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  1. I found this on a website after doing a search on the subject. "Myth: I can pass herpes to myself from my mouth to my genitals if I accidentally touch myself. Fact: Once you have herpes at one site, it is rare to then get the same type at another site. This is because your body develops antibodies which prevent this from happening." I already had HSV1 oral bc when I told my gyno about my canker sores (which I kno for a fact I've gotten since h.s.) he said that canker sores were part of the HSV family. Soo could I have transferred oral HSV to my genitals by accident or no..?
  2. this is where i am now with my diagnosis. it took me about 6mons to get there, but thankfully i finally found my way to a positive outlook. i wish i couldve been like you from day 1 (kudos to you for being super mature and positive about ur diagnosis!!) it takes time for some of us, but hopefully everybody who is diagnosed with HSV1 or HSV2 can find him/herself at this point one day bc let me tell ya, it feels alot better being this way than feeling sad and hopeless (like most of us feel when we're 1st diagnosed, i was one of them) just letting others kno that it's possible to be happy and live with HSV..soo, if ur having a hard time with ur diagnosis, look at James here who is totally positive about his life and outcome and hear my words that I was sad and depressed and 1 yr later i'm happy and living a normal life now :) we have to continue to let each other kno that HSV is not the end of our story!! <3
  3. A yr ago I came here looking for support. I was very upset over my gHSV1 diagnosis and I didnt kno wat to do. My partners were both of them negative for HSV1 and HSV2. I just knew my life was over and that I would never be able to have sex with partners again and I also worried that they'd get tired of me and leave me bc they couldnt deal with my diagnosis either, or just couldnt deal with how it had affected me mentally and physically. I was just in a really low, bad place. I was very depressed when I 1st came here; I was even suicidal at one point during the grieving process I was goin thru. I realized pretty quickly that I was most likely goin to have OB's every month to every other month bc that was the pattern I seemed to be stuck in. I talked with my partners after about 6mons of being gHSV1+ and we decided together that I should go on Valtrex. I hated the OB's and I hated not being able to have sex with my partners whenever I wanted to bc of the OB's. And we also hoped that the medication would help relieve the HSV1 oral I had (I get canker sores in my mouth; always have). I started the Valtrex over the summer and to the best of my knowledge, I've been OB free, eversince. I can take 1 pill a day and live a pretty normal life while being gHSV1+..My life, turns out, wasnt over afterall. I am happier and I have come to terms with being gHSV1+. I read 1x that having gHSV1 was no different really than having HSV1 of the mouth..it's still just a skin condition..it's just that you get it most often from being sexually active with someone..and that really changed my negative viewpoints..nobody thinx much of you having oral herpes, ya kno. So to me, I applied the same thoughts to having gHSV1 and I said to myself: "Stop being silly about this. Stop wallowing in your own anger and depression. You have a skin condition. You're not dying. You just have to be careful and remember that it's contagious, is all. Take your meds and keep your doctor in the loop and everything will be ok." (I had really beaten myself up over the diagnosis, I needed to stop doin that).. Eversince I had that tough talk with myself, life has been a lot better for me. I want to be involved with helping other ppl understand HSV1 and HSV2 since it's pretty common and I want to educate ppl instead of scaring them (honestly b4 I got my diagnosis, I didnt understand everything about HSV1 or HSV2, I was very miss-informed and pretty ignorant about things when it come to that STD, particularly, everything I thought I knew about it, I really had no clue!!) I've even thought about talkin with the health dept in my area and seeing if they can let me be involved with educating young ppl (heck, even older ppl) about the risks and such that comes to HSV1 and HSV2. I have come a long way in the last yr..From sitting in my gyno's office, scared to death and crying bc I knew in my heart that I had HSV (I hadnt been told which strain at this point) and I just knew my life was over -- my marriage was over -- and that nobody would ever want me again. And now, 1 yr later, I'm ok. I'm living with it and my life really hasnt changed all that much tbh. I just take my medication and keep in the back of my mind that I do have gHSV1 and I shouldnt be ashamed of it. Infact, if ppl are talkin about STD's I'm pretty quick to tell them the facts about HSV. Soo I'm educating ppl, not wallowing in my own self-pity now and that's a gr8 place to be if ya ask me!! :) P.S. Thank ya'll for your continued support and your vast knowledge. If not for this site, I dont kno where I wouldve turned (or been). I plan to stay a member of this site as long as ya'll will have me :P and I may not post often but I kno that if I am ever in need, I can come to ya'll and trust me, that helps a gr8 deal <3
