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ChanelChanel

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  1. This is inspirational! I am so tired of feeling like I'm hiding a secret. This isn't something to be ashamed of but the stigma could make you feel like you'll be judged. I want to free myself of the stigma... I just don't know when I'll be ready and how. I'm proud of you too!
  2. HEY EVERYONE! THE BEST WAY TO FIND A H BUDDY IS TO NOT ONLY POST HERE, BUT SCROLL THROUGH THE PAGES AND FIND SOME PEOPLE OF INTEREST, THEN MESSAGE THEM FROM THEIR PROFILE PAGE. There ARE H buddies to be made- I have three that I now consider friends! (Even found a distant cousin here, who I am grateful to have met due to this site.)
  3. Glad to hear! You two stay strong (:
  4. @JohnB yes, it is the difference in how they are aquired is what creates the stigma with ghsv2..... It's not that we got "caught", it's that sex is a risk period. And herpes goes to show us that bc there are many ppl who caught it with the condom on. Herpes does not discriminate... Yet we are here by chance. And there are many of us who were in relationship even married but caught it .. We feel guilt bc of the stigma.. not the other way around. Adrial has a post that talks about where the stigma originated from. I am going to find it and post it here... ppl didn't even pay herpes any mind and just thought of it as acne. It wasn't until someone wanted to make money off it that it became aa big deal and was brought to the public attention.
  5. I'm sorry to hear that this has come at what SEEMS to be an inconvenient time... it seems so much easier to go on without knowing, but everything happens for a reason even the "suckiest" of things. It is time to think positive, but to prepare yourself for whatever is to come. We all want things to stay the same and love the ones we are with. Nothing is wrong with that... I hope things grow stronger between you too. And I hope that you are sharing the love with yourself as well.
  6. True that! I'll definitely make sure of that now. Haha. Thanks as always.
  7. Hi Melanie. I have... my initial OB was only severe itching for two days and later a few flesh like bumps near the opening of my vagina that I'd noticed but the doctor didn't... pretty mild. They didn't blister or anything.. I didnt get flu like symptoms and pelvis pain until Feb with no OB since the first. Herpes is quirky... symptoms varies depending on the person. Have you been diagnosed for confirmation... there are other things that cause blisters.
  8. Sorry. I need to stop using my phone bc I don't understand why it keeps doing this lol
  9. Ok. So unprotected sex could increase your viral load and cause an OB? Well anti-virals reduce shedding... could two H+ partners be able to have unprotected sex as much as they wanted?
  10. Ok. So unprotected sex could increase your viral load and cause an OB? Well anti-virals reduce shedding... could two H+ partners be able to have unprotected sex as much as they wanted?
  11. Okay so I was on a website of this doctor who is suppose to be very informed about Herpes. (I need to find the website again.) I am not sure if she has it herself, but it is possible because she seems to know a lot. She allows visitors on her site to post questions and in one of her answers to a H+ couple. She said something about not having unprotected sex during an outbreak bc you can increase your "viral load". Hmm... What does that mean?? Can it happen while asymptomatic shedding? I'm just curious. Can anyone make sense of this?
  12. Also, everyone above covered everything perfectly... I just chimed in bc I have a bone to pick with you @Wakeup13 ... Why are you taking so much of the responsibility and ownership? They could have given it to you just as much as the other way around. It is JUST as fair to believe that. Plus, you shouldn't assume you are the only one they've been with. There is NO WAY to tell who had it first. And if there was oral sex, one of them may have oral HSV, which could have been passed to you genitally. Symptoms can show within 2 to 12 days after expose usually. (Mine did at 2) The symptoms happened after you messed with them. If you do talk to them, which you should I would definitely make it an even playing field. This will release a lot of that negative energy you got going on involving this. You don't even have a sure diagnosis to have so much worry :P And this could also be something else. I would definitely wait 'til testing is done to confront them with confidence... but I'd mention to them that something is wrong. Oh, and we all have done and many continue to do things that are risky... such as unprotected sex. BUT usually we would have no regret or feel bad about our actions if something like this didn't follow. THEREFORE, let it go. No self pity or regret, just a lesson learned :)
  13. @everyday_normalguy, what she did was completely insensitive and wrong. Don't take it personal; sometimes things happen to test other people's character. She will reflect on how she did you when karma visits her. And trust me, Herpes just did you a favor bc had this not happened you would not have picked up as quickly that she would be willing to disregard your feelings like that. You should thank her. Hm. Even if she may have been scared, she could have been respectful of your feelings... I don't understand why people don't see that they could EASILY EASILY wear these shoes... as common as HSV is. (esp since condoms don't always cut it either). She has pissed me off.. Anyway, back to what's more important... YOU. You seem like a sweet guy. Please don't be down. Dating is never easy... and finding the right one is even harder, herpes or no herpes. We all have some fear. Just keep trying. I commend you for disclosing... The right one will come along. STAY STRONG :)
  14. Hello and welcome a1an_n. I do not have hsv 1 so I am not too familiar but I know general input that I hope would ease your mind. You seem pretty worried. It is hard to say whether or not he has herpes and was having an outbreak bcuz you are right... there are other things that can mimick herpes.... I definitely could be a canker sore. From what I've learned herpes 1 can appear inside the mouth gums lips but more likely outside the lip. Oral HSV is very very common bc it's usually caught during childhood and therefore no one really thinks much of it. Many dont know they have it and it's often not tested for. Although it is becoming more important to take necessary precautions for oral sex... due to likeliness of transmission to the genitals. If you are feeling really uneasy about it, you could get tested WEEEEKS even months from now. You haven't shown symptoms and it definitely hasn't been long enough to tell. There is nothing to swab for a quicker detection. I believe IF you do have it you are likely to show symptoms within 2 to 12 days. For the future, I would be more careful probably get my own tube or mouthpiece so that I wouldn't have to worry anymore. Others will chime in later in the am. You will be fine (: I would relax and try not to lose any sleep by worrying..
