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  1. Take a blood work. It will say if you have antibodies. It is extremly reliable after 3 months of last exposure.
  2. You shouldn't feel bad. You proceded like the text-book. It's normal that you feel bad about it, but don't let it take your energy since you acted un the right way. As a man, I can tell you that he is probably having all the thoughts we have when we get the virus: - Nobody is gonna love me. - I am dirty. - How did I allow this in my life. - This is my fault. - I'll have this for the rest of my life. - Everybody is gonna make fun of me. - I don't want people to know about it. - Should I stay in this relationship? I don't want to disclose this to a new person. If he likes you, he will come back with you. Just let him think and give him space. I would suggest that you can tell him how you feel, without making a drama: that you like him; that you took care of him as much as you could, but it happened; you can imagine how he feels; that you feel bad; that you liked him since the beggining and disclose it as a sign of respect; that you still respect him; that you want to be with him; that you respect his decision. You did right and he knows he can't blame you. You got all his respect because of it as I can imagine when I read your story. I think he is processing how it will be having the virus, and assuming the condition, maybe. That's a possible interpretation. In my case, the woman didn't disclose it to me. She disclosed ir after months in the relationship. I really loved her. In my case, not disclosing was the reason I ended the relationship. I couldn't forgive it and I still think that if she had disclosed before being with her, I'd have been with her. I hope your guy figures out how he feels soon. Regards,
  3. If I were you, I'd stop thinking about it. 80% of population has HSV-1. What if he had it and doesn't know it? What if he got it when he was a kid? What if he already got it and won't get it genitally? What if... What if... What if There are always chances, but there are chances he already has it, etc. HSV-1 is really common, and you can't know if he didn't get tested before bbeing with you, or if he gets tested now. I'd suugest you to ask him to get tested. Also, the frequence of outbreaks you have are high. Are you sure you have HSV-1 and not HSV-2? Normally, HSV-1 genital outbreaks are not often (1.2 per year) and just occur in the first 1-2 years, since HSV-1 doesn't really like the sacral ganglia. Regards,
  4. And also, you get HSV-1 genital when you didn't acquire HSV-1 oral before. If your first exposure to the virus is with oral sex, that's when you get HSV-1 genital.
  5. Transmission of HSV-1 genital to genital is extremely rare. Viral shedding of HSV-1 genital herpes is less than 2%. You get HSV-1 from oral sex if you have HSV-1 oral. If he never got tested before being with you, you can't know. 80% of population already has HSV-1.
  6. IGG test are highly reliable after 6 months of exposure. My suggestion is to get a swab test when you get an outbreak. The other way if you want to really know if you in fact have herpes, take the UW Western Blot test. That's the golden standard test for herpes. I would suggest that you don't have herpes and you have anonther condition. There are several conditions that can be mistaken for herpes. Regards,
  7. Hi, I'd like to tell you that having genital HSV-1 is different than genital HSV-2. 50-80% of americans already have oral HSV-1. Once you get it orally (normally during chilhood), you build inmunity to get it in other places. Viral shedding of genital HSV-1 is extremly low (1-2%) compared to gential hsv-2 (12-20%). According to Terry Warren, a well known researcher about herpes, transmission of genital HSV-1 does not occur (or it is extremly rare) from genital to genital contact. It occurs from oral sex. Outbreaks with genital hsv-1 are less common. Normally, it is 1.2 per year, in the worst cases. Therefore: 1. Don't be afraid to transmit it to your next partner. The chances your next partner already has HSV-1 is high. Just ask him to get tested. 2. DOn't be afraid of outbreaks.
  8. Hi Brii, You are not alone on this. THe answer is NO. Your kids won't get it sharing spoons or towels. It is skin to skin contact. Regarding Herpes 1, 50-80% of americans already have it. If your kids don't catch it from you, they will end up catching it from kissing in the future. About herpes-2. Well. I'd suggest to ask your partner to get tested and know if you both have it, so you can make choices about your sex life. Check this video, you will get all the informatino you need from Terry Warren. SHe is one of the best researchers and experts about herpes. If you like it, keeo watching interviews with her. There is a podcast with her in this website. Other well known researcher is Peter Leone. Here I attache the link as well. THe only advise I can give you, STOP looking for information in internet from people that don't know about it. Even doctors are ignorant about it.
