felareed

Hi everyone it has been a long time since I posted on here. Tonight I'm very concerned about my 11 year old daughter. When I had my initial outbreak she was 5. One night she crawled into bed with me and sometime during the night she lodged her foot in between my legs almost in my private area! At that time I was having irritated skin, probably an outbreak at the hat time. Over the last few years she occasionally gets a spot that is sore between her but cheeks, very small but painful. I'm so afraid I passed this to her, any thoughts?

I'm sorry to hear about your poor experience with the Fc2. I have had great success with it but I wish I could give some good advice on how to make it work. I have had no pain and it doesn't twist. My boyfriend cannot function sexually using a condom (a function of age...ugh) so luckily the fc2 has worked really well.

Thank you for the encouragement I really appreciate it. I called the nurse practitioner that our family sees, she is also a friend of mine and is familiar with my struggle with H. I explained my concerns with her and she was certain that my daughter did not have H and said that she would not do a blood test because it would be "over kill". Also another issue here is that if the worst case scenario was true I would be reported to child protection as this is an STD which would result in me definitely losing my mind as well as my job ( I am a social worker) and all kinds of other awful things. I simply cannot take this stress and want to crawl out of my skin.

Ok so I'm freaking out. My daughter, who is 9, has gotten some very small painful bumps on her butt. Today she said she had a very painful spot in between her butt cheeks. I looked at it and it was a few very very small bumps in a cluster, I can't tell if they were blisters. She said that when she pees and it drips back on her butt it stings bad. She has slept with me a lot when I was first diagnosed and I always tried to where pj pants but a few times I didn't and she crawled into bed with me and one time lodged her foot in between my legs close to my private area, this happened about four years ago. I am so scared I could not cope with the my child getting this from me, I don't know what to do with this anxiety.

Thanks Dancer, i made an appointment for next monday. I am extra concerned about this because i am in a new relationship. He knows my status but we havent been intimate yet and i want to keep him safe but it is hard when you have chronic discomfort but none of the typical signs, we know how sneaky this is and it has been said before how it is different for everyone

I also want to add that i have was diagnosed four years ago and likely contracted it two years prior to my diagnosis, i would think i would have enough antibodies to keep any ob short but this has been going on a ling time. I went to planned parenthood and they said the redness did not look like herpes but i just dont trust because from what i have read herpes can look like anything

I havent posted on here for awhile but i read what everyone else has been posting daily. I am grateful for this site it has been a comfort. I again have been experiencing discomfort vaginally and also in my rectum for a at least three weeks. The skin is red in the area between the labia. Not much to be seen near my rectum but it is always uncomfotable. I have been taking 500 mg of acyclovir daily for several months. With all that said i have vaginal atrophy due to menopause so i am unsure if my issues are herpes related or menopause related. I also have a history of having a fisure...ugh. I just want to feel normal down there. I have no sores or bumps. Any input would be appreciated.

I am grateful for all four of my beautiful children. They love me unconditionally which is the most joyful feeling, even more since this diagnosis.

Wow...my tears are flowing, thanks for sharing this experience, it helps all of us.

So my nose keeps tinglng, my head and face itch. I have had a blood test, I am hsv2 positive and hsv1 negative. Can hsv2 prodomes include these kinds of symptoms? Thanks for any input

Thanks for the words of encouragement :). I did have a blood test and am positive for hsv2 and that was three years ago. It is a long story but initially I had horrible irritation but they maintained I was not having an outbreak, when they did a blood test it indicated that it was not a current outbreak but I really do not believe that. Anyway I have been having a lot of prodome (sp?) symptoms and irritation which was swabbed and came back negative. I thought that the acyclovir and B12 would trump my very stressed mind, it must not work that way.

Since Christmas day I have been having issues with what I think is herpes presenting itself. I went to the doctor and they swabbed the reddened areas but it came be negative for herpes. I have had a lot of tingling and nerve pain as well. The nerve pain has subsided but the tingling sensations continue. When I was at the dr. I requested a prescription of acyclovir to take daily just in case these symptoms were herpes related and because I have started dating someone so I thought it would be a good idea anyway. The dr did say that I have vaginal atrophy (from menopause) which can cause all kinds of discomfort BUT I don't think it creates tingling. So I have been taking the Acyclovir for almost two weeks and have been taking B12 for about a week and now tonight I think I am getting a very small bump on my labia and it is a little uncomfortable. I have been under a lot of stress as I am starting a new job and I am really stressed about telling this new guy in my life about h but I thought the Acyclovir would have helped! I am in tears and just wanting to give up.

Dancer, thank you for posting that thread. I would certainly rather have herpes than cancer as well but it is shocking when I hear someone else say that they would rather have cancer, it makes me feel even worse about having herpes than I already do.

Thanks Herry, good information. Interesting though that the medical field developed a shingles vaccine and not a vaccine for hsv2 and 1

I was driving past Walgreen's yesterday and they had a sign out for getting a shingles vaccine shot. I thought to myself well if they have a vaccine shot for shingles than why can't they have a vaccine shot for other herpes strains? Anyone know why this is?

Thank you Dance your post gave me a lot of good things to think about today as I am feeling so much like this woman is feeling. The one thing that I still struggle with is your point about how many health issues others have to deal with that are far more devastating to their health. I agree with you except that what they have is not contagious. My girlfriend just went in for her annual female checkup, she is single and worries about getting an STD. She was so nervous that they would discover that she had an STD during her checkup. They did not find an STD but they did find a questionable spot on her mammogram. When she called me she said that although she was concerned about the spot on her breast she was just relieved that they didn't find an STD. She said she would much rather worry about a spot on her breast than having anything wrong with her lower region, she was specifically talking about herpes. Soooo a lot of people would actually be more devastated with h than they would be with most anything else....yep that is a sobering thought for those of us with herpes.

