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Jean

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  1. I had a full panel done a little more than a year before my husband now and I got together and everything came back neg. But I did sleep with one more person before we got together and didn't ever have another one done..... I am pretty sure that's whom it came from because I had never slept with anyone else after that other than my husband. My Husband and I have been together going on 20 years. It's been on and off between the 20 years so yes we were both each others first. He has it. He just got over a really big ob and his are much worse than mine. I want him to go get tested because I could have very likely given him HSV1 which I have had my whole life and have very frequent ob on my lip. I know I got it from sex but I have not had intercourse with anybody other than my husband for 14 years. That's why I feel like I must have had it the whole time. I should have went and had another panel done before I ever got serious with my husband again what a mess..... Thank you for the advise. The more I get on here and learn about it the more positive I am that I contracted it 15 plus years ago and its just been dormant. I have tried a dozen of times to get my husband on this site but he just keeps telling me " why so I can be told that I am wrong " All I can do is give him the info to get on one of the most well informed sites out here but I think he is just to wounded and hurt . Maybe after shit calms down he might have some questions of his own who knows I can only hope. I know what I did was wrong, all I can do now is try and fix what I f'd up. You guys are truly great on here. Thank you
  2. Ok well I am more confused than ever. I am going to give a run down and if anybody can point me in the right direction I would really appreciate it. I got married in 2000. Before I married I wasn't careful with sex, I didn't have a lot of it but when I did I never protected myself. I have been married now for 14 years and gave oral to someone he put his finger in me for 2 seconds and it was over. That happened a little more than 2 years ago. I had my first outbreak in June of 2013 and had no idea what it was the OBGYN I went to brushed it under the rug as a yeast infections. Mind you this was a year or so after the "guy". I had never had intercourse with him it was only oral and it was only one time. I have now since had an ob in feb and I am just getting over one. I got tested in Feb and it came back as HSV2. My husband knows and now he has it. He won't go get tested for it because he is certain that I have stepped out on him more than the 1 time 2 years ago because the time frame doesn't add up. I know I cant get it that easily from oral and it would be really hard to get it from his finger. I know my husband didn't bring it into our relationship. I am just really confused on how I got it, where did it come from and how can I get my husband to listen to me when I tell him that I may have had it for a long time and it is just now making it's appearance. I have heard that you can have it for a long time and never have any signs that you do have it. My next question is how can my husband have gone almost 13 years with him not getting it until now? Sorry for the long vent but I am just really really confused about how I got it. I know I brought this all on myself but it would be wonderful if I could get all of this confusion straightened out. The OBGYN that diagnosed me in Feb just told me that yes I have had it for a long time because my first outbreak wasn't at all bad. Well that doesn't really clarify much. All three of them haven't been bad at all actually its still hard to believe that I had a positive test for it. Really Really confused.
  3. Well either way I have it now and I can only look forward and try to have a positive outlook for my kids sake. I do have a few more questions..... Can you get hsv2 from using fingers? And is there any other std's that come along with hsv2 that i should be tested for. I haven't had any other symptoms? I've noticed I have been a bit more crampy but I havent had an ob in 3 months but I always feel like I have something down there, especially after intercourse it feels like I have small tears on the side where I have had my ob's. Maybe i'm just going crazy and looking for something to be there. This site has helped me a ton I just wish I could get my husband on here and he can learn more about it and not just the bad.....
  4. Ok Its time to come clean. I posted a while back that I have been with my husband going on 15 years and have been totally faithful to him up until about 2 years ago. I got a new job after being a at home mom for 10 years met a younger guy gave him oral twice and received nothing back. 1 year ago poked myself with some scissors trimming and got a nasty looking something down there. Long story short February of this year got another bump went and had it tested and it came back as hsv 2. I am going crazy trying to figure out where this came from on top of the stress, anxiety, anger, and depression, and worse of all divorce . My husband doesn't believe me that I didn't have intercourse with anybody but I have not, I just gave oral. My husband has now got it but has not been tested if its 1 or 2. My questions is how likely is it to have gotten hsv2 just from oral. 15 years ago before I married my husband now, I was not carful sexually and was wondering if I have had it from 15 years ago and its now showing up or could I have gotten it from giving oral? I do have cold sores on my lips all the time and have had them since I was a little girl.
  5. Thank you for the quick response. I think I will call my OBGYN and do just that. It is killing me to have him go through this and know that it is all my fault. Thank you for all the advice.
  6. I am back and need advice more than ever. I don't know how to say this so I'm just going to say it. I hid that I had a positive hsv 2 in February from my husband due to the fact that we have had a very rocky past due to my mistakes. He is now having a ob and I told him it was hsv and that he got it from me. We are now going through the " where did it come from and what aren't you telling me" stage right now. He doesn't believe me that I picked it up years ago, without any symptoms other than the cold sores I have had my whole life on my lip. He thinks its something new to both of us because we have been together going on 20 years and he is "now" getting them. How do I tell him that it IS possible to have it for so long and not show signs of it or have ob? I keep telling him that you " CAN " be asymptomatic for years and may never have an ob. I am really heartbroken that he did get it from me, from my own stupid mistakes. Is it a good idea to have my kids tested for it? Any advice on how to go about this?
  7. I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago. Last June I poked myself trying to trim my "hair" and I got an awful looking something down there and I went to an OB and she just brushed it under the rug and said it just looked like and infection to her. She didn't bother to test me and just sent me out the door with some pills to take for a Yeast Infection. It cleared up in a couple of days but 3 weeks ago I got a bump in the same spot and became very painful. I have been married for 14 years, and to my knowledge I have never had an STD. I have been with my husband since High School. Married him right after and got a separation 7 months later. It was me whom caused the separation due to my stupidity.... Long story short I was not faithful. I was having a lot of family problems when all of this took place. My mom was fighting Cancer and I think it just pushed me over the edge. Eventually my husband and I got back together. It has been a really rough road these past 14 years but I have been faithful to him the whole time. We now have 4 kids and have been very happy. So my problem is I was not a good person in the past and he still has a hard time with it from time to time. I have not yet told him I was tested for my last outbreak and was tested positive for Type 2. I feel like he will accuse me of cheating and he will leave me. Can it be possible that I contracted it 16 years ago and it is now making its appearance? Is this possible for it to be dormant this long without any sores or any symptoms?? My biggest fear is that I have had it this whole time unknowingly and have given it to him. I have had cold sores my whole life from about age 8 on my lips and I have been very carful to not preform oral on him when they are blisters and pop. My new OB that tested me said that she thinks I have had it for a really long time because this last outbreak was so mild and only lasted about a week. How do I tell my husband without him accusing??? He has been very faithful to me even during my crazy days so I don't believe he has stepped out and got it and gave it to me. I really need some guidance. I have been beyond stressed about telling him and worried he is going to get it if he hasn't already. Sorry for the long post but I haven't told anybody due to fear of rejection. Any advice would be much appreciated.
  8. Hello I am a 37 year old female and was just diagnosed 3 weeks ago with hsv2. I have been married for 14 years and have not yet disclosed this to my husband for fear of rejection and divorce. I would love a support h buddy and any advice would be very appreciated. I live in Utah of all places. I am beginning to see that Herpes is more common than I ever realized.
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