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  1. Hello I am a 25 years old male who's looking for Hbuddy near me I lived in the North NJ area it would be nice to be able to have a friend to talk to about this, asked question on what to do or be there to support each other anyway m/f someone to disclose our fears about H without being judge.
  2. please try not to be too judgmental, I know I made a mistake and just got scared to disclosed. I met a girl at work, one time from work we all went out we had fun at the end of the night I gave this girl a ride home we stay in the car talking until we ended up kissing then a week later we went out again we talked she told me that she didnt know how stuff happened with me but she was kinda talking to someone else, anyway that conversation stayed like that, we didnt talk about that anymore and for that whole week we saw eachother almoust every day until friday we had a friends bbq we went together we had fun but I had a lot of drinks as well, I wasn't planning to had sex with her, my plans was to wait until I was comfortable to tell her my secret but that night I was tipsy (I am not excusing my mistake.) and she told me that she didn't want to go home that why we don't stay together she didn't wants to sleep by herself and I wanted to huge her at least, I never thought about making a move to be with her, we got to the Hotel room and she laid next to me almoust naked we started to kiss and we end up making love, I used a condom but at the end we did it without it, :(. next day I was devastating my day was a hell all I could think about is how was going to disclose to her after being together it was killing me I started to take the daily medication we kept seeing each other we had sex couple other times and I was ok because I wanted a life with her but she didn't want to and now we are breaking up and I feel like I'm the worst trash in this world Im scared of her getting it, I dont know what to do everytime I close my eyes I feel a big pressure in my chess I dont want to ruin her life and I feel like I did. help please. :)
  3. Ok of course you watch utensils after using it, but I am talking more about share drinks without OBs or sometimes share drinks with our kids some parents do and its very normal so a person with hsv1 can or can't do that anymore ?
  4. Ok you are saying "if you have an OBs" how about when you don't have an OB ? For what I have read it says that stills shedding. Would like some answers lol
  5. Well I would like to know what you all think about which one Is worse to have this is how it goes since I found out that I am H positive I been reading and trying to educate myself the best I can about H, but there's some doubts that I still have. Do people with hsv 1 have to buy their own eating utensils ? Because everybody says that it can be transmitted through drinks (glasses) or spoons even when they don't have OB's or nothing at all. Hsv1 carriers can not even kiss their own children or what ? I had read people's post saying that H1 most of us gets it in our childhood right, so how it works first of all not everybody kiss their kids in the mouth, can it be transmitted by kissing somebody in the cheeks without OBs ? Somebody with H1 is supposed to disclosed to everybody before a kiss ? To me looking herpes this way looks like it is worse to have hsv 1 than 2 because to spread hsv 2 you must have sex so you still can kiss or share food with your kids, family member and friends but the only bad thing is when you going to have sex that can pass it to the other person, but some people says that hsv 1 its harder to transmit than 2 how the hell people get it when their little ? Thank you all for the answers in advanced..
  6. Let's try this. I am grateful for my baby girl she is the engine of my life, I thank God everyday for my silly, smart, beautiful, grumpy and the most important out of everything for my healthy baby =) I am grateful for my life lesson H+ because it has changes my view of life before this I was just and ignorant who would feel special and think that this kinda of stuff and more worst would never happen to me thank God it was only this and not something worst. I am grateful for being able to wake up everyday healthy and see the sun light, for my family my friends and my enemies too.
  7. Since I found out that I am H+ all I been thinking about is how am I going to do with my dating life or casual partner I know a potential partner should know it because it's not good to enter in a relationship with secrets specially this one that could also affects them, but how about with lets say no string attach partner or just night stand even though that to me one night stands is mostly over maybe not because my condition but been afraid of catching something else worst. Please be the most sincere as you can, I just wants to know everybody thoughts and opinion, and for what I have read looks like in cases like this is a little bit easier for girls been accepted from guys than guys from girls, women are more afraid of it that's what I think so I can be wrong too.
