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Flowerteacher55

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  1. Hello, First I am so sorry that this happened to you. You didn't deserve this at all. Please know it is not your fault. The way you got H is not fair and is not in your control, however your response to it is. I am sure you are feeling lost and depressed, but please know that your life is not over. If you are feeling suicidal, please contact the suicide hotline at 988 or visit https://988lifeline.org/ where you can chat online by clicking the chat box in the upper right corner. Your life is worth living and you are worth it ❤️ Your child and the world needs you! ❤️ You can still have a happy healthy dating life with H. I promise! Myself and so many other folks on the site are living proof that this is possible... not just for them, but for YOU! ❤️ Reach out if you need a friend. We are here for you! Blessings and prayers to you, grace
  2. Hello! This is a great question. Often times you notice it more around bedtime because you are laying on a pillow and your ear is being "cupped" and the sounds are being magnified. Plus, when it is quiet, we hear the ringing much better. I also have tinnitus, but I believe mine is from my TMJ and sinus issues. I am not sure if HSV would cause tinnitus. It is not related to the nervous system so I don't think H would necessarily cause it directly. Depending on the cause of your tinnitus, the treatment differs. For some people they are hearing the sound of their own blood vessels due to blood vessel conditions, so treatment in that regard would occur. Other times, earwax removal may occur. Your doctor may also try to rule out hearing loss or your tinnitus being the cause of medication. I would head to the ear doctor when you can! 🙂 Feel better! There is hope ❤️ I am praying for you! ❤️ Blessings, grace
  3. Hello! I honestly have never heard of someone mention excessive facial sweating in relation to HSV. You may have a fever or perhaps a heat flash when you start sweating. Do you only have this during the day and not at night? Do you notice it occurs after/before something (maybe something is triggering it). Maybe start logging when it happens and what helps/worsens it, and what happens right before you start sweating. I hope this helps!
  4. Hello @LosingHope! I am so sorry for the late reply. I am so sorry you are experiencing these scary symptoms. Some of them, such as the loose muscles of the rectum and stomach pain, and even the night sweats, align with the gastritis. I actually have gastritis right now, too! The cramps have been terrible and I am so bloated. I had terrible night sweats the past night and I keep getting heat flashes. Do you know if your gastritis is viral or bacterial? That can sometimes cause symptoms to be different. Are the bumps on your face filled with fluid? Do they hurt to touch? And, do they leave a scab when they are done healing? The tingling and pain sounds like it is associated with the nervous system. It is possible that you have two+ different diagnoses; the gastritis, possibly HSV, and/or something else. Have any of your symptoms bettered or worsened since you posted this? I am praying for you! ❤️ Kindly, grace
  5. Hello! I don't think I see any HSV sores. Does it feel sensitive or painful down there, or is it itchy at all? Blessings!
  6. Hello! I am so sorry you are struggling with symptoms and getting a definite diagnosis. It can be so frustrating. You are so wonderful for advocating for yourself and asking questions to your doctor! 🙂 I would definitely get retested. In the meantime, it may be helpful to log your symptoms to see if something is triggering them/worsening them, and then that is data to show your doctor. I am praying for you! ❤️ Blessings, grace
  7. Hello 💛 First, you are good. You are pure. You are safe. You are not dirty. You are not a problem. You are not a danger. Remind yourself of that every day 💛. I am so sorry you are experiencing this stress. None of this is your fault. I'm sorry the relationship was rocky at first. It sounds like he needed space (totally normal) but the fact he needed space after thinking he'd contracted it must have really hurt you. If you haven't had a discussion about that, maybe it would help. You may still be holding onto the fear of rejection and him leaving if he contracts it, and in order to feel safe during a vulnerable and intimate time such as during sex, you need to be able to trust him. If you cannot trust him, reevaluate if the relationship is healthy for you. You deserve a healthy relationship where you aren't afraid the person will up and leave if they contract H (which isn't your fault anyways, you are open and honest about it and you practice safe sex/do what is in your control to stay safe). Your partner should NOT make you feel bad for having to use condoms. If he does, that is a red flag and a signal this relationship is not what you deserve. Stay strong and be kind to yourself. You are a beautiful blessing and you are worthy of a positive encouraging accepting stable relationship!! 🥰 Blessings! 🌻🦋🌈 grace