  4. hey ya'll. it's been a while since i've posted here bc things have been goin soo good with me :) i got on valtrex in june or july and i've been (to the best of my knowledge bc you kno how it is, every twinge you think ur having an OB) OB free for about 6mons now!! the thing is..my hubby has had a rash (or wat he thinks is a rash) for a few weeks now and tonite the gf found a bump on the inside of her vag (like right at the lips) and now i worry that i've had an OB and not realized it and we've had sex and i've passed it on to them, not meaning to. hubby could go and be checked out by our pcp bc he has work insurance but the gf doesnt have any insurance eventho i told her that my gyno is awesome if she wants to be seen by him..wat do ya'll think they should do?? personally, i think they should go and be seen even if only by an ER physician bc it'd really ease my worry (i have anxiety problems in general) and also it'd confirm to them if they have hsv1 or not and wat our next step should be. thnx.
  5. OK thnx so much! I'm goin to get my Rx asap.
  6. I agree it doesn't sound like hsv but definitely go to a gynecologist for testing. And I if u must have sex, use a condom if it'd ease ur fears of transmission..
  7. I have found that if u must wear undies always go for white cotton. I'd heard it for yrs to go that route but ignored it til I got my 1st OB and my mom bought me a brand new pack in hopes I'd feel better n I did :-) also cold wash clothes help n laying flat with ur legs spread can give u relief I've found -- try reading or playing a game on ur phone / tablet n just relax for a bit as u lay down :-) hope u feel better hun xx
  8. Hey y'all. I've had 2 OB's already but this x around I'm only experiencing pain..no bumps. I'm kind of confused. But me n my partners have talked n we agreed that I should just get my meds since I have an Rx on file n be done with it. I guess wat I'm asking is -- can u be experiencing an OB but have no bumps? Thnx!
  9. hey guys!! i have a question. will my valtrex Rx help with my oral herpes?? i have canker sores a lot (like 3-5x a yr) and i'm currently goin thru an OB after my hsv1 genital OB has cleared up (ugh i'm experiencing soo much pain ya'll)..soo would it be ok to use my Rx for this too?? since i have oral OB's a lot do ya'll think i should just go ahead and get on supressive therapy (my genital hsv is also hsv1)..? thnx!!
  10. i'm currently experiencing my 2nd OB and it's nowhere near as bad as my 1st one. my partners tell me that it looks a bit like there is a head on one of the sores and that it looks like i have 3-4 on one side of my vag and then the bigger one (the one i felt b4 the OB, just soreness for me, no real tingles). i am currently on valtrex bc i went to my gyno on Monday (symptoms started on Friday nite)..i dont even really feel any pain rn. i did feel sum uncomfortable-ness the 1st couple of days and i just went without my undies at nite and wore loose undies during the day (white cotton seems to be the best). soo, wat i find to help me out is going without undies and using a cold washcloth to soothe the area. i agree with any other relief options the others have told you about bc i kno that the ppl on this site kno wat they're talkin about and they have a lot more wisdom than i do :D also, a cold bottle helped me (bc i didnt have an ice-pack); i just put a bottle of water in the freezer and then took it out a few hrs later and lay it b/t my legs while i read (1x i fell asleep with it b/t my legs lol). it helps, imo. valtrex is always an option too. and there is no shame in that, whether you choose to do it at the sign of an OB -- i went this route for my episodic OB's bc i felt it was the best choice for me atm -- or if you get on supressive therapy, you have to do wat is bet for you. and i take pain meds (i usually just do ibuprofrin but i do have hydros just in case) when i hurt during an OB. p.s. i was suicidal during my 1st OB so i kno where ur coming from ::hugs:: just remember you are not ur illness and it does not define who you are. also remember that it does get better. you just have to take care of yourself and love yourself <3
  11. thnx. i kno there's atleast 1 bump visible down there. i'm not in much discomfort atm, either (i think i'm more worried about having a bad OB bc the 1st x was horrible, eventho i kno that it probably wont be like that any other x around).. i think i can make it til monday -- tuesday at the lastest -- then, i'll make an appointment bc i dont care for our ER's much..and me and the husband already said it might not be a bad idea to have my gyno put an Rx in at the pharmacy just in case :) i forgot to ask him to do that the last x i was there bc mostly we just wanted to c wat my OB pattern was goin to be.