  9. The easy answer for this is, "try to remember how you felt when you were diagnosed with herpes, when you found it out, when you felt disrespected". He has all the right to hate you, to never talk to you again, to forgive you, to stop talking to you, etc. That's up to him. I remember the person who gave it to me when I asked her what she feels about the guy that gave her herpes whitout disclosing. Her answer was "hate". She still felt hate after 10 years. My answer was, "so what do you expect from me if you treated me in the same way he treated you". These are lessons. Apologize and move on. Everybody makes mistakes. It seems that every H+ has done this at least once. Be kind with you, you are human. And think that maybe, you will practice "consent" from now on.
  10. The answer is YES. Once you get it, viral shedding occurs on your genitalia, not just where you got it. Studies show it when they study viral shedding and swab genitalia every day for a year, when you have and don't have outbreaks.
  11. NO problem. I'm glad I helped you. So, yeah. Disclosing HSV-1 genital is even more controversial than disclosing hsv-2 genital. Scientifically, you won't transmit HSV-1 genitally from genital to genital. Also, the chances your next partner has it are high. As you listened to this researcher in the podcast, she said, "I don't know if you should disclose hsv-1 before kissing, but you should disclose it if you are gonna perform oral sex". It gets complicated, isn't it? That's why I said "Disclosure of genital hsv-1 is more trust than transmission".
  12. NO problem. I'm glad I helped you. So, yeah. Disclosing HSV-1 genital is even more controversial than disclosing hsv-2 genital. Scientifically, you won't transmit HSV-1 genitally from genital to genital. Also, the chances your next partner has it are high. As you listened to this researcher in the podcast, she said, "I don't know if you should disclose hsv-1 before kissing, but you should disclose it if you are gonna perform oral sex". It gets complicated, isn't it? That's why I said "Disclosure of genital hsv-1 is more trust than transmission".
  13. Yes. No problem. I don't know if you are into science, but HSV-1 genital shedding is 2% of days, while hsv2 genital shedding is 17%. That's why. Transmission of genital hsv-1 occurs from oral sex. Also, the chances your next partner has hsv-1 are 50% at least. If he already has hsv-1, he wont't get it. Once you get it and build antibodies after 6 months-one year, you are not likely to get it in other place of your body. Also, if you don't get an outbreak in the next year with genital HSV-1, you are 80% likely to never again have one. Probably you also wanna know if your partner has hsv-2? So you should take care of yourself. I don't know if you are into science, but here are two helpful links: https://www.std.uw.edu/pdf/pathogen-based/hsv/core-concept/all REgards,
  14. HI, Yes. Every person who catches it gets the dilemma you are dealing with. However, I would approach in a different way: 1. I got genital herpes, but the nicer one. HSV-1. The recurrences are low. Worst case scenario is one per year. Most people have just one outbreak of HSV-1 and nothing else. 2. Viral shedding of genital HSV-1 is so low and transmission is barely insignificant, that disclosure of genital HSV-1 is more trust than transmission. Genital to genital transmission of HSV-1 is extremly rare. 3. 80% of the population has HSV-1, 67% or 50% of americans has it. I just need to ask my partner to get tested, the chances he has HSV-1 are high. 4. Get into a bus, imagine you are in a stadium. Imagine that at leat, half of the stadium has HSV-1. 5. Blame your parents for not kising you enough when you were a kid so you didn't catch it and your first exposure to the virus was with oral sex. Stop thinking soooo long and beging to make it short in your mind. Accept that you got it.
  15. Yes. You should get tested again. Scores between 1.1 and 3.5 have around 50% chance of being wrong. To be sure in a herpes blood test, you should do the test 3 months after last exposure. Or you can get the western blot test offered by the UNiversity of Washington. This is the gold standartd test for herpes, and it's normally used by people that get scores like yours, to be sure. IGM is worthless, don't pay attention to that. IGG is the most accurate. Yes. It can be a recent infection. If when you get tested again, you get a positive result, you can make the math and know, maybe, who gave it to you. There is no "I was exposed to the virus". You have it, or you don't have it. There is no cure. Once your IGG confirms a positive result, you have the virus and you can shed and transmit it, even with no symptoms. Regards,
  16. No problem. I recommend you to watch a podcast in youtube or in this website about Terry Warren, a well know researcher about herpes. There you will understand the differences. When you get knowledge, you stop being afraid of the virus. Yes, it is important to know your status and his status. If both have hsv1 and hsv2, fuck it. There is no ping-pong. If you don't have hsv-1, what's the problem? 80 % of the population has hsv-1. If he doesn't have hsv-2, you can talk about how to take care about transmission. If he doesn't have hsv-2, but he has hsv-1, he is most likely to be assymptomatic hsv-2 if he catches it since there is cross protection when you already have one type. etc., etc. Educate your self as much as possible about the virus. Watch podcast an read articles written by Terry Warren or Peter Leone. They are the best researches in this topic. Other sites, videos, I don't recommend it. It's al confusing and even doctors don't know the differences.
