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I have started swimming in a chlorinated pool (the private one I used to go to had hardly any chlorine, but closed : (). Ouch! My buttock lesion has come back and hurts like mad! Any creams recommended? Really don't want to go on the antiviral pills. Does this mean no more swimming? ; ((

Thank God for that, I was going to say, cuddling without underwear is surely safe! Isn't fingering only risky if the person has cuts on their fingers?

I am worrying as roundabout the time I could have been infected with HSV2 (before I got the big rash on my buttock that was swabbed and came back HSV2), I had had sexual relations with a man who accused me of giving him a cold sore on his mouth! He said he'd never had one before. Could I have given him oral HSV2? I can't stop thinking about it. Is it likely that I gave him it?

Yes. x

Under my lip. It had that familiar tingling that can drive you a bit loopy! It's all a bit odd !

I reckon I may have HSV2 on my mouth :/I get little cold sores under my lips at the same time as my thigh outbreaks. Either that or my lovely lover gave me HSV1 and HSV2!! I am so aware of my body now more than ever. In the Uk you can't get a blood test, so i may have to order one from the herpes charity who then send one out to you and you have to get someone to take your blood!

I wish we could all meet up in person and weren't so far apart! The UK is very much a stiff upper lip place ; keep calm and carry on, even though you are quaking inside! I do hope to find a soulmate one day. I am still a hopeless romantic!

I do the wax strips on my outer bikini line, but go steady! It seems to trigger red bumps, and an outbreak on my thigh : (

Thankyou for the reassurance. xx

I know exactly how this feels. I live in a very snobby place; it's very small and everybody is practically related to one another!! Relationships are mostly with people from the same area. The word "Herpes" is something that has probably never even been mentioned here. My mum has been very understanding, but she has said I've not to mention it to anyone. I believe she thinks I should just get any potential lover to use a condom and hope that will suffice. My conscience is starting to catch up with me though. The man who gave it to me just kept telling me he was fine when the blisters weren't there, and I believed him. He is still promiscuous, going from one "relationship" to another, usually a whirlwind. I can't be like that anymore.

Cupid is the name of the new female condom!x

We dwell on ourselves too much with herpes. I am constantly thinking that noone will ever love me or accept me with herpes (except my pets!) Yet I loved and accepted the person who gave me herpes, knowing he had it. Also, I'd accept a potential soulmate if I knew they had herpes. It teaches us a lot about empathy.

I am not sure I can ever disclose :/ I live in an area that is small and extremely gossipy. it is not like the USA, where you all seem so open and honest. I wish I lived in America! If anyone found out, I would be ostracized, put it that way.

No. I do have a lover I see now and again, but I still haven't built up the confidence to tell him. Infact, I may just call the whole thing off and wait for someone I truly love/loves me comes along. I thought I'd be ok if we used a condom, but evidently not if that's what happened to Herry!

I always get it on my thigh! It is very sore though, as thighs rub together. I've found wearing bloomer type shorts/pyjamas helps a lot. It itches more as there's more friction with the legs. x