  15. I heard Chlamydia is becoming more resistent to treatment ...That's something to be afraid of.
  16. @amillionthings. That is great to hear. Yes you needed to release that so we could be your sounding board and give you all the love and support we could offer. I am glad you see things in a better light. It is easy to get stuck trust me I know. and that is soo true. It shouldn't be a secret and it should be tested a often as the others... why should so many and counting have to hide. It's not even what ppl think and no where as severe. And hahaha that is true... Herpes would be the Std of choice for sure! That cracked me up.. never thought about that. And when will the stigma end Idk .. but all things must come to an end... who knows if more ppl knew they had it due to testing it would be more accepted. Wasn't too familiar with herpes but from what i did know.... it doesnt seem the same ... much more minor. Ugh, I'm writing from my android again. Excuse the typos if any.
  17. @WCSDancer2010. You are soooo right. I don't think you understand how inspirational and awesome you are. I believe all that you are saying... I am changing my way of thinking. I won't allow fear to keep me bound by this. Coming out of the closet brings complete freedom within not just for the individual but for others ... Plus, it leaves ppl with nothing much to say unless they are in some type of hiding themselves. Yes it takes strength and the strength in numbers. Day by day, I am building up that boldness. Thanks to being blessed with finding this wonderful forum, I am getting there faster than I imagined. I must follow suit.
  18. Heyyy, Amillionthings. How are you feeling? (I didn't notice it was 2 am. haha.) And yes, so true. If no one looked at it as a big deal many of us wouldn't be feeling the way we do often times... but you know, as this becomes more common with 500,000 to 700,000+ new cases a year this stigma might not last much longer. I wouldn't wish anything on anyone, but the reality is many more ppl will be joining the H+ community so I don't understand why many are so quick to judge and such. (This is contractible WITH or WITHOUT a condom.)
  19. I read this article titled "Good Virus/ Bad Virus, the Truth about HSV1 and HSV2." It is very informative and talks about the logic behind the stigma between the two types. It just burns me up bc the article is right! The stigma sucks. The double standard sucks more. The public needs to be educated. It's going to take a lot of us to get rid or at least reduce the stigma. Here's the article if you'd like to read it... http://herpeslife.com/good-herpes-virus-bad-herpes-virus-the-truth-about-hsv1-hsv2/
  20. Oh. I get you now. But WCSDancer answered it. I'd go back later like she said to double check to make sure you haven't contracted it from her bc now is too soon to tell.
  21. Hi HBpash. What did your results read? <0.91? Please clarify so that we can better answer your question.
  22. First congratulations! I am happy that it went as well as it did. I'm a female. I was diagnosed for month as well and I just turned 24 last month so we have those things in common. Secondly, there is a cure for EVERYTHING. It just has to be found/created if it haven't already... that's my belief. I have heard of that method online... never tried it though. I would consult a doctor first.. Anything safe is worth a try. And funny, I have been wondering how would we know if we are cured if we are tested by antibodies? I would like to find that out myself.
  23. Yes, I applaud your bravery :) . And yup, in order to accept and heal, you have to acknowledge it all... yah know, bear your truth. Oh, it is so easy to get trapped esp when you don't have much to turn to... many just don't understand. I am glad you found this forum. With everyone's input we will continue to strengthen each other! I hope the best for you is to come! <3<3
  24. I read everything. Thank you for saying the words many of us felt it'd be too "negative" to say. Some times the ugly reality of having H left veiled causes more harm than benefit. With everything in life we are taught to make the best of things, even the worst, but some times you just have to be true with yourself and call it for how you see truly it and many times that can bring you freedom. I contracted it Nov of last year and I was diagnosed on Dec 13th. The day my life changed drastically! Since being diagnosed, I have suffered in silence and isolation. No one understands and I don't expect that anyone will. Herpes is a virus that affects the mind and heart more than anything. And without constant fight it will take you over. Hey, it takes a hell of a fight! Exhausting. It has caused me so much turmoil... I have been fighting daily to find acceptance. To survive the emotional torment, I try to recondition my mind to see it in another light... a better light. Hopefully one day soon it will stick. I try to hold on the things that make me who I am. But I admit that H puts up a damn good fight. It is always on my mind... creeping in every time I seem to forget. The fear. I constantly wonder when am I going to come to COMPLETE terms with this or IF I will ever come to complete terms with this. Not only am I trying to come to terms with this but also regret. The fact that I did this to myself. I can't help but to think about how I don't belong here... and how if I had valued myself more (by choosing a better guy and keeing the condom on) than I wouldn't be. I had every reason not to do what I did. I don't know what takes ahold of me more. But emotional pain unbearable... It wears a hole in my heart... to be filled with anger, envy and bitterness. Having H is no small feat. But I don't want it to get the best of me. To overpower me. In our case, we took a risk. We have to live with it. (And hell, sex is a risk period. Whether you are in a relationship, single, using protection or not.) We are allowed to have these moments where we fuss and shout, but at the end of the day only we can pick ourselves up. Don't be down any longer. You are not alone... I am fighting the same battle with you.
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