  17. Yes. You should get tested again. Scores between 1.1 and 3.5 have around 50% chance of being wrong in a herpesselect test. Make sure you get tested three months after the last exposure to make sure you give time to your body to build antibodies and shoe up in the test. Another option is to take the western blot test offered by the University of Washington. This test is the standard gold test and people with those values you got often take this test to make sure they have the virus or not.
  18. Most likely. A swab test from the sore is more relaiable and it is recomended when you go to the doctor with symptoms. If it was a primary infection, yes. When you catch the virus for the first time, it can take from 21 days up to three months to show a positive blood test. Science is science and nothing is 100%. You can take the blood test, three months or more after last exposure to confirm if it makes you fell better psychologically.
  19. Your doctor lied. YES! You can know which type of herpes you and yourboyfriend have. Doctors don't want you to know if you have it if you are assymptomatic. Get tested. It's your right. If the doctor doesn't agree, you can pay by yourself in any lab and do it without the need of a doctor. Genital HSV-1 is different than HSV-2 in the recurrence of outbreaks and viral shedding.
  20. There are podcasts with Terry Warren, who is one of the top researchers about herpes. There are two here, and other one in youtube. Try to watch them. I remember her saying that making a test while getting antiviral medication can come back negative. I would suggest to make a new test, just IGG. IGM is worthless. Make sure it is three months after the last exposure at least.
  21. Yes. He can do it, and it is not a obligation to have sores to get tested. He can say: 1. I know that it is a recommendation not to test, but I do want to know it. I am informed that if I want it, I can request it. 2. My partner has it, and I'd like to know my status so we can take decissions about our sex life. 3. If it is sooo odifficult to get a test. Just pay for it on QuestDiagnostic or another lab for it. I think it's like $120. No need to go with a doctor. What I said (haha): "I read about the recommendation, but I am not American! I want to know! I have to tell my future partners"
  22. Thanks for your comment. I think a lot of psycholgy plays a big part on it; and it depends on every person how to do it. In my case, I experience symptoms in a way I don't approach it as a skin condition; probably that's why I don't disclose talking about an overrated skin condition. It is not a bid deal, but I don't want to make a woman feel regret if their symptoms are like mine or worse. I agree with you, it is important for the partner to really understand the virus. I feel that their decission should come with a good knowledge of the virus. I think it should happen to some people that they accept it and after they do a deeper research and change of mind. So I don't want that to happen. I liked your phrase "I don't want to play a part in minimalizzing the risk". I'm glad I found someone that shares the same with me. Regards,
  23. Hi Riseandfall, I've been hsv-2 postive for 5 years. I felt like you for 6 months, but you feel like this after 2 and a half years. I can share with you what I did to change it and cope with it: 1. Knowledge. I understood the virus completely well. I read academic papers and watched interviews with Terry Warren and other guy I don't remember the name. They are academics that study the virus for years. It's incredible how doctors don't even know about the virus, just that it is contagious with breakouts and that give you acyvlocir. 2. If I were you, I wouldn't even care about having Ghsv-1 because of knowledge: - HSV-1 has between 50% and 80% of the population. It is super common. Most of it is oral. So, just imagine that you are in a basketball game in a stadium. Imagine that at least half people in the stadium has hsv-1. Do it everytime, in the bus, in the street. - It is so common and 80% of people don't even know they have it. The chances of your next partner having hsv-1 are at least 50%. All you need to do is to ask him to get tested, if he already has it. Fuck it. It does not matter. If he has oral hsv-1. He won't get hsv-1 in his genitalia. If you have oral hsv-1 you build protection to get it in other sites. - Even if he does not have it. The chances of him getting hsv-1 are completely low. Look: + Viral shedding of genital hsv-2 is 15-30% of the times. + Probabilities of transmitting hsv-2 genital from women to men are 4% without a condom and no symptoms. + Viral shedding of genital hsv-1 is 1%-3%. + Imagine with that viral shedding in G-hsv-1, what the probability of transmission is. it is almost nothing. + I remember this phrase of Terry Warren: Genital hsv-1 disclosure is more trust than transmission. I also remember saying that she has not seen a case of hsv-1 genital to genital transmission. + Transmission of hsv-1 to genital is from oral sex in a person that does not have already hsv-1. + Blame your mom, dad, uncle, grandpa that did not kiss you enough when you were a kid and did not give you oral hsv-1. + Average breakouts of genital hsv-1 are 1.2 per year. Normally, in genital hsv-1, according to studies, if you don't get an outbreak again after a year and a half, you can be 80% sure that you won't have an outbreak in your life. Lucky you. I hate you. I deal with 3-6 outbreaks per year :). I hate you! Just try to get all the information you need, but the right information. Every site, every you tube video, every doctor says a different thing and it is confusing. Make sure at least, it is an infectologist. 