  8. Hi! Congratulations on your pregnancy! That is such a blessing! ❤️🙂❤️ !!! In regards to your question, that is really interesting! Covid is a virus, and antivirals are used to treat it, however I think the type of antiviral used (such as Paxlovid) is different than the ones for H and Shingles. I found this interesting article that talks about viruses and antivirals and it talks about herpes! https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-its-so-hard-to-make-antiviral-drugs-for-covid-and-other-diseases/ The article explains, “Coronaviruses are pretty tricky,” Seley-Radtke says. Simple nucleotide mimics like acyclovir won’t work, because these viruses have another protein that acts as an editor, monitoring the polymerase’s work, recognizing the decoy and cutting it out." So, I don't think they would exactly work or protect you from Covid, but I honestly don't know! I hope this helps! 🙂 Congratulations again!!! 🚼💛🍼🐣 Blessings, grace
  9. Hello! I love love love that you said you are on "team me." I am on team you, too! 🙂 Please know that you are not alone. Everything will be okay. Whether you have type 1 or type 2, herpes doesn't have the power to harm your happiness. You can live a happy and blessed life with or without H! Did you take an IgG or IgM blood test? Also, did a doctor examine the bump? I read your bio and I want to let you know that not everyone is a rude chump. There are some folks who you meet and disclose to and they are rude or narrow-minded, but there are others who are accepting and kind. Also, you don't need to tell anyone you don't want to, unless you are going to be intimate with them, of course. No one else needs to know your personal business! Not having many friends can be hard. I have a very small circle of friends, and I'm not the most social person (I am friendly and love people but I don't go out or hang out with friends often!). As long as you have one or two people who are wonderful and kind, all is well. Moving to a new place for work can be scary, but it is also so liberating! You get to create a new fresh lifestyle and meet new people. You are a great human and anyone would be so blessed to know you! Remember, so many people have HSV (many just don't know it, which is why it spreads!). H itself isn't a taboo thing, people make it out to be that way. Societal stigmas make H seem bad, when in reality those socially constructed ideas have no true basis whatsoever! Just as people create stigma, people can break stigmas (hence this website 😉). And having the power to change stigmas ... that is just awesome! It is really compassionate and ethical that you reached out to past partners. Take the time to heal in the ways you need to. Be kind to yourself. Hold your head high and be proud of yourself. You are beautiful, worthy, and good! Reach out if you need to chat! 🙂 Stay kind and be well! Sending prayers and blessings your way ❤️ grace
  10. Hi Michael! This is a really interesting question. I did not know there were different strains of HSV-1 and HSV-2! I am going to do some research and get back to you! Kindly, Grace
  11. Hi, @Liyah3456! This is a great question! It is still possible, but typically less likely, to occur. Do you have any other symptoms that you usually have with your prodrome symptoms? Blessings!
  12. Hello 💛 First, I am so sorry you went through emotional, physical, and mental pain. Please know that this is not your fault and that healing is possible. You are not alone and we are here for you 💛. Regarding him and having H; has he ever had an outbreak? If no, and he's never had symptoms associated with a primary outbreak, he is asymptomatic. Did he ever get tested for herpes before? It's possible he just assumed that because he never got an outbreak, he didn't contract HSV from his former partner, and therefore didn't need to explain it to you. If he has never had an STI test In general (which doesn't screen for herpes) but told you he did, that is a lie and I'm so sorry he lied to you about such an important thing. I personally think partners should tell their new partner if they know about their ex's sexual health history, even if they don't think they contracted anything. I also have sexual trauma. Getting HSV was like putting salt in a wound and bringing back all the feelings of dirtiness and shame I had felt. It was like getting HSV validated all the shameful and mean thoughts I had about myself. However, please know that you are not bad. You are not dirty. This is not your fault. Having H doesn't mean anything about you. It is a common virus. It doesn't define you! The mixed emotions you feel towards your partner are also normal. Being with someone for ten years and being devoted to one another, and then have this happen, definetely would lead to a break in trust, but not necessarily a break in love. Couples counseling may really benefit you, and having individual can help you process things from your perspective. In the mean time, focus on healing and setting up resources like therapy to help you cope. Communication is essential to heal this hurt. You will be okay 💛 we are here for you! There is hope and healing for you 💛🌈 feel free to direct message me any time!! Sending prayers your way! 🌻🌈💛 grace
  13. Hi! Don't stress yourself out by consulting Dr. Google! It only leads us to worry. It is best to talk to a legit doctor. Also, are you diabetic? Blessings 🌻
  14. Hello @nocluewhatshappening! How are you doing? Please know that everything will be okay. ❤️ Blessings, grace
  15. Hi! @AlliKat12 is right- knowledge is power! ❤️ I'm sorry that things have changed between you. I do not understand why he wouldn't want you over even if you had an outbreak... you can still sit next to someone and cuddle and enjoy a happy movie night without kissing, sex, or anything physically intimate! I understand that he is cautious, but it seems he needs to know the facts; you've even gone on suppressive medication to help soothe his worries, and that is something that you honestly didn't need to do (it's your body!) but you did it to help make things work, which is very considerate of you. Perhaps sharing the facts about transmission with him would help! Check out the fact sheets that you first got emailed to you when you signed up for this site. I hope this helps! Stay strong and be kind to yourself! ❤️ Remember that the way others treat you is reflection of them. Blessings! grace
