Firstly, I'm a male and it would be nice to hear from others that's battling / managing their diagnosis. Appreciate all the support out there, however they are typically from women who come forward. I guess it's nice to know and understand how a man go about their business post herpes.
It's been 5 weeks and 2, 5 day courses of Valtrex, and daily lysine supplements. I'm glad to say my mild symptoms have completely receded. It's been a frightening primary experience though, both physically and mentally. On the brighter side, things are looking up and I feel somewhat normal now, happy again and all that, better conditioned to manage the next outbreak... Thank goodness, it is what it is and definitely not the end of the world.
I suppose for me, now comes the next phase of the journey and from the literature that I've read online. It seems it's 10% for male to female transmission and about 4% vice versa, unprotected sex. Which is quite hard to digest as a man to be honest. Just trying to get my head around this fact. I mean, I see stories and videos online with women coming forward with their diagnosis however hardly any man. I'm struggling at this next phase because it's devastating to know that im more probable of transmission to female, how the physical symptoms are worse for females and the fact that there is a very low, but real chance a mother can pass on at child birth. Im really not sure what I'm rambling on about here, but I guess it will be nice to have a role model or mentor that's managed to navigate through these thoughts and worries.
It also seems that male to female transmission with condom is very safe, based on literature online, men tend to shed on penis / shaft itself and women more so on the outside of the vagina. (Sorry for the details peeps 🙂) would like to understand if anyone has experience in this space, I.e contracted the virus from male to female with condom which I hope is unlikely and the other way around, woman to male with condom (due to outter vaginally shedding).
It will make me feel better and more of a normal man, should I "hookup" with protection of course and not have to disclose. Provided the chance of man to female is close to nil, when there's no outbreak. It's difficult to digest and I don't know how to feel morally, should I always disclose and just the thought of transmission and the physical, worse effects it has on women 😞
Of course, there'd be disclosure if it was someone whom I think I can be serious with. In saying that, hookups is rare however just wanted some views on this and whether it's morally wrong, although all precautions and safety will be considered.
Thanks for this forums support thus far, hand on heart. 5 weeks in I feel much better and it's not the end of the world.
Take care ❤
P.S I'm from down under and would be happy with a HBuddy, message me.