3. Psychologically: - With this information you can say to your self: "I was unlucky to get genital herpes, but lucky enough to get the nicer one: hsv-1". - Accept that you cannot change the past and that you have herpes and it is not going to change. Accept that it happened because of decisions you took and decissions the guy took. Accept what happened without judging. Stop blaming yourself. Everybody has secrets that cause chame as well as herpes. - Accepting that you cannot change the past happens when you accept that it was the result of a lot of several decissions taken by you and the other person; when you accept that you had some responsability on it and that you are not 100% a victim (unless if you were raped); when you forgive yourself for being naif; accept that you cannot change the event; don't think about ifs (if I didn't go there, If I didn't meet him, If I had stayed at home, If he had told, if he knew he had it); accept that you cannot change the guy that gave it to you; accept that you have herpes. If you read all the experiences here, most people didn't even know about herpes besides the stigma; most people did not even know condoms don't protect you from having herpes; most people did not know herpes can be transmitted without symptoms. Forgive yourself for being naif. Try to do therapy. Allow yourself to feel ashamed with a professional that could help you. To be honest, I would be like "I got the nicer one. I just have to disclose because of trust, not transmission. Thank god I don't have to deal with several outbreaks per year like hsv-2 positives. Fuck my parents they didn't give me oral hsv-1 and my first exposure to it was genitally. Thank god I wont likely have another outbreak."
  24. Hi with all of you, I am new to this forum. I just wanted to share my thoughts after 5 years of having HSV-1 and HSV-2. I would like to say that I appreciate this community and how fantastic is the support offered in this forum. I like the tools and skills that this website offers to cope better with the diagnosis and the condition. However, I would like to share some of my thoughts I have from my perspective. I would say that having it does not affect me. Of course, I get sad when I am rejected, it hurts; but I would say that I deal with it well. Psychologically, I am not going to lie. The only problem I have is when I have a very painful outbreak, I go to the past and remember how the girl that disclosed it to me after 3 months of dating told me smiling: “Even if you get tested you won’t know if I gave it to you.” Other than that, I accept it and deal with it very well. I do not get sad, anger, or depressed. I also deal with the breakouts, I get nerve pain and a couple of painful blisters 3-4 times per year. I just want to say that I do not want to discuss stigma because I agree there is stigma, but here I go with my thoughts: 1. Disclosure: It’s just a skin condition. Well, I know that a lot of people here comment that it is a skin condition. I agree that for the VAST MAJORITY it is, in fact, an annoying skin condition; however, there are people that really suffer with it. I am one of those. The nerve pain I get is painful. Sometimes I would prefer to get the breakout instead of nerve pain. Sometimes the breakout happens, and I thank for it instead of having difficulty to walk for 2-4 days and having to sit down pretending that everything is fine. The first year is the worst and symptoms tend to get better after that. Not really my case. I would say that it improved 40%, but it is still painful. By the way, I do not want advice of what to do with medications, supplements, or a healthier lifestyle. I have tried everything, and I already know my triggers and the things that help me. I don’t like to say that it is just a skin condition, I prefer to say that each person owns his or her own herpes. I see that a lot of people here share their experiences about disclosure, explaining to their possible partners the overrated stigma about a skin condition. I never say to my possible partners that it is just a skin condition. When I share this information about herpes, I say: “Look. 80% of people who have it do not even know. They are asymptomatic or the symptoms are so mild, that they do not even realize it. For most people (the vast majority) that are symptomatic, they experience it as a skin condition. However, there are people that get 2-4-6 outbreaks per year and symptoms can be different. I do not want to lie to you. It will depend on how your immune system responds. I experience it in this way.” I disclose in this way because I feel guilty if I do not say it. I feel that I am lying. For me it is a skin condition and a nerve condition, both painful. 