CanadianGuy2012

Then again, I suppose the entire "(h) Opportunity" is all about becoming a better person by rising above the temptation of lust and casual sex. Unfortunately those things are some of the few things that make life worth living. You only live once, so I'm making the best of it. I have GHSV2, I don't carry condoms because there no more casual G/G sex for me, I'm not going to give anyone HSV. Other kinds of sex are still on the table.

Oh well isn't that wonderful......that way we can make sure we all stay mired in the muck of self-pity for the rest of our lives. Sorry but IMO this makes abolutely no sense. Disclosing is the key to what? Everlasting happiness? I suppose I also have a moral obligation to tell a girl who wants to sit on my face that I have GHSV2? Even though it's totally irrelevant? While we're at it maybe me shouldn't even make out with anyone because it's possible we scratched our balls earlier in the day, transferred Herpes to our fingers, then scratched our nose and are now shedding HSV2 on our face now and we're bound to give it to anyone we kiss. Better watch those tears too, I'm sure they are just full of the herpes virus, gonna have to start washing my hands every time I touch my face now. Time to take a step back for a reality check........get real. Take the appropriate steps to control what you have and where you have it, and then get on with enjoying life. All this sadness, regret, and self-pity will just make you permanantly miserable :(

So you are getting genuine cold-sores that you have confirmed via swab test as HSV2? and have tested negative for HSV1? I find that extremely difficult to swallow. Many blogs are written by people who are living with so much fear and regret about HSV that much of what they write is based on assumptions. Go check out posts from nurse Terri Warren on the Medhelp experts forum and you will see just how rare, if not fictional, some of these cases really are. Occular herpes is 99%+ type 1 and even that is extremely rare. I'm not washing my hands any more than I usually have, my mind is grounded in facts, not fears. When the time is right a girl with GHSV2 is more than welcome to sit on my face any day of the week :)

What does everyone think about receiving oral if you have GHSV2? With no OB and no prodrome. There are no documented cases of oral HSV2, only people who say they didn't have any other type of sex and tested positive on a blood test. Docs who specialize in this field for years laught at this and say they have never seen a postive OHSV2 culture. Many say it's a myth. If we need to disclose maybe it would be just as well to get a tattoo on our neck or something........

Dude the people you spoke to on the phone didn't have a clue, but hey that's pretty normal anyways. I got a herpesSelect 4 months after contracting this (first OB 3-4 days after contracting it) and the test was negative, so some people can take a very long time to seroconvert. If she has cold sores she can give you GHSV1, you shouldn't let her give you oral while she has them

There's nothing solid on Lysine. Some say it helps, others don't, some say it makes things worse. Folk science I guess. Only the antivirals have proven to be effective. I feel fairly confident I can tell most of the time I'm shedding, of course I'm just guessing.

People can shed without breakouts, but if a person does have regular outbreaks they usually have prodrome before the outbreaks. In that case, almost all the shedding occurs at that time, so dating a person who is aware they have it is pretty safe. If antivirals are used it usually reduces shedding by 50%, which is considerable.

BTW, are you sure you don't have herpes? If you haven't been properly tested, with a modern IGG blood test, you don't know for sure. Lots of people never have symptoms. Food for thought.

I can give you a bit advice on the HSV side of things. It isn't going to tell you what to do but it might help you figure out your odds so this isn't always on your mind. Is it type 1 or 2? Does she get breakouts and does she get prodrome before they start? If she has GHSV1 just go ahead and forget about it, it rarely sheds so the odds of passing it on are minimal, if she's up for antivirals you chances of getting it are next to nothing. If it's GHSV2 and she gets prodrome then she will likely know when she might be contagious, just be careful and again, you likely won't get it. I got if from a girl who never has BO's, still doesn't know she has it, most people get it from people like this. Even from a girl who doesn't get prodrome, if she uses antivirals and you avoid sex during breakouts, no regular use of condoms, you odds are a mere 1-2% per year of contracting it. If i was in your position and the girl is worth it, I would definitely go for it :)

nmo27, you do know that people are 15x times more likely to catch HSV1 from someone who has it orally right? So for anyone who has sex, like a proper round of sex, with an HSV1 positive person, is taking 15x times the risk with the person who has it orally than with you. Lots of people are aware that 3/4 of the population has oral HSV1, yet people will jump right into bed (or just make out with them) without giving it a second thought. Ironic to say the least!

HaHaHa hot tubs! Good one.......ever hear tell of the big hot tub at Desire Resort in Cancun? You get like 40-50 naked people in there at once somtimes, our girls just sit on the edge and only put their feet in. If you could catch (h) from a hot tub everyone there would have it LOL! Seriously tho, I think the stigma will be broken when we pass the 50% infection rate. The way GHSV1 is growing I don't think that day is too far away.......

Hey my province in Canada does not do ANY blood testing for herpes! They say it doesn't tell you where the virus is, is not accurate, and is not worth anything to the health system considering how expensive it is. I have to drive to the US to get a proper test. That's bullshit tho, tests like the Quest Herpesselect are very accurate (95%+), although if you score between 1 and 5 without ever having a positive swab it's not considered definitive. If you score above 1 and you get a positive swab you're considered positively positive.

It scars on my penis too, on the top where the skin is thin and smooth, the skin is a different colour when it heals, I suppose over time it will fade. Polysporin will definitely help the healing, once the sore has dried up by all means use it, or whatever else you have in mind for the purpose.

Sorry Dee, I know this discussion isn't why you came to this board. Regardless, I will clarify my point, do you think everyone who had gotten a cold-sore in their life should disclose before having sex? If so, do you think this is a reasonable expectation? If not, how is GHSV1 and different than OHSV1? Three-quarters of everyone on planet earth has HSV1. Those who have it on their face are the ones passing it on genitally in more than 97% of cases, yet for anyone who has it on their face it's "just a cold-sore". Stop and think about that. This being said, I don't have type 1, this isn't an issue for me, but I just think society needs to rethink Herpes 1 and it has to start with us. Food for thought.

Three quarters of people have HSV1, most have it orally (on their mouth) where they shed the virus around 15% of the time. Those who have it genitally shed the virus 1% of the time, unless they are one of the unlucky few who get recurrent outbreaks, then it becomes a slightly different situation. But in our society we consider oral HSV "just a cold sore" and nobody mentions it prior to having sex, and that's considered totally acceptable. On the other hand, those who have GHSV1 are for some reason expected to have "the talk" before having sex! Why? They are more that 1500% less likely to transit the virus! I'm calling bullshit on this one. This is a huge double-standard that is perpetuating the (h) stigma. Sorry if I offend anyone by saying this, but if I had GHSV1 and was outbreak free I wouldn't tell anyone. It's everywhere.