An ex of mine DIDN't tell me and gave it to me. It would have been nice to know before I moved in with him and started a fairly long term relationship. I probably still would have dated him had he told me. One of the first things he asked me when we met was did I have any STDs, lol, I was so dumb, if that's not a red flag I don't know what is. He had already been burned and knew it. When I came down with it I got so sick, felt like I had the flu! Luckily an outbreak for me is 1 tiny bump.