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  1. Thanks, he said it after sex, and before. It was something that we talked about. Ah, sigh, it's ok. Thank you Anna and hippyherpy :)
  2. True, I hope so. Went from "I really really like you and want to pursue a relationship" to "oh, I guess I never should have been with you." plus more damaging things. Things not to say! I tend to ruminate on things, I guess I will just need a little time.
  3. I suppose any rejection is gonna hurt, this one stings badly because of my history....not being told, having a monster primary ob. Doing the right thing and disclosing. But yeah, I understand his point of view. Reality struck, I get it, I just feel like shit. We were having problems communicating anyways, I'm going to do my best to move on. It's probably for the best. I do understand why people stick with other HSV+ people, it would be really nice to have that issue off the table. Relationships are tough already.
  4. Thank you Anna, I appreciate what you said. It's all true.
  5. I was seeing someone who initially was ok with the virus (well, said he was), but then changed his mind when he thought he might have symptoms. He then expressed regret about getting involved with me, saying some pretty hurtful things. I would of handled the rejection better from the start. Anyways, wondering if this has happened to anyone here? BTW I was upfront from the start, before anything happened. He said it didn't matter.
  6. I've heard the 70's look is coming back :) My doctor said the same thing, and she was pretty disturbed that the younger crowd was going hairless.
  7. My first ob lasted over a month, and for months afterwards I had shooting pains. Then for the last 2 and a half years I've had nothing, no symptoms. The first ob might of been a cluster of outbreaks, one after the other. Couldn't pee, high fever, chills, pain in the groin, enlarged glands, the whole, horrible worst case you could imagine.
  8. It's a little itchy. It's in my nether regions. It hurts quite a bit. I think I've blocked out much of my first and only outbreak b/c it was so severe and painful. If this Is one, it's no where near as bad. I use handmade soaps that are really mild b/c I get dry skin, so I don't think it's that. Thanks for the reply I'll keep an eye on it.
  9. I have a patch of really red skin, it hurts but there is no bump or blister looking anything. Just sore skin. I have done nothing to make my skin sore so I'm thinking it may be an ob? Has this happened to anyone?
  10. I've also heard that men are more accepting. To be honest I would of probably been pretty freaked out had my ex disclosed (he didn't, that's why I'm here). One friend I told said never lead with it, don't tell to "get it out of the way", wait for a woman to get to know you first. Not many people are going to take the risk for someone they barely know. I totally understand wanting to date within the H community. Then it's a non issue. If that's where you are comfortable that's fine, but I'm positive there are negative women out there that would be interested in you.
  11. It's hard to be optimistic in the space your in, it's new, you have been in pain, would give anything to go back in time... but things will get better. You may be one of the lucky few who never get another outbreak. I've disclosed to two potential partners, and neither cared. Sadly I wasn't interested in what they had to offer, but still, the H virus wasn't even an issue for them. I wish I could say something to erase your pain, but it's a process of acceptance, and it's gonna take time. It's something I think about everyday, but it rarely causes me emotional pain now (2 plus years later).
  12. Ps-Victorian Age practice in the US. Obviously I know Jewish and Muslim cultures have practiced it for centuries. It's a cultural practice, one that I think people should take a hard look at. Most European countries have very low rates, yet LOWER STI rates, and men aren't walking around grabbing their crotches in agony from infection.
  13. I guess this is a herpes forum, not a circumcision forum, but I really think you are misinformed Seeker. It's not healthier to cut off part of the body. It'a a violation, and if it was a girl, a federal offense. My first boyfriend was intact, never had one infection. My son is intact, never had one infection. I got Herpes from a circumcised American man. The US has one of the highest cutting rates worldwide, and also had one of the highest HIV rates. I get really upset when people think that circumcision makes people "cleaner". It's the same rhetoric that cultures that cut their girls say..."it looks better, it's cleaner, it's what people do." Take it or leave it, but I don't think strapping a day old baby to a board and cutting off the most erogenous tissue on their entire body is ethical. Also, it started as a Victorian age practice to punish boys for masturbating. If you have the time and inclination watch the following video, it's very interesting.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ceht-3xu84I
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