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So about three weeks ago, I started flirting with this paramedic that comes to the hospital that I work at. Absolutely amazing. Sweet, kind, handsome, opens ever door I walk through. I like him. In the last three weeks, we have hung out a lot. Probably too much. He even remembered to cook my eggs extremely dry without needing to remind him. I've probably hung out with him almost every other day for the last three weeks. Now I'm stuck in this hole. Part of me wants to cut it off completely because I don't want to tell him about the diagnosis. The other part is ready to tell him for to work reason. That way if he doesn't accept it, my feelings won't be in it too much. But I will have to see him at work. I should have known before I started talking to him that this may occur. I honestly didn't think it would get to this point. Idk what to do.. Or where to start much less.

I'm with Dancer! I would tell him! As hard as you think it may be to disclose, I would. Like you said yall hit it off! So apparently he saw a little spark for you already? I mean I wouldn't talk all day to someone if I didn't think something could persist. I'm a nurse and there are a few doctors I work with that I would rather leave the hospital against medical advice if they walked into my room! That is true. Degrees don't mean you are smart!

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1. I am grateful for this website. Though I may not post often, it is so uplifting reading yall's positive thoughts when the road is a little bumpy. 2. I am thankful for that great of day on May 13 when my ex told me he couldn't see me as a girlfriend anymore. I know he will be a great guy for someone one day, but I'm not that woman. I was holding on to so much negative energy trying to keep him around. I just was driving myself deeper and deeper into a hole. 3. I'm so thankful for my dad. He may not know about me having H, but he is just great. He reminds me how the odds will always be in my favor when I keep my head up and focus on me. 4. I'm putting my mom and best friend is the same number because they are both equally great and amazing. These two have been there every single the moment I called them crying with the diagnosis. Each doing their own type of research to help me great through my hard times. It's truly impossible to give them enough thanks.

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Please try to continue to he healthy as well! I was on what I called a "depression diet". I didn't eat for days. I would take a few bites of food in front of my dad so he didn't say anything. I have a few extra pounds on me and love my curves, but I've been trying to exercise or ride my bike some.

I feel like I just got out of the depression phase. My father and I (he is unaware of the H and I plan on fully keeping it like that) had a heart to heart a few days after my 24th birthday (May 15, 2014). My dad just believe that i had been down in the dumps due to my ex and I finally calling quits to whatever we were. I live in Louisiana and the traveling Vietnam Memorial Wall was in town. Him and I were driving to go see it. I knew it was going to be hard for him. His younger brother and friends died in the war so we were going to see their names. As we were driving over there, he said "You know it's crazy how a certain day can seem like it is worse day in your life, then later it turns out to be the best day ever. You know May 15th used to be the worse day in world for me. My brother died that day in Vietnam. Then God blessed me with you on the same day. I dreaded that day every year, then you were born. God works in mysterious ways". Since that day, my eyes have been open more. My days have been getting brighter. The tears have stopped flowing. My smile has come back. I'm not saying every day is a good day, but I'm so close to my old self. I don't think they can legally not hire you. The same would go for me. Try taking some deep breaths and just living day by day for right now. Continue doing what you have to do so you can be a teacher. You are going to be a blessing to so many kids! One day, you may have the opportunity to teach a child who has special needs or a medical diagnosis that other people are cruel to. You will be able to be there for that lovely child. That child may not have the same diagnosis as you but you understand how it feels to be in his or her shoes. I promise you a blessing will come from this.

Hey there. My story is nothing like yours, but we both suffer with the same diagnosis. I feel like your secret is safe with the people you told. You told them for a reason. If you would have thought other wise, you wouldn't have told your mother or best friend. Those are the two people that know for me as well (beside my ex, who I may have received it from. He did tell his family that I did have H. His parents accepted me, his brothers didn't. But fuck them. Excuse my language). I do have other amazing friends, but I just choose not to tell them. I know they can keep my secret, but the less, the better in my opinion. As far as you being a teacher and people not wanting to hire you, I could understand that a little. I'm actually a RN. At one time, I felt like I would frowned upon if anyone found out because I'm suppose to teach people how to prevent this. I decided to embrace what it done. I can't don't anything about it. I know one day I will want up and realize the reason why God blessed me with this curse. Keep your head up. Some days will be hard, but try remember all your blessings.