I was reading one of the informational blogs which was a question and answer article. The doctor stated that there is a "synergy" between the HIV virus and the herpes virus which puts people with HSV2 at greater risk for HIV. This statement makes me very nervous...what did he mean by this. It is my understanding that the only way that someone can get HIV is by being exposed to it through sexual contact and so I'm not sure what "synergy" means in this context. He said that HSV2 puts people at a greater risk for HIV than HSV1 which I don't understand either because if you have a cold sore and have oral sex with someone with HIV how is that different than having a genital ob and having sex with some with HIV? This is all so overwhelming.

Yes, there is no choice, if you have herpes you have to disclose. My point is that when disclosing many on the herpes support sites say "if you think it is a big deal they will too", well obviously it is a HUGE deal as described in this thread. It is a big deal because of all the emotional pain and agony it brings so to down play it to a potential partner seems ridiculous and I wouldn't be surprised if they laughed in my face if I tried to describe it as simply a skin condition.

wow...I have just read through this entire thread. Funny how when looking for support to disclose herpes to a potential partner everyone down plays it stating that it is really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things BUT this thread just proved all my fears that it is far from a big deal.

Does anyone out there have any information on how menopause can effect hsv2. I have been having more issues with outbreaks and also have vaginal atrophy due to menopause. Is it common for woman to have more outbreaks after menopause. I have been in full on menopause for the last three years, in fact the only lingering symptom I have is this vaginal atrophy which is a thinning of the skin in the vaginal area. Any input would be great

ok I am still stressing about having herpes in my eyes. I had mentioned in a previous post that when I initially had what I think was an outbreak my eyes got so itchy and watery. I had checked my bottom so often and than itched my eyes not knowing anything about herpes, than found out I had it through a blood test. Now I am having an outbreak and my eyes are itchy and watery again too. I have gone to the eye doctor two times when this happened (itchy eyes associated with an outbreak) and both times the eye doctor said he saw nothing in my eye BUT we all know that the doctors seem to miss this diagnosis frequently...appreciate any thoughts

I completely agree with Dancer. Although I can relate to your feelings of sadness and disappointment there has to be more to it than his fear of herpes. I had two relationships before I found out I had herpes. When I got the positive blood result I contacted both guys to let them know and find out if they had any issues in the past with it that they hadn't told me about. They both said that they had not had any issues but both agreed to go in and get a blood test. Both of them were negative for hsv2. What was interesting was that they both were ready to jump back into a relationship with me even though I had this new diagnosis. Even more amazing is that one wanted to sleep with me, get it and share my journey with this virus, the other one proposed marriage and three years later he continues to remind me that he would marry me in a minute (unfortunately I just am not in love with either of them). I think that this guy was ready for something new ( some guys have a short attention span) and used herpes as an excuse.

Thanks Dance and Victoria for the input, having support really does make a world of difference. A few things come to mind with the comments that you make. Prior to my positive blood test I did not know anything about herpes and would have run away from a partner that disclosed that he had it. I definitely have never been in a relationship just for the sex but if someone would have said that they had this when I didn't it would have freaked me out. I also did not know that cold sores were herpes and could be transmitted to my mouth through kissing even if they were not apparent on their mouth....I did not know this. I would have been horrified to suddenly start getting cold sores on my mouth and would have been angry with someone if they knew that could be transmitted and didn't tell me. So given my own idea about herpes prior to getting it I cannot imagine anyone ever accepting this if they are not infected themselves. Now that I have it I of course hate feeling like a walking virus that is people have to take precautions with to remain "safe". In one post on that I read on the internet someone stated that they felt that herpes was has psychologically as devastating as HIV and therefore would never be willing to have a relationship with someone who is positive, it made me feel so dirty. I really don't have any idea how I will ever embrace this.

Although I had a positive blood test three years ago for hsv2 I really haven't had to deal with it as I have successfully just ignored it as I was in a committed relationship and he didn't care about this diagnosis. I am no longer in the relationship and continued to ignore the hsv2 successfully because I have not been interested in a relationship with anyone. Well I recently met someone that I really like and now all the anxiety and shame of this hsv2 diagnosis is rearing its ugly head and of course I am now experiencing an outbreak which I am sure is due to the stress of being mindful of this diagnosis and everything it seems to mean. One thing that is so confusing to me is that people with hsv1 seem to have no expectation to reveal their herpes status why is that. From what I have read hsv1 can be transmitted to someone else's sexual organs through oral sex and obviously can be transmitted to someone's mouth.

I have a few questions about the transmission of hsv2. I want to start by saying that I am brand new to this site and am so grateful to have found it as I have not been dealing with this infection well at all. With that said I have two pressing questions. When I had my first outbreak three years ago it was a huge fiasco as the doctor kept saying that what I had was not herpes, there were no sores, they did some skin testing and that came back negative, they even did a biopsy and it came back as folliculitis which resulted from a recent hot tub party I had been at. I finally insisted on a blood test for herpes and it came back as hsv2 positive but they said that it was not a current infection. I went into such an anxiety state that I lost 20 pounds (which I did not have to lose), I became extremely dehydrated which resulted in my eyes getting very dry. I was constantly checking to see if sores had broken out and I know that there were times that I then itched my eyes because they were so itchy and I was not in my right mind and I was very uninformed about the herpes virus. I have not had a problem in my eyes but could I have transmitted it to my eyes at that time and would at some time in the future break out in my eye? The other question is my young daughter often slept with me at that time, one night she had her foot lodged near my butt, I of course had underwear on but I am very concerned that she could have contracted the virus at that time. Thanks for any input that you all could provide.