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bluemoo

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  1. Thank you Grace! I’ve decided to tell him and invite him to get tested with me. Better sooner than later. I will update once we have the discussion and everything is said and done. I think my biggest fear is losing him because of this situation. We work very well together and I know the relationship is still new but we were friends for a year before we decided to make it official. So the loss of my boyfriend and prior to that, a good friend, is what I’m fearing the most. Everything happens for a reason. We have had good communication since we became friends, and even better now that we’re partners so I hope he will be understanding about the situation and know that I just genuinely care for him and of course his health. He did mention to me today via facetime that he’s worried about me because of the distance I’ve been placing between us. I reassured him it was nothing that he’d done and I was just going through a tough time mentally, he understood and told me that whenever I’m ready to talk he’s all ears. I love him and this just hurts. But I’m gonna do the right thing. I do appreciate your advice! It definitely helped ❤️ Thank you so much! -bluemoo
  2. Hello all, Symptoms of herpes (that I didn’t think were symptoms at the time) began for me about a week and a half ago, I got really bad canker sores on my tongue, I had a swollen gland under my jaw, and I had really bad body aches. The swollen gland and body aches only lasted for about 3 days. I recently began a new control inhaler for my asthma so I just believed it was my body getting used to the new medicine. Fast forward about 4 days I got a bump on my lip. I thought I had just bit and peeled off too much dry skin from my lip at first but it turned into a large sore, and a few days later another one right under it showed up. This is when I began to get nervous because the second bump was hard and had tiny blisters. These two bumps are visible to anyone I converse with and not inside of the mouth but directly on my bottom lip. Panic set in immediately. I currently have a boyfriend of about 3 months now and I am very unsure of how to approach the situation. This is not our first go around with a STD/STI situation. The first incident, we talked about it and got over it and we have been fine since. However we never came to an agreement about it’s source, i.e. he believes I brought it to the relationship and I believe he brought it to the relationship. We kinda just let it go and moved forward from it. About 2 days ago, I had a bump show up inside of my mouth on my bottom lip, it’s definitely a sore. A few hours later I noticed a white pimple-looking bump inside of my left labia that is actually not a pimple because it didn’t pop. It has been sore the past two days and it does burn when I pee. I love my boyfriend very much and I do appreciate him more than he knows; life has been throwing me curveballs these 3 months we have been official and he has been there for me every trip. However, I’m not sure how to approach this situation with him. Like I stated before, he believes I brought the previous STD/STI to the relationship so I’m concerned how he will handle this one if I disclose I may have the virus. When the first bump on my lip showed up I didn’t suspect anything because I just thought I bit off too much skin, so during that time I was still kissing him and having sex. But I know soon he will suspect something is up because I haven’t kissed him lately and haven’t been having sex, I have actually been very unaffectionate and distant lately because I am concerned I do have the virus. I want to get tested ASAP but I want him to come with me so he can be tested as well.. I just have no clue if I should get tested first and then tell him or tell him before I (or we) go that I’ve been having symptoms. To make everything worse: his birthday is this weekend. 😭 I want to wait until the festivities are over to spill, but I cannot have sex or even kiss him and it’s breaking me apart. I have been crying for about 3 days now and I just feel completely lost. I have never had anything like this happen to me before and if I am positive, this is definitely my first outbreak. I was pretty mad at my OBGYN because in February (when my boyfriend and I went through the STD/STI situation) did not test me for herpes even though I had asked for a full panel and told her I wanted to be tested for e v e r y t h i n g. When I do get tested, what is the difference between the IGm and IGg? How do I know if this is new in my body or if it’s been dormant? Last year was a hell of a year for me and lets just say I had a lot of fun but I definitely paid the price for it, so I wouldn’t be surprised if I’ve had it and it’s been lying dormant. I wanted to leave the past in the past but it seems as if it’s come back to haunt me. (only if it’s been dormant) Just really scared for my still new relationship, I care for him very much and I will be totally devastated if this goes into the wrong. 😞 Please help Any advice helps, thanks in advance! - a concerned and scared bluemoo
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