  12. hi ya'll. ok so i havent been on here in about a month, but i just wanted to let ya'll kno that i was told i have hsv1 genital. it was a bit of a relief bc i kno i have hsv1 orally since i have canker sores (which tbh i didnt even realize was part of the hsv family, i just thought it was cold sores, outside of the mouth, that could indefinitely spread hsv orally or genitally). i have felt fine since i took my meds and i've only had an oral breakout in the last month. i get oral breakouts about 3-5x a yr so that's not a big deal tbh. i just feel like now i'm like some other hsv+ ppl are, i freak out over the least lil bump or feeling i get down there :( and that is why i'm on here today.. i've been feeling sore for the last 12-24hrs. i tried to check myself but i couldnt really c anything. i'm scared that i have the beginnings of another breakout. if i still feel sore on monday i guess i'll get an appointment with my gyno. i just had my yearly pap smear on the 20th and i was given a clean bill of health (as far as any other STD's and the pap smear was good)..i just dread being poked and prodded again ::pulls hair out:: but i guess the worst of it will be that he'll give me another round of meds and i'll have to substain from sex for a bit.
  13. Thnx y'all. Things have gotten better especially since we now kno its hsv 1. My husband is a good man and does love me but he gets self destructive when things get out of his control and obviously he can't control this..or take it away or make me all better you kno? he knows he has issues n I am in counseling -- have been for yrs -- and they are aware that he does come undone a lil sometimes..but we have all regrouped and talked and everyone especially me, are in a good place now with everything. We have all agreed that my health comes first and our love and commitment for each other will always come b4 sex..I was definitely in a very down mood and dark place, both emotionally and physically drained, when I posted b4 I felt soo alone. But I will keep coming here and appreciate you all and ur honest caring, opinions, advice, and help :-) I really do need it! <3
  14. I was just diagnosed with Genital Herpes. The culture came back positive on me and I was informed today by my PCP. My gyno also did a test and I'm going back to him on Monday and I think we're going to do a blood test eventho the culture has come back positive on me. He said that blood tests were the only way to get a definitive answer but I've lost hope that it'll be negative :( My husband got a blood test done and his results were given today -- negative. Our gf hasnt had a test done yet, but chances are she's going to be negative too since they've had penetrative sex and all me and her have done is oral (I think that worst case scenerio for her is that she'll have the cold sores if anything). I'm sad and feel lonely rn. All I've done is cry since Monday. My husband went back and forth b/t blaming himself (bc his ex said she had it) and wanting to murder my ex boyfriend (we were together on and off for 10yrs and he never once showed signs or symptoms of herpes). Now that my husband has tested negative and our gf will most likely test negative, i feel even more alone here. I feel like they'd be better off without me, like they should stay together and me and him should just get divorced and me go live by myself -- this is wat i think i deserve anyway -- bc now I feel as tho I'm no good to anyone anymore :'( He acts like he's angry at me. He wants to be alone all the time and doesnt even want to look at me or touch me it seems. I want to talk to him about things but he just keeps screaming at me and telling me I'm lazy (I've been in so much pain the last couple of weeks that I haven't done any housework). Today he told me he's sick of me. Well I'm sick of myself tbh. All I'm going to be is sick or sad from now on. Especially if I dont luck out with not having frequent outbreaks..I have a very low tolerance for pain and hydros do help me but I can't get hooked on those..Soo I feel like I'm going to always be the party pooper..
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