My story:
I have been married for 14yrs. We have 3 wonderful children together. Everything was going great until last October. One evening my DH got out of the shower and I noticed a cut on his penis from across the room. So I asked him to let me have a look. He said he must have cut it shaving.. when I got a closer look at it, it wasn’t a cut it was a cluster of blisters. I immediately knew it was herpes. I said it looks like herpes. Then he started telling me he’s had this for so long and it comes and goes and that it’s no big deal. Well to me it was a HUGE deal as this is the first time I’ll have ever heard about it.
He claimed he got it before we started dating some 15 years ago and he’s never seen a doctor for it and just dealt with it when it would flair up. I asked if he ever consealed it from me to protect me from getting it and he said no. It just a secret he’s been hiding.
His IgG Blood test confirmed it was positive for HSV -2 and negative for HSV-1 (yes I read the results) .
My blood test came back negative for both.
Question: How could I never have caught it in all the years? He had a vasectomy 10yrs ago so we have never used condoms. He admitted to never denying sex to me even when he had an outbreak. Could this be a new thing for him? Like he had a affair in the past? He deny’s ever cheating on me in all the years together. I got him to start taking daily meds for it but I’m so upset that he risked the health and safety of me and our children. Also the fact that if I hadn’t seen it on him I would probably still be sitting in the dark.. what would you do? I need help! (And yes we just started therapy)
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