Blueeyedgirl02

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I think it’d be great if she decides she’s ready to talk with someone to have her direct message you, unfortunately I’m not sure she’s quite ready to talk about it yet- but when she’s ready it’s so nice to know it’s there. To clarify I meant that she apparently got it through her boyfriend (who has cold sores occasionally which I think is HSV-1) when he performed oral on her is my understanding of how it transpired. Both of us were unaware that that coupe happen, including my middle aged mother so I hope in the future people talk about it more! Previously we had thought its only transmitted through the actual act of sex with a genital carrier. I hope that maybe sharing this with her can give her hope that there’s still an amazing life ahead of her!

My identical twin sister was just diagnosed with HSV-2 yesterday. My mom, myself and her especially are heartbroken as we are just about to move to Boston to start college. A time that was exciting, meant for exploration and dating and study is now terrifying to my sister who feels like there’s no point in going on anymore. I am especially sad as I’m her other half- watching her and knowing I can’t ever fully understand what she’s going through for the first time in my entire life is terrifying. She’s only 18- and caught it from her first ever long time boyfriend who has HSV-1. She’s sad and keeps saying it’ll effect her entire life, I know she’s right but I’m unsure of what to say to make her feel better. Even my mother was unaware that HSV-1 could transfer to HSV-2 and now for doing nothing but sexually interacting with her long time boyfriend she must live with this for life. I wish more people had known, I know we both were surpaies with the lack of info out there. People don’t talk about this. As a young woman she’s understandably feeling stuck, like her romantic life is over and has decided that she can’t ever tell anyone besides my mom and me. She says “no one ever told us about this, if only I had known.” We are all very close and I will continue rooming with her in college- I just want to know how I can make this easier for her in ANY WAY. Right now she’s finishing out her first outbreak and I believe is on the prescription that starts with V. She’s having trouble finding accurate info on which pain meds work best (and now to balance that out with potentially becoming immune). what we can and can’t share (as sisters for clothes, showering in same shower etc) is also confusing. With little resources to find online besides clinical explanations and treatments, I’ve had a hard time trying to find resources to prepare her for the social and mental ordeal that I’m sure will come with this. I’m terrified that at an already impressionable age she’ll become depressed or suicidal. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated! She needs to know life (romantic, sexual) and general can go on and be beautiful for her! There’s a lot of misinformation Out there that is scaring her. thank you.