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When I read your last post , it just broke my heart. You wrote the word "need" continuously. I was with my first ex for over two and a half years. He was a complete asshole, even worse then the guy that just broke up with me. I was mentally and physically wrapped around his finger. I didn't know anything eles but him. I was be studying for nursing school and he would get mad if I couldn't bring him somewhere. He used me to the fullest, broke me down. I was rock bottom. I needed him in my life. I didn't understand how I could bend over backwards for someone and they would hurt me. I used to think I "needed" a man in my life. When I opened my eye, I realized I don't need a man for anything. YOU SHOULD WANT A MAN. You don't need anything but food, water, oxygen, and shelter. A women needs to be independent for herself. You should be able to support yourself. You want someone to sit there with you, where are your friends? Don't have anything that can hang out? You have a whole list of people on this website that will talk to you. I will message you my phone number if you want it. You can text, call, facetime, tango me. I'll talk to you all day. Get a stuff animal to sleep with. I have a huge dog that I cuddle with. Yupp 23 and I sleep with a stuffed animal. That dog has wiped more tears of mine then any man would have. You don't need a man, you should want a man. Start doing stuff that makes you happy! When you make you happy, you realized the shit you were crying over was pointless. I get my nails done when I'm upset. Or I read a book or write poems. Get a hobby. I realized before I got herpes that I don't need a man for anything. I'm sorry if I upset you by anything I said, it wasn't meant to be like that. But open your eyes, sweetie. I know you're a great person. If you want my number, message me.

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Medical reports are private so technically you would still be in the wrong. I'm not taking up for him. I'm thinking about you. Trust me, I know how it feels. You posting that is pretty much telling the whole world you have herpes as well. I have three people that know I have it and clearly I don't need anyone eles knowing. Do you want the whole world to know you have herpes?

slander n. oral defamation, in which someone tells one or more persons an untruth about another, which untruth will harm the reputation of the person defamed. Slander is a civil wrong (tort) and can be the basis for a lawsuit. Damages (payoff for worth) for slander may be limited to actual (special) damages unless there is malicious intent, since such damages are usually difficult to specify and harder to prove. Some statements, such as an untrue accusation of having committed a crime, having a loathsome disease or being unable to perform one's occupation, are treated as slander per se since the harm and malice are obvious and therefore usually result in general and even punitive damage recovery by the person harmed. Words spoken over the air on television or radio are treated as libel (written defamation) and not slander on the theory that broadcasting reaches a large audience as much as if not more than printed publications. OR libel 1) n. to publish in print (including pictures), writing or broadcast through radio, television or film, an untruth about another which will do harm to that person or his/her reputation, by tending to bring the target into ridicule, hatred, scorn or contempt of others. Libel is the written or broadcast form of defamation, distinguished from slander which is oral defamation. It is a tort (civil wrong) making the person or entity (like a newspaper, magazine or political organization) open to a lawsuit for damages by the person who can prove the statement about him/her was a lie. Publication need only be to one person, but it must be a statement which claims to be fact, and is not clearly identified as an opinion. Think about what you are doing. You have enough stuff going on in your life. Do you really need more trouble. I got left also. My ex left me when he found out. He's living life with nothing happen. He could have have it to me but refuses to get tested. He had the audacity to tell me that when "I start fucking again, I'll get tested".. What kind of low life says that?! It gets better. Excuse my horrid language, but fuck him. You are an amazing, beautiful women. Don't get some low-life, douche bag, no-good-having ass, can't-take-responsiblity-for-his-mistake ass hurt you. Why do you even want someone so useless in your life. He choose to leave you when you need him the most. Open your eyes. I'm only being this blunt because the same thing happened to me. We don't need this type of people in our lives. Don't do it.

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That is absolutely awesome, @zyhpen! Keep up the great work! I am actually interested in travel nursing, but I want to do it in the US. I haven't decided if I'm ready to go all the way to another country yet! Feel free to message me with any questions or thoughts of nursing. I actually want to go back to get my masters. I would love to teach nursing at some point or get into education. I've been a nurse for about two years now. I worked on a ortho floor, which was great. PTs are great by the way, but nursing is better! lol. Now I'm loving the trauma! It amazing seeing chest being cracked open and everything eles you can picture.