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I use it! I love it! I've never used it on an active outbreak, but I have put it on if I am feeling tingly down there. I have used it at full strength, but I have also mixed it with lavender. It burns a bit if you use it full. It prevents me from having a full blown outbreak and stops the itching and tingling. Good luck and I'm glad you found it!

Hi everyone! I've been a member here for a little over a year and wow it has been a whirlwind of emotion. I still have my good days and my bad days. I currently have an amazing boyfriend who accepts my herpes and all. :) There really are great people out there. If you ever need extra support or want to see that all people aren't so bad, you should do what I did last night. The Office on Netflix, Season 7-Episode 4-Sex Ed. Please spend 22 minutes watching this fabulous episode. I have had a secret crush on Ed Helms since The Hangover, but this completely sealed the deal. There are so many people out there that are ok with herpes and recognize the stupid stigma. Please watch it and see that there are people who do not care and that you are not alone. :) I promise you will feel better! Plus it is pretty hilarious! Cheers!

I feel like a letter would give them too much information. If you have trouble saying it, hand him a pamphlet or I gave him the information packet about herpes that the doctor gave me. It gave him an understanding what I was going to be talking about and I didn't have to give a huge explanation. he just knew. He can ask more questions later after he has processed everything.

Had you brought up the pain before? I had to do this and I started with, "Hey, you know that pain I told you about awhile back, well it didn't go away so I went to the doctor. I found out that it was herpes." (If you had a positive swab and a negative blood test, you got it within the past 6 months and that has it narrowed down. You can explain that. If your blood results were positive, you have to go back a bit further. You have to tell them anyway and if it was them, you can't force them to get tested, just bring copies of your test results and explain to them that you believe they gave it to you. They can choose whether or not they believe you. Good luck! Doing this was one of the hardest things I've ever done...practice on a friend first. It helps.

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Yay! Glad to hear it worked out!

@ihaveittoo1975 It stinks we can fear the unknown and the possibility of disclosing and being rejected by someone new can make us stay or settle for things we normally wouldn't. I wish you the best of luck in your situation and that we both can find happiness in whatever we decide. @wcsdancer2010 You're right. I need to do some serious thinking. All of these thoughts came to my head when he randomly texted me that he did not want to move to the city where I live. We are currently 900 miles apart. I really care about him, but I don't want to make him move here if I am the only reason. I am just too afraid of no one else accepting me.

From my understanding of the drug it is a "fake" copy of the virus that causes no symptoms to the consumer. It tricks the real virus into thinking that is has already produced enough copies of itself and prevents it from replicating to the point where you will have an outbreak.

My boyfriend does not have H and has had no symptoms of H so far and we've been together for 8 months. We always use condoms and I always try to shower or have him go down on me before we have sex. I don't know how that would help, but we do that. haha. I also make him wash off with soap and water sometimes after we have sex. I'm also on antivirals and I take ViraStop and use Melissa oil if I'm feeling a prodrome symptom. You'll come up with your own things you do to protect your partner and it will all be ok. :) Eventually when I get married I hope that he will be willing to not use condoms, until then I will always use them. To me marriage is for life so they should be more than ok to accept the 1% higher possibility of getting it. It sucks, but it doesn't hurt that bad physically.

I was off birth control and then I got back on it for awhile (4 months) and it caused me to have 2 outbreaks. I am now off the birth control completely. I was taking Microgestrin 1/20 FE. Condoms are great!

I have almost hit my one year mark of having H. It was very difficult at first, but I have accepted what it is and have a boyfriend who has also accepted me as well as my H. He is very supportive and if I ever have a bad day, he is always there to talk to me about it. We are currently in a long distance relationship which makes things hard. I have realized recently that we have some differences in what we want in life (he never wants kids, and I want them some day; he doesn't have career goals either; I currently make over twice the money he is making). I just don't feel like I have found the person who I can have all of my adventures I want out of life with. It makes things very hard because he is an amazing guy and he has accepted all of me and helped me so much through this process. I feel myself in this situation where I don't want to lose him because I don't feel like anyone else could accept all of me. That includes the herpes and all of the other self confidence issues that I have. Basically I want advice on this situation and has anyone else felt like they are trapped in a relationship because someone has accepted you? I also saw a picture of my ex who we broke up because of distance. He looks amazing and is doing everything he wants with his life. I am doing the same thing as far as my career, money, and the traveling I do. (I finally live in the mountains and make big bonuses (:) I have not told him about this in the few times that we talk. I plan on visiting him in South Africa when I go this spring and I'm really nervous. I feel like I might want/have to tell him. It is killing me today. We cared for each other so much, but I have a hard time believing he could ever care about me with H. I have cried many times thinking about that situation. I know I would have accepted him, but I feel like I'm blinded because we with H have more compassion for others than almost anyone. We live with this stigma that forces us to see the good in others despite almost anything. I am so grateful for it, but sometimes I wish I had this compassion without the H attached. Has anyone else reconnected with an ex since finding out they had H? I really need help today. :'(

I have almost hit my one year mark of having H. It was very difficult at first, but I have accepted what it is and have a boyfriend who has also accepted me as well as my H. He is very supportive and if I ever have a bad day, he is always there to talk to me about it. We are currently in a long distance relationship which makes things hard. I have realized recently that we have some differences in what we want in life (he never wants kids, and I want them some day; he doesn't have career goals either; I currently make over twice the money he is making). I just don't feel like I have found the person who I can have all of my adventures I want out of life with. It makes things very hard because he is an amazing guy and he has accepted all of me and helped me so much through this process. I feel myself in this situation where I don't want to lose him because I don't feel like anyone else could accept all of me. That includes the herpes and all of the other self confidence issues that I have. Basically I want advice on this situation and has anyone else felt like they are trapped in a relationship because someone has accepted you? I also saw a picture of my ex who we broke up because of distance. He looks amazing and is doing everything he wants with his life. I am doing the same thing as far as my career, money, and the traveling I do. (I finally live in the mountains and make big bonuses (:) I have not told him about this in the few times that we talk. I plan on visiting him in South Africa when I go this spring and I'm really nervous. I feel like I might want/have to tell him. It is killing me today. We cared for each other so much, but I have a hard time believing he could ever care about me with H. I have cried many times thinking about that situation. I know I would have accepted him, but I feel like I'm blinded because we with H have more compassion for others than almost anyone. We live with this stigma that forces us to see the good in others despite almost anything. I am so grateful for it, but sometimes I wish I had this compassion without the H attached. Has anyone else reconnected with an ex since finding out they had H? I really need help today. :'(

I'm gotten past the hurting part of being diagnosed with genital herpes. Now, I really want to help someone who is going through what I went through. Feel free to message me or we can meet up if you live close by. I am 23 and living in Boulder, CO. I really hope I can pay it forward!

I use Lysine, Virastop, and if I feel tingly down there, I use melissa oil mixed with lavendar oil and put it directly on the place my outbreaks occur and it stops them from coming.

Very very unlikely. Don't stress too much about it. :)