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Sarah317

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  1. My man is married too. He gave it to me. He works away from home and rarely goes back because they don’t love each other anymore. But, in the end, he’s not mine no matter what he says. 
     

    it sucks. It just does. But you will get better. I think you and I should find ourselves if we are settling for married men. 
     

    As far as the Herpes is concerned, you will get over the shock. Take good care of yourself. Eat well, move, and try to find peace (meditation or something like it). 
     

    hang in there ♥️

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  2. 14 hours ago, NJRunnerMom said:

    I'm sorry you felt that way.  It's so hard at times, I get it.  I was having a rough night last night too because I met someone and the anxiety of having to eventually tell him about this was just too much.  Today is a bit better and I hope you start to feel a little better too.  Hang in there.  

    @NJRunnerMomi hope it works out well with the new guy!! Prayers for you!!

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  3. I was seriously depressed about so much last night; have been actually for a few days. I am usually pretty positive. Woke up this morning with my lower back aching and shooting pains in my legs. I’ve only had the virus for two months and was doing so well. I upped my l-lysine and made sure I walked today. It is what it is.

  4. I was in the same situation except he gave it to me. He couldn’t handle it and we ended it. If he’s married, separated or not, he shouldn’t have been with anyone else. Take it from me, dating a married man is playing with fire with your emotions. Let yourself off the hook. Only HE has any explaining to do. Be good to you. 

  5. @NJRunnerMom, I know that rollercoaster too well. I find that when I’m slipping into the lows, I try to reframe my mind with one of my mantras like, “I am amazing and the RIGHT love will recognize that in me.” I also look at the facts that @mr_hopp has provided and remind myself that this really isn’t as bad as my mind wants to make it out to be. I know my mind can push me right into depression, so I challenge it every day.

    also, I meant to post this on the other thread... I stopped the Valtrex. It was worsening my depression even taking it at night. I really don’t need it right now. I will give it another shot when I am happier and maybe do half (500mg). I just don’t need anything chemically assisting with keeping me down. 
     

    I’m always here if you need me. ♥️

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  6. I just wanted to say good morning and say that we will be okay.. all of us. I was diagnosed a month ago and have lost the relationship that gave this to me. He was unaware he had it until now. While losing us has been devastating, it was also necessary at least for now. But, as I push forward, I am feeling a bit more at peace. There are times when I still stand in disbelief, but then I ask myself, “Why not me?” Just like most adults my age, I have sex, and nothing can protect you 100%. No one is at fault. It just is. I will focus on taking care of me more, something I’m not used to as I am one of those people that takes care of everyone else. So, for this reason, herpes will be good for me. It also clarified some issues in this last relationship that weren’t good for me. 

    Thank you to all here on this forum that have been there for me. ♥️
     

    Have hope. Have courage. 

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  7. Your story is so similar to mine except my current SO (no ex SO) gave me this on my last visit with him. I too was married 20+ years faithfully. Stepped out into the dating world and was extremely safe. My blood work shows my infection is new: positive swab and negative blood. 
     

    I am so very sorry that you are going through this. I will pray your test is a false positive and you can start with a clean slate with your SO. Talk with your doctor about all of this. Even positive you might still be able to be with her. 

  8. It’s been a few days taking it at night and I definitely do better. Unfortunately, bf and I are on the outs. I’ve poured my heart into him and he is not supportive at all. True colors are shining through. Looks like this won’t be about us but about me. In a way I think it may be better in the end. But I am heartbroken. 😢😢😢

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