Hi. I am a male so may differ slightly in terms of symptoms experienced, however I have had HSV2 for four years ago now.
For about 18 months I had outbreaks pretty much all the time, I went about 5 days without one and then it would hit me hard. I understand how you feel, as I experienced what you did, however the best thing I did is spoke to the sexual health clinic, and asked to go on the daily suppressive therapy. I don’t know if you’re taking this daily? Maybe they need to increase your dose?
I have been taking tablets for 6 months daily now, and I haven’t had one outbreak. I don’t get affected by the virus now (touch wood it continues), and I have found it has given me a lot more confidence in disclosing.
I hope this helps you somewhat. Stay positive, it does get better.