First of all- I want to say a HUGE THANK YOU to Adriel and everyone on this site. I have become extremely educated on my condition in the past month or so-even tho I have had it for almost 30 years.
After my disastrous disclosure 5 weeks ago-(which included my delivery) and that guy waffling back and forth and not truly being able to accept me-I have made my 2nd disclosure in 12 years…and this time it was a POSITIVE experience-again thanks to the guidance and info on this wonderful site. But this time I told him like it was no big deal-cuz after all-it really isn’t a big deal in my life anymore. Back from a really fun evening out with friends-I decided to get it out of the way sooner rather than later-(3rd date) we were on the couch kissing-and even tho I knew I wasn’t ready to go any further-I wanted to disclose NOW!! So I told him that I have this “annoying skin condition” that I’ve had for 28 years – and once in awhile it flares up. I said “you know how people get cold sores on the lips? Well I get them down below too-haven’t had one in nearly 5 years-but you still need to know-it’s herpes” and he looked at me and said “OK what do I need to know and what do I need to do?” So I casually rattled off the statistics which I had memorized by now! And he commented that he had a few friends that have it-but that he’s never dated anyone with it….then he said “Can I kiss you again now?” 100% OPPOSITE reaction than from the 1st guy –who made me feel like I had cooties-and even referred to it as Leprosy!!! “Don’t feel like you have Leprosy” in one conversation- UMM I DON’T but it’s obvious that YOU DO!!!!
We went out again the next day-and we have a date tonight. I was so PETRIFIED at first of the thought of disclosing again – but with the support and guidance I found on this site- I am overjoyed to say that it went well-and the next time (should there be one!!) will be even easier.
Much Love
Terri