  16. @Nobita Hello! People can live long happy and healthy lives with H! The only time H would likely impact life span is if someone has an autoimmune illness or they have a compromised immune system, or they have a condition that would be worsened by contracting HSV. Other than that, most folks should be good ! ❤️ Kindly, grace
  17. Hello! I am so sorry you are experiencing these symptoms. Your symptoms do not coincide with typical HSV symptoms (I am not a doctor, but I have never heard of this happening). The only time skin sometimes is darker or a different color in relation to HSV is when new skin has to grow in spots where sores were. New skin is sometimes a different color than the skin surrounding it. Or, HSV sores can sometimes scar, which can cause skin discoloration as well. Is the darker skin a different texture than the skin that is not darkening? Also, is the skin itchy or warm to the touch? The conditions that can cause darkening of skin in areas of the body where the skin touches skin (underarms, joint areas, neck, ect) include sun exposure, Addison's Disease, and even pregnancy, and many others. Here is a fact sheet; hopefully it helps! https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/symptoms/skin-abnormally-dark-or-light#:~:text=Hyperpigmentation refers to skin that,gives the skin its color. I would definitely see a dermatologist or doctor to make sure you are okay. Your health is important! Sending prayers and blessings your way ❤️🙂!!! grace
  18. Hello, Please know that you are okay. You will be okay. God loves you and is by your side. He didn't want you to get this. God gives us freewill, which is wonderful. However, this means we have freewill to do good, AND to do harm to others, as that person did to you. It is not your fault. I am so sorry that this happened to you. It seems the person either knew they had it and didn't tell you, or didn't know they had it and then found out they did and didn't tell you. When you started asking questions about it, the person acted cowardly and blocked you. The way people treat you is a reflection of THEM, not of you. You didn't deserve any of this, but, you ARE strong enough to get through it. Please know that HSV is a common virus. It is not a sign that someone is bad or dirty. So many people have HSV-1 orally from kissing, even getting kisses from parents who have HSV! So, having HSV doesn't make you a bad person. It just makes you human. You are not a danger to others. You are safe. HSV doesn't pass by simple touches or sharing a bathroom or breathing on someone. It is passed via skin to skin contact with the infected area during a time when the virus is shedding. Stay strong and know that God loves you. You are loved and blessed and He is here for you. Here are songs that help me and stay faithful: https://youtu.be/8iDuZv_5MQk https://youtu.be/jjaKKAsQc34 Also, if you are having suicidal thoughts and need support, call 91-9820466726 or 988. I am praying for you! God loves you and is here for you. He will never leave you. You will make it through this ❤️ We are here for you! Message me if you need support. Blessings, grace
  19. Hi! Honestly, I completely understand. I get so anxious and feel like I start to feel sensations or itches when I am anxious or when I hyper-focus on parts of my body. It is also normal for your skin to not feel the best or be sensitive after the outbreak, since that is new skin. Stay calm and be kind to yourself. Things will be okay ❤️ Blessings!
  20. Hi! 🙂 I hope you are doing okay. I am so happy to hear that the outbreak is healing! Shaving can be a trigger for some folks, it all depends on the individual. You might still not feel the best down there and that is normal, especially after a really bad first outbreak. Internal sores are terrible, I am so sorry you experienced that. On the bright side, you made it! 🙂 Things are going to keep getting better. Always remember how strong you are ❤️ Blessings!
  21. @Stefanine and @Accepting18 Hi! I am so sorry you both have had these recent relationship struggles. Remember that the way someone reacts and treats you is a reflection of them, not of you. A key elements of successful relationships is honesty, as well as complete listening. I totally agree that disclosing to someone really gives you the opportunity to observe a potential partner and how they react towards difficult news. Stay strong and stay kind to yourself! You are both worthy of love and you will find it 💛💜❤️ Blessings!
  22. Hi! Google is the worst doctor. Swollen lymph nodes are a sign of many infections, and it's common to get sick after being with someone new, or it's a coincidence that you got sick a week after intimacy! I'd say monitor symptoms and keep an eye out. If you did contract H, you would most likely see blisters since you would be symptomatic (you are showing symptoms) so you would likely see an outbreak somewhere. Stay calm and be kind to yourself! 🌻⭐
  23. This is a really cool tool you can use to find services and different things in your area! https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/domestic-violence-local-resources/
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