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  1. Hi there, I was recently diagnosed with HSV-2. I am still recovering emotionally from the diagnosis as well as how the person who gave it to me treated me. I'm a 34 year old woman. I have had such trouble dating and finding someone that I am going through all the typical thoughts of "well how will I ever find someone now?". I am very independent and have a lot of passions that I am turning to - though before my diagnosis I had come to a realization that a lot of my independence was rooted in denying that I wanted love and this past year I really opened up to finding love again. I feel as if my turning to my passions is a bit of a fake pony trick now with the realization that I do want love so it's lost a bit of it's luster. My real question is to ask those who have GHSV2 - how was their first year, second year, etc? I know everyone's body is different, but I am trying to understand what to expect in number of outbreaks. I would love some personal stories to consider. How long do the new outbreaks take to heal? Did you get as many sores as before? My first outbreak took about 2 weeks for the sores to heal with anti-virals and then 2 weeks for the "itching" stage to subside. I am just now in a sense of "normalcy" physically speaking. I started to change my diet quite a lot, but then I also found myself stressing over the diet change and decided that perhaps I would start with eating a bit more normally and from there see what happens rather than living in fear. I'm curious if any of you had strict diet changes. Thank you.
  2. Hi there, I also was just diagnosed with genital herpes this month. I understand the stories going through your mind especially with early sexual abuse (this happened to me too). When you are working so hard to fight those stories of feeling unlovable, feeling that the only way you can be loved is due to sex - getting herpes is like a cherry on top to a really bad narrative. The guy who gave it to me dumped me after I very nicely told him (and did not blame him) only to find out through my antibody tests that it was absolutely recent and from him (I had not slept with anyone else in many months). So it's hypocritical rejection. And we used condoms too. My victim mindset can't help but feel this is my fate. I had just started to feel comfortable with sex this year and feeling liberated and sexy, etc - then this. Please know you are not alone. And that these stories and narratives we tell ourselves are not true. Our self-worth is much beyond this skin condition and I encourage you to dig into those things that bring you joy. Herpes does not cause cancer. It is not dangerous. It's an annoyance. I found it helpful to keep this perspective in mind. We all will deal with health issues at some point in life - this one is not physically damaging, just psychologically. The good news is that we can change the way our minds think about this. Definitely seek therapy as I think it's a great outlet and professionals will help you work through the transition. My friends who have gotten hsv said their first 6 months were rough mentally, but eventually they let go and it's not a big deal anymore. There are plenty of successful relationships ahead of you.
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