valleydecember217

Hi friends! Hope you are all doing well and in good spirits:) I was diagnosed 3 months ago, I had my first outbreak in July and it was absolutely miserable - super painful. I was worried every outbreak would be like that and I would get outbreaks every month. Thankfully that’s not the case or hasn’t been and hoping it won’t be. I had my second outbreak(I think?) in September. I was sick with flu like symptoms, I’m not sure if this was a symptom of my outbreak or what caused me to have an outbreak (weakened immune system) either way I figured it played a part. Other than flu like symptoms I really had no symptoms or anything besides a blister/sore. It was not painful I honestly wouldn’t have even noticed if I didn’t check myself out everyday like I do just to make sure everything is okay down there(I have HSV2 genital) okay let me just get to the point. My outbreak was in a different spot then my first, it was in the same region but my first outbreak was on the right side closer to my vaginal opening and the second outbreak it was on my left side on my labia. It looked like a blister/sore so I’m almost certain it was an outbreak. I’m a bit confused though as I thought your outbreak will occur in the same spot? Or am I wrong? I have been having sex and my partner does know that I am HSV positive, he doesn’t seem to care. Could this be because I’ve been having sex? We have been having unprotected sex, we do not use condoms everytime. I also do not take any medications unless I know I’m having an outbreak. I have been cautious to wait several days after an outbreak has cleared to have sex, I’ve been waiting 3-4 weeks just to be safe. I’ve been kind of trying to ignore this and not think to much about it but it worries me that maybe he got it?? I don’t know. He doesn’t care and doesn’t like to talk about it but I would hate myself if I gave it to him. Thoughts???

Alright. I have been diagnosed with HSV-2, we did a swab and a blood test. I am finally recovering from my first outbreak THANK YOU GOD! it was shorter than I thought- I thought I would be dealing with this for weeks but it has only been a week. I feel very thankful for that. I’m in the scabbing phase and it hasn’t been bothering me I actually forget I have to going on most the time, just waiting for it to go bye bye. With that being said, I would like to do everything I can to prevent this from happening again, or at least as little as possible. I am almost done with my 10 day dose and my OBGYN did send over another prescription of valtrex for me, but she told me I only need to take it if I feel an outbreak coming on, but I’m not really sure what those signs were as I really wasn’t paying attention as much as I should’ve since I didn’t know what it was. I’m not sure if she said to do this because I am almost 16 weeks pregnant or if that’s just the case for everyone? She did tell me the prescription won’t effect the baby at all so I guess I’m just a bit confused on when to take the valtrex? Everyday? Only when I feel an outbreak coming on? another question I have, is diet. I have read up on this of course but all the information out there is a bit overwhelming and it kind of freaks me out looking on google so I thought I’d come to the people that deal with it as well. I’ve read that there’s certain things that can active the virus? How does alcohol effect the virus? Of course I’m not drinking right now but I’d like to know for when this baby pops out, lol. Is there any vitamins I can take to help prevent an outbreak??

@Flowerteacher55 Thank you so much this was a very nice message and I appreciate you very much. I have HSV-2, we did a swab and a blood test. And as for the one who gave it to me or I guess the one I suspect, he has been ignoring me since the day I told him I was diagnosed, he admitted to me he was sleeping with others and would get tested, but hasn’t said anything since which I don’t want to jump to conclusions but makes me feel that he is positive cause Who wouldn’t want to clear their name if they are negative? I feel guilty that I potentially put my baby in danger, I know HSV is a virus and not dangerous to the health but it could’ve been something else, I guess I’m thankful in a way it is just HSV-2. I’m absolutely dreading the conversation with the father and I quite frankly a bit scared on how he will react. yes I was able to get into my OBGYN and she definitely took some weight of my shoulders and told me how I would only transfer it to the baby if I had an active outbreak but we are going to do preventative measures to keep that from happening, of course yes if it is active I will go the c-section route which I have really been hoping to avoid so I’m praying god will be on my side during the time of labor/birth. My OBGYN also told me most people won’t even have an outbreak after their first, I’m not sure if this is true or where could I find the statistics on this? I do have an amazing family support, I mean only my older sister and my mom know as I don’t think my other family members would be supportive more judge-mental. And I have told one friend so far; I guess it really can be a blessing, it has made me think long and hard about who I can trust and made me weed out all of the “fakes” my biggest fear I think is telling someone and them telling the whole world; or laughing and thinking I’m a “hoe” or nasty.

I am experiencing my first outbreak and man. I’m ready to call into work I’m so uncomfortable 😭 how long did your first outbreak last? It seems as though they are turning more into scabs now does that mean I am near the end? Is there anything I can do to help relieve the pain? The pain seems to be worse after I use the bathroom. It’s definitely making this harder to cope this. I just want to lay in bed all day and hibernate. Will every outbreak be like this?

Im going to try my best not to ramble on but here it goes. So, today I got my diagnosis 7/3/21. I am 15 weeks pregnant and I just feel like my life is over. I feel especially upset/ashamed as I’m pregnant, I now have a daughter to worry about. I know that’s not true, my life being over - just from reading a few discussions on this site but it’s hard to think any different. How long did it take you to “accept” your diagnosis, how has it effected your life? of course I’m mostly worried about my daughter, since I was diagnosed at 15 weeks pregnant. I haven’t had the opportunity to talk to my OBGYN yet but I do have an appointment coming up a few days so I’m hoping she can ease my anxiety a bit. Secondly, of course I’m worried about how my sex life will be from now on…. I’m only 21 years old and it’s obviously going to be such a big adjustment for me I don’t even know where to start or how to deal with this. The father is not around and is not the person that exposed me to the virus, I don’t want to get too personal into it and one day I hope I can talk about it on here more but I am just so extremely disappointed in myself. I guess I’m really just looking for words of encouragement, as I don’t have very much friends that I can trust with this information. I’m worried about telling somebody and they go spread the word to everyone. I feel so guilty as I have been judge-mental in my head when I hear about people having the virus… karma I guess.