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Hi everyone... Ive been gone for a while and been really enjoying life trying not to think about H at all. I dont know if yall remember my story, but i had originally gotten a positive result only to later get a call from the Dr to tell me i was actually negative that i had to just go back to get retested in a month. I havent had anymore OB like, but I know that doesnt necessarily mean I am neg. only way to truly know is to get tested again. Anywhoo, i finally have a Dr's appointment today with an actual OBGYN and im going to bring up the H subject. My nerves are killing me and I really just wish i could avoid this entire situation. My boyfriend and I are still happy and going strong. He did say if results came back positive (again) nothing would change, but if they were neg (again) it wouldnt change anything. I know i shouldnt worry, but i cant help to hate to be feeling this way again and wishing i could just move on. Anyways i hope all of you are doing wonderful im sorry ive been gone so long!

Hi everyone!! I feel like i have been gone for so long and like I'm missing out on some happy and very interesting threads going on here!! I keep seeing more and more successful disclosure stories which makes so happy because I have my own very happy story happening right before my eyes H and all!!! After all the freaking out i did at the end of December and begining of this month all i have to say is I AM SO HAPPY!! I am in the healthiest and happiest relationship i have EVER been in, not only does this man accept me H and all, but he has taken my son as his own. My boyfriend has made everything so public and official (which never happened the first time we dated) and he only seems to be getting more and more into this. I could go on and on about how happy I am, but I wont do that to y'all. I guess if anything, if youre reading this and just recently found out you have H know that having H doesnt have to change your dating life and you can find someone who will accept you and do everything in their power to make you happy, H and all! :) Oh and I'm still waiting to go back and get tested again to get (hopefully) some clear results on my H. I have missed all of you, and i felt like I had nothing to post about. I have been so happy though and i NEEDED to share! :)

YAY!!! I feel like I have been reading more and more happy stories about successful disclosures. We are all beautiful people who were let down, but strong and caring enought to risk losing someone we care about in order to avoid them getting this darn H. I am so happy for you bookworm I feel like from my own experience disclosure makes a relationship so strong. I am in the happiest relationship i have ever been with and i have H!! Im jumping with joy for you sweet bookworm!! :)

Ashley, Thank you for sharing a story. You truly are a strong inspirational woman! Your ex lost someone amazing and you are allowed to live a happy life with your family and friends no longer to be controlled by this man that never deserved you. Your story is something that has been needed because we can see how easy herpes really is. Having a strong woman like you as a remodel to show us that life does go on, and that life is too precious to beat ourselves up over a skin condition. Thank you again for sharing your story, you are among loving people that will not let you fall when you feel the shame. Big big hug!

Perfectly said! :)

Orngpeelmafia idk what it has been, but my boyfriend and I have gotten so close since my disclosure. It felt like forever before we even cuddled but he has opened up to me so much and I know that opening up amd talking about his feelings is very hard for him to do. He has always been so closed off. Any who I completely agree disclosure has only made things better!

Yay I'm so happy and so excited for you!! Lots of hugs!! :)

Dancer is right! I am one of those who has H- partner and its not so uncommon for H- partners to accept H+ pqrtners. Victoria is one of the H+ with an H- partner. I can also say that not only do i have an H- partner but he's been a very supportive, kind, and loving man through all this. Disclosure was my choice because I cared enough for this guy to not do to him what someone else did to me. I wouldn't forgive myself if I gave him this virus knowing I had it. My first thoughts when I had my OB was I could pretend i didnt have anything, give it to him, then we would never know if he gave it to me or I gave it to him, but when you love or care for someone enough HONESTY IS KEY. I hope you find peace in yourself.

I am a hopeless romantic and agree with herrys views on love. I refuse to be selfish when it comes to love and refuse to keep something that has affected me so much from a person i care so much about. I believe that someone will love me enough to stay. I wish you the best strawberrygirl! :)

@strawberrygirl i can see where you are coming from, but i have found a man who is negative and is still sticking with me. Not only do i have H but im a single mother. I disclosed to him on my first OB and he went to the doctor with me, and hasnt run for the hills. My biggest worry when i saw the bumps was "I know hes going to want to have sex tonight and if this is what i think i DONT want him to get it" that night i disclosed. I knew there was a HUGE chance of him leaving, but because i cared about him i was willing to take the chance. He has chosen to stick around not only because i believe he cares for me, but also because i have shown him exactly everything you have just said. i have showed him all the facts also ive shown him nothing about me has changed. Its pretty much everything you have said only including disclosure. Anywhoo Im not trying to start a fight and i completely understand where youre coming from. Just want you to know they wont all run.

I completely agree with Herry. He didnt suger coat it, but he didnt label her as a horrible person. In my personal experience before posting anything at all on this site i read and read and read through all the threads. I got a feel for what was to be expected from any of my posts. I think that coming into this honesty was to be expected and from what most of us post about being completely open @stuckinarut knew she would recieve an honest, but maybe hard to hear answer. I hope that she doesnt see us as ganging up on her. We are all here with open arms to help, and although we disagree with the ways she handled things she came to us for advice and Herry gave her great advice on how to get past what shes already done. When she decides to tell this guy shes been seeing about what has happened, we will be here. Whether he understands or not we will be here with open arms to comfort her and help her get past that. Again, i completely agree with Herry. We cant go back and undo anything so after we have made mistakes we have to move forward and try to fix them in the best way possible.

XOXOXOXO <3 :) You all are the best friends an H+ girl could have!!

Girl, no worries we dont have sex like we did once upon a time. It used to be all the time. We've only had sex twice maaaaybe three times, but I think not being able to just jump into the act makes us appreciate it way more when we finally get to do it. One thing i can say is he is way more intimate not just bang bang. lol if that makes any sense. I definitely feel extremely blessed.

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA yes, it happened something like that.

victoriaxxx, yes ma'am we have had long and awesome conversations about this and everything in between. lol thank you sweetheart it means a lot to have your support! It means a lot to have all of your support!