I have been HSV positive for 20 years. Married and divorced and back in the dating game I disclosed to everyone and also got really sick of "the talk" and the rejection. I agree that so many people have it and don't even know. It's a skin condition that is more stigmatized than HIV. I made a decision to stop disclosing and then I met someone with whom I have been for seven years. He has no idea that I have this. I have had outbreaks here and there and take medication and abstain from sexual contact during these times, but I know he could still contract it. Or, perhaps he already does and has no idea. I have justified my non disclosure based on the fact that I have never passed this on to anyone that I am aware of. I have two healthy children to whom I gave birth naturally and I did not take anti-retrovirals during their deliveries. Now, after marrying again, I feel I should tell him the truth. I just have no idea how he is going to take the news that I have lied to him for seven years and possibly put his health at risk all of this time. Should I do this? I honestly cannot decide. I risk losing everything all over again and am not sure I can do it. The other option is to keep lying and if something happens I can just say I had no idea that I had this. Or, that since he is an HSV1 carrier (I have seen an outbreak on his face. I do not have oral herpes-thank God!), I can say that maybe he gave it to me. What should I do!