Misunderstoodlady

So I was diagnosed with HSV2 last year in July. I got it from someone I had been dealing with off and on for 5 years now. Im now 22 and have only been with 5 people my whole life so I know for a fact I got it from him because I had found his pills and we briefly talked about it in 2020 at that point I believed I was HSV2 negative when I was diagnosed it was a shock but not really but I did not see the point in trying to talk to him about it, I still am conflicted on talking about it with him too this day. I’ve forgiven him in my own way for me and my mental health but don’t see a point in talking to him about it because with him things like that just don’t go well… maybe one day down the road. I’ve had racing thoughts about having to disclose to other people and giving them the option to pick… I’ve been on valacyclovir since I was diagnosed and early this year was bumped up too 1000mg, I watch for predrome symptoms try my best to use protection even without symptoms and the whole 9 yards so my chances of transmission are very low! but with talking to my mother and sister who have it and friends who don’t but I’ve told believe that disclosure should be for people who are more than just a hook up or one night stand. I believe that everyone should have a choice because I didn’t and the person was careless but also in his own way said he tried to protect me from it. I’m terrified of being rejected or someone putting my business out there.. since being diagnosed I have dodged guys and hookups or whatever else for a long time. The stigma around hsv is crippling and not nice! But fast forward I met someone this year in may. I wanted to do things the right way this time, spend time together without sex and get to know him on a deeper level before disclosing and or being intimate. So all that kinda got thrown out the window after 4 weeks of talking and seeing him. We had been intimate several times after this… I felt horrible because with him I felt like if I were to disclose my status his reaction could go either way but I feel like he’d be more understanding and empathetic I still feel horrible and really like him and do want to tell him but I don’t know how or how to go about it…. Recently in June he got into trouble with the law and has been in jail since.. we talk almost everyday and I really like him and it is mutual on both ends forsure! I am just crippled with fear when it comes to telling him.. even over the phone but since things are up in the air as to when I will see him again I’m a little conflicted about it.. with him I don’t want to keep anything from him and to get it off my chest but also what if I disclose after the fact and we don’t work out and it goes bad. A lot of what if’s and fear is stopping me I feel like but at the same time what do I have to lose? It’s just the disclosing after the fact that is hard for me.. because I went through that and did not mean or want to put anyone through what I went through! he is my only new body after finding out I was HSV2 positive. So this is honestly my first go around at disclosing and I already messed up because it’s after the fact… I don’t want it to change anything with me and him but I’d rather get it off my chest now rather than deal with the stress of not! So, If anyone has positive advice on how to go about this please let me know! Battling with what to do and the stress is not helping me whatsoever!

@stayingpositive3 Also the lysine ointment flower teacher mentioned helps so much aswell! Ofc don’t put it inside your lady parts but the outside it does help tremendously!

@Stayingpositive3 sorry for the late reply but I have been taking my suppressive medicine specifically valacyclovir DAILY! And all of the above has stopped for me, I still have breakthrough outbreaks sometimes when I miss a day or have a trigger but for the most part suppressive daily medication has saved me from the worst parts of hsv! Hope this helps!

Thankyou so, so, so much! You are truly a life saver! ❤️

Thankyou so much! You have eased my worries in a way but I am for-sure gonna make sure he monitors any symptoms if they come along and we will not be doing anything until my symptoms clear. We will absolutely be using condoms next time and not so rough. It just feels horrible thinking I may have possibly done the same thing that was done to me to someone I am starting to care for. Dealing with this is by no means easy when it comes to dating and finding someone new. I am so grateful for this forum and community! One more quick question is there anything else I can do or any remedy’s I can try to lessen transmission more or possible outbreaks after intercourse?

I was diagnosed in July with hsv2 and began taking antivirals right away, I do take them daily but sometimes I do skip days when I don’t believe it is necessary, but for the most part I take them everyday. Recently I have been sexually active again with someone who does not have hsv. We had like 4 days straight of multiple rounds of unprotected rough intercourse. He knows my situation but I am still scared I may have passed something along as I believe I am having a mild outbreak. Before intercourse I of course made sure I was not having an outbreak and was taking my meds but now a few days after sex I am having Severe itching, very dry patches and swollen vag, small odor. I Didn’t have any tingling or any other prodrome symptoms that I know of yet I don’t have any open sores but do see a rash and maybe a few bumps (not ulcers) after the fact but I also shaved so I’m wondering if it could be razor bumps or a reaction to shaving and intercourse both? I’m freaking out because I am sure I was all clear before we began the intercourses but I have no idea if I may have passed it along to him…. I read that there is a higher chance of a man passing it along to a woman (hence how I got it) than a woman passing it along to a man!? I’m freaked out because I do not want to go through this every-time I decide to have intercourse. Also he is uncircumcised so I’m wondering how that may play a role… if anybody can Please help! 😕

What helps with the itch besides being on medicine like valtrex/valcyclovir? I’ve been on it for a good month or so and the horrible itch has not gone away! Any help with this would be appreciated! Thankyou!

I have a question about getting blisters on butt and or thighs, I had one big distinctive blister (not a ulcer, cluster of bumps with fluid) on my butt before but since I’ve been diagnosed with hsv2 in July of 2021 and even before being diagnosed I have noticed there has been a increase when it comes to my Butt acne. they don’t all seem like blisters… they seem like regular acne. But I also saw that the person who gave it to me was also having the same thing happen to him so I’m wondering if it has to do with herpes or is just butt acne? also does herpes have any ties to acne or anything with the areas of the arms thighs and butt and lower back?

Hello all, I was very recently diagnosed with GHSV2 literally last week! The first day I cried all day but my mental is getting better! I had a feeling in my gut that I have had it since October of 2020 but was in denial and did not have the proper resources to test for it and very mild symptoms so I wrote hsv off. I have been on and off seeing my ex boyfriend that I love a lot even to this day since 2017. We have never used a condom, but everything was fine until December of 2020. I found his suppression pills, he had scratched out his name and what the pills were but I could clearly see “hsv suppression”. I didn’t know how to talk to him about it so I just kept it to myself. long story short we got in an argument and I basically told him that I found his pills and know he has some form of hsv. He denied it and said he had shingles and some other bs. After that we stopped talking and stuff for about a few months, after that we got back into contact and one night he finally confesses and tells me he has hsv-1 and that he always tried to keep me away from it and more. I believed him because we never really kissed throughout the years and he never gave me oral like ever! I’ve never had any sores or symptoms orally. Also I give him oral all the time and never had anything wrong orally after that either so I am confused. Now that I found out I have type 2 and not 1 I’m wondering if he lied about have type 1 and really has type 2? I have had 2-3 other partners while dealing with him off and on but I have a strong feeling I got it from him because all signs point to him. I have been racking my brain trying to figure out how, exactly when and who! I still haven’t had the guts to talk to him about it because I have no idea if he will lie again or if it will go bad! I love him a lot and don’t know how this will effect me and him! Just needing advice and some guidance as I am very new to this! Thankyou!