hsv2 to mouth is practically impossible. 

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