  8. @@WSCDancer2010 thank you for your post, yes I did contact her and she told me that she was clean that she recently had a pap and everything came out good but herpes can't be find in a pap unless she had an OB that obviously she didn't has it at that time I am pretty sure it wasn't me because I had been tested before for all kind of std just like it I did with this last test I used to do that every two years since I was sexual active at 15 I don't blame on her or neither hate her it was my fault because I accepted to have sex without protection so that was the risk I was taking. She said she got tested already like three weeks ago and that she was going to call me whenever she get the results it's going to be a month from that call and she hasn't look for me yet. To @ChanelChanel thank you also for you post, I know I have to be strong and I been trying to be lately and with all the stories I had read in here I have feel a lot better but you know there is days like you said that I think about it and worry about the future, it makes me feel down but I am going to live day by day first "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own" that's what I am trying to put in my mind now. =)
  9. Hey my name is Steve I was diagnosed with HSV like three weeks ago I still in shock I have being filling really bad about this even thought I have find some support here and that has helped me a little bit but I still getting sad that maybe my life won't be the same, that from now on I will have to live with this for the rest of my days, right now all I see is darkness but I know that we all inhere going to be ok and lets make a source of strengths out this and lets raised stronger then ever before and be able to see the beauty of life. Thank you all for being part of this awesome site I live in the NJ and NY would like to find an H buddy to help me I still have a lot of questions, age, gender, race, location don't matter, so please feel free to contact me anytime.
  10. Great post very inspiring and yeah you are totally right I have friends that they sleep around with any person and they don't caught sh#t and that's frustrating to me but I guess this has happen to us for a reason there's a quote that says "God give his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers" so lets keep our head up I know that to many of us what is scary about H it's been reject. But when you get accept for sure you know that this person really wants you for who you are.
  11. Wow @confused you really have guts I have going over and over the idea of telling someone about my condition but I don't seen to find a way to talk about this with somebody else, I was looking in goggle and search if a girl would date guy with and std, All the answer where like hell no I would never put in risk my health for a guy and worse if its something that doesn't has cured, even a girl posted that "if she goes out with a guy can be the cutest guy on earth but if he tells her that he got and std she would be like hey my dead grandma its calling its a miracle I got to go bye" it pissed me off how she could say something like that but she is kinda right If I wouldn't have this and somebody tell me about it maybe I wouldn't ran away but think twice about it before doing something and probably I wouldn't had take the risk, maybe guys are more comprehensive than girls or maybe young girls like my age (22) anyway I hope one day I can have a normal life like it I always pictured it. Well good luck to you all and your stories and support have cheers me up a little bit.
  12. It 05 thank you for your words appreciate it your comment and yeah I am positive that God have put this on my life path to help me grow up like a person and become a better man sometimes I think that it could have been something worst but Gosh this stills hard for me, I would like to wake up from this bad dream, but hey this reality.. =(
  13. Hello everyone I can't really believed that today I am writing about H never thought that it would happened to me I found out three weeks ago I had unprotected sex with a girl that I met, we went out for few months and after few weeks having safe sex once we didn't use protection after 4 months of break up I went to do a physical test in general including std and I was shock when I went to picked up the results and the doctor told me that I was HSV-2 positive I really didn't know what it was she asked me if I have had any rash or blister in my parts and I haven't had any outbreak I only know I have it because the test but that's it I went home and started to do a research about it, my world crashed when I saw that it didn't have cured I got nerves and cry for almost two weeks I was devastated, I always have being very healthy and now I don't know how am I going to do with this I know a lot of people have it but I feel alone, I am a good looking man if you would see me in the streets never would be able to tell that I have it, I'm into sports I work out and just a normal young 22 years old man but right now I feel that I went from heaven to hell even though lately I being try to feel a little bit better, this is my first time sharing my story only my brother and Dad know it, they really love me and they have been a big support for me but sometimes it hits me and get depressed about it, I feel like it I will be alone for the rest of my life and its hard for me because I consider my self kinda of as a needing person I hate loneliness but I know I am NOT going to give this to someone else, I don't want somebody to feel the way I am feeling right now I rather never being in a relationship or sexual active with someone then talk about this. All your comments and stories have made me feel a lot better but sometimes still hard to process it Thankx to everybody in Here and God bless you all...
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