Hi all,
I have spent hours scrolling though all of the stories and posts on this forum and the amount of empathy and sadness and glimmers of hope this site has offered me has been a blessing amidst all of the links I’ve clicked in search of answers. Basically my story is that I have been sleeping with this guy from my hometown, while I was away he slept with someone who has genital herpes. I do not know the details, though close friends of her sister say she’s had it for a while. I slept with him multiple times after the fact (before I knew), once or twice without a condom. When I heard he had been potentially exposed I immediately texted him and he confirmed he had slept with the girl, though he wouldn’t tell me if they used protection, he repeatedly told me he’s never had any symptoms and preceded to continue to try to hook up with me/ didn’t ghost me so I believe he at least believes he doesn’t have herpes. Thought after doing a dive into the internet I have realized 1. Herpes is much more common than I ever understood and 2. He could definitely have it and not know and have passed it to me. I got igg blood tested 3 weeks post my last exposure to him, and it came back negative though I know this isn’t a super reliable result given I’m supposed to wait for 12 weeks. I have been in absolute depressed panic mode, I check my vagina religiously and I have seen 3 different doctors over the course of the last 7 weeks since possible exposure who have examined me and told me I am okay and need to relax. (Not exactly easy). I have not had an outbreak, and I got some butt acne swabbed due to sheer panic and it came back negative. For the past week I have been feeling tingling in and all around my vagina that I only notice when sitting or going to bed, my gyno who I saw yesterday and my therapist told me this is a manifestation of stress. I’ve lost 10+ pounds and am overly analyzing every sensation. I guess I am here looking for input and answers. If you read and respond to this thank you and know I appreciate you greatly.