2. Everybody has herpes. Herpes is herpes. HSV-1 and HSV-2 can happen in either place, in the oral or genital region. Well. When we begin to get familiarized with the condition and we make research, every person in youtube that shares it says “herpes is herpes. It’s the same virus, just in a different place”; but I think like this: “Yes, everybody has herpes, but HSV-1, not HSV-2”. "Chicken pox is herpes. Mono is herpes. There are 8-9 different herpes viruses." For me. Yes, HSV-1 and HSV-2 share 80% of the DNA and they present in the same way; but they are also different; and it is important to know the differences: - You can have genital herpes, but lucky enough to the nicer one: Hsv-1. The average of breakouts per year of outbreaks is 1.2 per year in symptomatic people with genital hsv-1. The average of breakouts is 3-6 per year in genital Hsv-2. - Hsv-1 is super common. 67% of Americans have it (80% according to this site) and Hv2-16%. People get oral hsv-1 in their childhood, normally with the kiss of a relative. So, if your partner already has oral hsv-1 and you have genital hsv-1, getting hsv-1 genitally is unlikely because your partner already has protection to get in another place. So, if it is that common, I think disclosing genital hsv-1 is easier. Two of my partners decided to get tested before having sex, they got positive for Hsv-1 and they did not even know it. I also did not even know I had hsv-1. I am asymptomatic with Hsv-1. I assume it is oral. - Genital hsv-1 viral shedding is low (1-3%). Transmission of genital hsv-1 genital to genital is unlikely. The transmission is with oral sex. - Getting oral Hsv-2 is extremely rare, just 1-2% of oral herpes is Hsv-2. Hsv-2 really likes the sacral ganglia. So, I don’t agree when people say, “you can get either type in either place”. That is not true for me. - If you get oral hsv-2, people get one outbreak normally and that is all. Hsv-2 does not really like the trigeminal ganglia. Viral shedding of oral hsv-2 is less than 1%. You should be really, really, really, but really unlucky to get oral hsv-2 from a kiss. So. I have hsv-1 and hsv-2 and I do not think that herpes is herpes. I think that yeah, hsv-1 and hsv-2 are fraternal twins instead of identical twins. They are a lot similar, but they are also different. I know some people will say “I have genital Hsv-1 or oral hsv-2 and I get several outbreaks.” Still, it is rare. I do agree there is stigma because hsv-2 is sexually transmitted, but yeah, there are important diferences as well. 3. Herpes as a relationship filter. If he or she does not accept you, they do not deserve you. You deserve better. Well. I do think that yeah, it can be a relationship filter to avoid partners that just want sex, but not always. There are good, nice, and kind people that will reject us; and we are going to have to accept it. There are people that can understand very well the virus, be open, and like us a lot; but they can also choose not to be with us because they do not want to deal with the anxiety of having the precautions, or deal with the symptoms if they become symptomatic. In two occasions, I met really nice women that really wanted to be with me. They told me they liked me and that they wanted a relationship with me. They took their time. I explained everything. They were open. They told me they liked me immensely. However, they told me after a couple of weeks that they did not want to take the chance even though they wanted to be with me. One of them cried. Ohhh boy, that hurts like shit until now. So. I understand the idea of herpes as a relationship filter. It applies to most cases (I think for hsv positive women more), but not all the time. I do not blame those women for telling me “no”; I think that they truly liked because of the person I am; I do not think they were immature. I think that they are nice, educated, good, and kind women. In fact, I did not feel judged or discriminated for having hsv-2 by them, never. With the woman that cried, I felt we were soulmates. She even told me the same. With this, I just want to say that it’s nice to think that it is a relationship filter, I had experiences where I thanked having herpes to avoid women just interested in other things of my life and not for the person I am. However, these two times I really had to accept with all my heart that it is okay to be rejected by wonderful women; and accept that having herpes was the reason. I say this because there are people nice people that do not want to have herpes, and it is okay. Sometimes I feel this website blames all people that reject hsv+ people. Some people should not be blamed. I talked to my friend one day, he shared with me that he met his soulmate, but she cannot have kids. He told me he loved her, but he does not imagine his life without having kids because his dad died when he was a kid, and he always thought about being a good dad; and that it is difficult to him to consider the idea of adopting. He told me he ended the relationship and that he has cried for a month. My friend is a nice guy, and I cannot blame him for his decision. The way he thinks is okay. This is a parallel I can think with herpes. 