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Everything posted by paulgosha

  1. Regular cold sore ointments like Abreva seem to work good for me. As soon as I feel a tingle/itch I apply it and it really seems to help.
  2. Just seeing if anyone is in my area for an H buddy. This forum is a wonderful place to come for support and has helped me in ways I never thought it could, but a "real life" Friend that is going through the same thing as me would me great! I'm in St. Louis
  3. I was actually going to post this same thing in the forum lol. I found it a few days ago. It kinda makes me feel a little better about my situation to be honest.
  4. These are things I thought of AFTERWARDS... truth be told, I think I didn't really take all that into consideration till then because I had been trying to convince myself that I COULD be "normal" again. It was definitely a learning experience though. guess I have to get her a hold of her. Thanks guys
  5. yes i would. I'm just scared she will put my business all out in the streets ... Does that 5% take into consideration that the condom may have broken?? Or is that WITH proper use of a condom? Like i said, she had ZERO contact with my thang thang at all, and my OB always happen in the same spot, right below the "helmet" i guess you would call it. So, if that area was completely unexposed, is it still a possibility of passing it on?
  6. ^^lol yea i guess she was thinking with her other "brain" too^^ Wanting to be normal DEFINITELY has a big part of it!!!! Plus, i never got the "rebound" out of the way. I had someone i was close to a few months ago, before i found out i had it and pushed her away after the visit to the clinic. Then disclosed to her before i found this site and knew how to properly do so, and got rejected. But, oh well. I can't say i wouldn't have did the same. Oh yea, and i meant "safe" as in, no O.B. and she had NO direct contact with my junk, until i put the condom on. I'm not on any meds though, they mak
  7. thanks for the input. I realize the post made me come of as kind of shallow and maybe even a little careless and sleezy, that's not me. i've been waiting for the 'right one" since my ex and I broke it off, and had planned on being fully honest and disclosing when the time presented itself. Since i found out my I had H, i pretty much cut myself off from everyone besides my kids and direct family. That being said, maybe i wasn't ready to be out socializing just yet, because my other brain got the best of me... i hate that i now have to tell her because i dont even know her. Wait, that jus
  8. Since the H bug came along, there has been ZERO interest in sex. This was my longest "sex strike" in my entire adult life (7 months fml). Last night I unexpectedly broke this strike. I was as safe as I possibly could have been, but didn't disclose to her... I can't help but feel guilty. Like I said, I was SAFE, but still feel like I did something wrong. Is it possible for us to have casual sex, even if we're safe?
  9. the doc had me on 400 mg 2x a day. I'm weird about taking new meds so i was taking half the dose to see if it gave me any side effects. that stuff had me so tired and nauseous i had to stop taking it. I would like to be on suppressive therapy so i can get a better hold on this mess... has anyone else experienced this? is there a better alternative? i've been taking a multivitamin for about a month but i just had another outbreak.
  10. It just doesn't seem right that I hadn't been with anyone else in such a long time and she had cheated multiple times with multiple partners (I later found out), and admitted to not using protection and she NOT be the one that gave it to me... o well, I guess it doesn't matter who gave it to who I just gotta keep it moving either way.
  11. Thank you fpr the links! I think I like this forum, seems to be a lot of strong people in here with a lot of support, and its very encouraging to read the threads and hear that other people are going through the same thing and how they deal with it. She said she asked for the hsv test.
  12. I think I need a H buddy .I got diagnosed with HPV and H at the same time, Since I found out I had it, its been a dark time for me, dealing with how to get back to "normal" life. Think I would like a females perspective on the subject though. I'm in the St. Louis area and would love to speak to someone local.
  13. Thank you! The thing is, we were together for 9 years. I was faithful and she wasn't. We had sex many of times when I had an outbreak (before I knew what it was). If the only way to spread it is through "viral shedding", then wouldn't she have contracted it then, if I WAS the one infected first?
  14. Hey everyone, I'm new to the forum and thought I'd ask you all this because I can't find a good answer on Google. I tested positive for HSV 2 about 3 months ago. When I contacted the girl who gave it to me, she went to her OBGYN, got the full run of tests, and said all of her results came back negative. I guess usually the next step would be to contact any other partners I may have had, but she was the only person I've been with in years. My question is, is a false negative on a blood test for herpes possible??
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