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  1. Hi Jespo, I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. I know how you feel and it is devastating. But it seems like you have a really good head on your shoulders in the way you are dealing with it, even though it's hard and it hurts. Also, it sounds like you have a good support network around you which is great. So you have a lot of good in your life. I had a very similar experience to you, over years, and at the moment thankfully I have tentative hope of happy ending. Feel free to reach out if you need. I'm not online that often but I will get back to you eventually. Good luck
  2. Hi, I'm not a doctor but this is my understanding: 1. Yes 2. Yes by 50-90% depending on which study is most accurate 3. No. Hope that helps
  3. I believe it is safe. I take it like that, so I bloody he so! From what I understand, it only activates when Herpes is active.
  4. Sooner the better ๐Ÿ˜• A handy shedding test would make such a difference for couples.
  5. I'm not sure where you are but look into Pritelivir trials which are starting in some countries. (Aus and US I think). It is aimed at immunocompromised or those who cannot take valtrex, so you might qualify. Good luck. And re sex, there are other things you two can to together to ease the "stress" ๐Ÿ˜‰
  6. Some of you might find this new positive ๐Ÿ™‚ https://upenn.app.box.com/s/qgwgns8p5xyjbn8v7tv1uidw1bs2xubb
  7. Thank you Allikat. I didn't know this. That is better than I though. Can you share a link? I recently learned that shedding doesn't make it certain you're transmiting. You also need to reach a certain viral load to be able to pass it on. The information on this is so muddy. I think my infection is more than 20 years old so I hope my chances of passing it on are very low, but unfortunately I just don't know.
  8. Thank you both for your comments. To be honest, apart from my last visit a month ago, my partner and I have only rarely used condoms at all. And I know they offer 96% reduction of transmission risk but my partners anxiety runs wild when we're apart and by the time we are talking about it , it is already out of control. I've used Valaclovir alwasy though as a supressent. I've never knowingly had an outbreak. It's possible in my twenties as those days are a bit of a blur but if I hadn't had the blood test nearly 2 years ago I wouldn't have known. I'd had a one night stand (with protection) a year before that, and was married for the previous 20 and my wife never mentioned it. It just wasn't on my radar. So I don't know if I caught it from the one night stand, my ex wife, or from when I was younger, in which case, why did my wife not get it (unless she was asymptomatic too). My partner now doesn't have it. She has hsv1 since she was a kid. And I have hsv2 but not hsv1. Sucky luck. As it stands right now we are broken up. And I am getting on a plane in 10 hours to be there for her birthday, although now I don't know if I'll see her. Chapstick, thank you for the offer. I am really touched that my story previously inspired you. I'll DM you.
  9. This is a little long so please bear with me... I've been with my partner for 2.5 years. The first year was all LDR (long distance relationship) because of Covid and right before we finally met, my SO asked me to get a STD test. I had to push for it but the doctor eventually tested herpes too and I was shocked to find I was HSV2 positive. My initial infection was either 1 year old or over 20 and I am asymptomatic. After much too and fro and emotional pain we still met up and we stayed together, had unprotected sex and she didn't catch it. We were full on soulmates in love. We then went back to LDR for another 10 months (thanks Covid), and she suffered a lot of anxiety about HSV in this time. We broke up several times but got back together. I got 3 months work where she lived so we effectively lived together for 3 months. It was great, lot so of love and lots of sex. Then back to LDR and anxiety. In June she visited me and I proposed to her and she said yes!! I was so happy. We both were. I plan to move there in January. No more LDR!! But since August there has been a lot of anxiety and we broke up again a few times. And got back together. On Thursday I am flying out for her birthday. We spoke today and she had been distant recently on texts. Today she told me she couldn't do it. She couldn't face the prospect of catching hsv from me. This close to my visit and also me finally moving to her city, this feels final. I am devastated. She says she loves me and she is very upset about this, that she doesn't want to lose me, but she has severe anxiety about catching hsv and having severe extreme outbreaks (like a friend of hers). I don't know what I can do because I can never say there is no risk. This feels like the end of such a beautiful relationship, that was gong to be permanent and it's not my fault. Not her fault either. I am distraught now. I hate God, hate the universe, feel betrayed by both. I am so angry that we could both find the partner of our dreams and then have this to break us up.
  10. Love this and Dr Jerome and his team at FHC. They also got a $700 mil over 10 years donation from the Bezo family which will go towards cancer research and others so I'd hope this includes herpes.
  11. Sorry to read this I think for some people it is really hard. It is no reflection on you, it can just be very difficult for some people. My partner sometimes has extreme anxiety around catching hsv2, mainly when we are apart for some time. But ultimately we've been together over 2 years and we hope to get married. So it does happen. Wishing you all the best.
  12. I take valtrex for a 50% reduction. I have not changed the dose so am afraid I can't offer any advice. I also use condoms which offer an additional 96% reduction!! Otherwise, eat healtily, take Lysine and olvie leaf extract. I don't have any proof of those last 3 though.
  13. It's a great question and thank you for asking. I'd love to hear what the virologist says. It could give a lot of relief to non hsv+ partners.
  14. Hi Xiscocaioss, Yes you can. My partner went through a terrible time after we had first been together and then covid restictions kept us apart. She had all the symptoms for hsv2 except the blisters. It turned out to be a combination of menopause symptoms and anxiety and she does not have hsv2. However you say you had an initial outbreak with blisters? I'm guessing you never had the chance to get these swabbed? 2 hsv negative tests does seem to indicate you are clear and possibly the blisters were something else. If you want more peace of mind you could order a Western Blot test if it is available to you. Good luck.
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