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I am not trying to be bring out the negative in having H. I have had to deal with having this since 2006. But I just found out some of the locals in my area know I have H. Fortunately, the people that know so far haven been very supportive. It's crazy when you think you've finally made progress in dealing with having H and then something so small sends you right back in the black hole you never wanted to visit again. I hate this. I want to have better control over my reaction/control with this already! Any advice is welcome! So looking forward to the home study!

Gotcha. I get it now! Thanks Herry!

Hi stuckinarut! I did the exact same thing to a man I cared tremendously for and told him after 5 weeks of being intimate with him. It is the absolute worst thing I have ever done to someone and one of the biggest regrets of my life. He was one of my best friends AND we work together. It's been 7 months since I told him and the only relationship we have now is strictly professional. When I finally found the courage and strength to tell him, I went to his home (his turf) and just put all my cards on the table. I explained how I got it through my ex boyfriend of 7 years (who didn't know he had it because he never goes to the doctor) and said I was really sorry for not giving him the choice. He was calm after I told him and I asked him if he wanted me to leave and he said yes. Two days later he sent me the meanest email of my entire life and after I read it, I realized I will NEVER EVER do this to someone EVER again. It was a really hard way to learn a lesson but I totally deserved everything he said/wrote to me. You have to be willing to accept the consequences of your actions. I totally feel for you and hope he doesn't get too angry. Herpes creates a roller coaster of emotions and most days are good but there are some dark days in there too, that is why this site is so amazing to have as a resource and for support. Good luck friend.

Hi guys! After reading through this discussion, I am a little confused. HerryTheHerp, are you saying if someone has HSV1 it's impossible to transfer HSV2 to them? Just to make sure I have my facts straight, HSV1 is located from the waist up and HSV2 is located from the waist down, correct? I take supressive daily therapy because I read it reduces the risks of passing the H by 50%, why would someone choose not to take this route? Are there side effects that I may be unaware of?

Hi simplyme24! When I read your post I felt like you were reading my brain! I have felt the exact same way! I just wasn't conscious of it until I read your post. A few times people have asked how I can still be single and that is my first thought, if they only knew what I had they wouldn't be saying that. Having H for me has been a roller coaster of emotions. Some days are great and others not so much. I agree with the people that responded by saying if it wasn't herpes that makes us insecure, it would be something else. It would be nice if we could see ourselves through other people's eyes sometimes. We just need to remember we are all blessed in many ways and we should focus and our energy on that and not the nasty stigma that is associated with having the H. Hang in there friends!

Hi everyone! I am live in Maryland and would be happy to chat with anyone! I am 34 and have had H since 2006. Please inbox me if you want to be buddies!

Hello everyone! I discovered this site just a few weeks ago. I also spoke with Adrial on Tuesday per my request. I have to admit since I have discovered this valuable tool in helping me to cope and become who I am intended to be, through this amazing website, has been SO MUCH EASIER since I have been dealing with dating with herpes. I can't say it made it a piece of cake but I have found that through the resources and knowledge I have discovered on this site have most certainly made me more comfortable with expressing to potential partners of my lovely story of how I have acquired this "plague" which is how I have described what I have to potential partners in the past. It blows my mind how finding the right support AND the proper resources to further my education on herpes has really helped me make peace with having herpes. I am more comfortable with it now; more comfortable with myself which I think is very important; if you don't accept yourself for who you are, how can you expect someone else to? I am excited to see where the (h) opportunity takes me and am happy to be part of the community! I am looking forward to supporting the ones that are having a hard time coping with this virus. Have a wonderful night everyone! XOXO!!