4. Disclosure: transmission. When I disclose this part of herpes I say: “The virus works like this. It is skin to skin contact Std, not by fluids. When I have symptoms of an outbreak, I can tell you and avoid sex (normally for 15 days to be sure). That is the period when I am most contagious. However, there is the viral shedding when I shed the virus even without symptoms. It happens between 15% and 30% of the time. The tools I have to take care of you are a daily medication that reduces the viral shedding to half and condoms that also reduce another half. I feel empowered by these tools, but they are not perfect. The chances of you getting the virus is 5% per year if we take these precautions and have sex two times per week. That decision is yours. The woman that gave it to me knew she had it, and she did not disclose it to me; and I am not that kind of person. I can promise that I will always be communicative and try to take care of you, but I cannot promise you that you will not get it 100%. It is up to you how you want to have sex.” All the times I disclosed, I received respect and admiration for being honest. There were different situations: women that did not care if we used a condom; women that did not even want to use a condom; women that were afraid and still had sex with me; women that rejected me kindly; women that just said “no” with respect. I would say that I have been rejected 40% of the times. (Since the diagnosis, I have been with 12 women. I always disclosed). I have transmitted ( I don't care about using the word infected) the virus to three women. I know for sure that 5 did not get it because they got tested after we ended, and they contacted me after months to tell me they were negative. The rest I cannot know. Three of them were hook-ups and never talked again. One of them does not want to now if she has it unless she gets symptoms. Even though they accepted it, we took precautions; I felt like shit every time I transmitted the virus. One of them is my actual girlfriend. She gets mild symptoms and she never blamed me. She hugs me every time I have an outbreak and tells me “even if I know I got it from you, I love you. I love to share this with you”. When she gets an outbreak, we laugh. I say “Fuck you, you mild asymptomatic. You don’t know what having herpes really is. I do. Are you sure you have herpes?” I think she is my soulmate, but I also wonder sometimes what if I had been with the woman that rejected me. I share this because there are people in this forum that give optimistic hopes that transmission can never occur. People that say, “I am with my partner 2-6-8-10 years and he or she is still negative”. I am glad and happy for you, but it is important to know that according to academic papers, transmission in most cases occurs in a period of 6 months to 2 years with precautions. Also, I read people that says “10-20-30 partners and I have never transmitted.” Well. When I read this I’d like to ask: “Have your 10-20-30 partners been tested? Just because they don’t show symptoms, it does not mean that they don’t have it”. So, I have always made sure to my partners that transmission can happen. Even though these two women accepted it and we are friends. Sometimes I get sad thinking that I changed their lives, and that they don’t have the same sexual freedom (I accept that after diagnosis the sex life does not end, but it changes). I think that herpes is not the end of the world, you won’t die of herpes, but I do think that it is life changing. Going through the process of accepting, dealing with it, disclosing it, having sex in a different way can be tough. Every time I disclosed, even if I accepted it and had no problem, I always felt vulnerable, anxious. Several times, after having sex, I thought that I gave it to my partner and that I did not want that to happen. CONCLUSION I wanted to share this with you because I feel completely okay with the way I think and how I deal with herpes. I made therapy, several therapy about my problems and herpes. I like the concept of “radical acceptance”. It helped me a lot. It means accepting things the way they are and do not judge. I accept I have herpes. I cannot change that. It happened because of decisions I took and decision the other person took. I see the virus the way it is: that it is life changing; that it also taught me a lot of good things; that transmission can occur; that I can be rejected by nice women; that if I hadn’t, maybe I wouldn’t have met my girlfriend; that I am unlucky with the symptoms; etc". So, yeah, I just wanted to share how I think; that I see herpes the way I see; that I accept how people deal with it in different ways psychologically; and that sometimes I disagree with some ways people deal with it. Thanks for reading all this long thing. I’d like to know if some people think like me. Sorry for my English. It is not my first language.
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