perfGentleman

You are probably over stressing your body. Experiment with what activities cause the prodome. you can try "going super healthy" for a while , see if it helps.

What if he got it? What about his other and future partners? Well... He doesn't know.

It is been a year... It was a year ago, I started drinking excessively to forget someone and was then brought to a screeching halt by an annoying piece of double stranded material. I have never more distrusted others. My sex drive is so low, it is like I'm back in Middle school. I did meet a few interests , I even broke it off with one before naturally derailing it. You should see how upset she was when I finally disclosed it, as if I had been playing a bad joke on her. She is so fine with it, I wonder if she is crazy ( Mind you, I seem to attract that) Lool. Yes, she knows plenty about it. She already has oral hsv. 1? Maybe she is not telling me something ... mmm... Er... The idea of putting someone going through these emotions... is troubling. The first half of me, figures, I should get back out there .. into "life". And the other half really does not want to get that close to another human being ever again. I could ask her to get tested, but she really doesn't care. Just ranting...

One time. Protected.

Yup... Asymptomatic persons shed about half as often as symptomatic tough...

I would agree more with the first one. For herpes, antivirals only slow the replication of the virus, giving your body the time to combat the virus. There was an article posted a couple of weeks or so explaining how antivirals work. This virus does not mutate much ( 2000 years old.. pretty much the same)

After a long series of text messages, she can't accept the risk. She's really scared. Okay. She was actually nice about the whole thing. And I can't blame her for not wanting to risk her health... Anyways, THIS SUCKS!!!! Really, how have I gone from being the selector to the selectee... Am I looking at the wrong people? They only want me for my body and not my mind and my heart! * It is so hard being a guy... *sighs*...

2.5% over a year, having sex twice a week. That is about 0.025% per time. Outside of outbreaks. You are going to be ok, you will learn to get to know your body, know when this H thing is acting up and not, use protection and have an awesome life.

I do not see why you cannot have oral sex with your husband... He already has the virus... Proay orally too. So why not..? Congrats on being a mom!

PS is for positive singles - an STD dating website. I have a profile somewhere there... It was not going to work out, I sensed major incompatibilities. I have not had sex with either of them, was still working up the mental energy to discuss it on coming sunday. I could not imagine they knew each other. It all feels like the first time again, and has triggered - yay! - a brand new OB! It has taken me a long while to come to peace with this. I'm going to try not to get too anxious about this and go live tonight, and probably drink too much. - That is how I got in this trouble anyways... I would imagine her friend would have been a great advocate since she had H too, but she probably didn't take it well that I never messaged her again. Woah... I'm torn between simply forgetting about this or explaining this to her. I mean... I don't want her to think I would have slept with her without telling her ( yes, the opportunity already came and I smoothly avoided it...) @seeker... I don't know.

I intend to treat this as any other condition ( highway robbery, cancer, asthma). It is such a small portion of what defines me that I'll date any pretty attractive and interesting person. At least for now, I will worry when intimacy becomes likely. That's the plan anywaus

The PS Gal... She seemed ok until we started chatting on Skype. I can't explain it but I just didn't have a good feeling about her. I didn't contact her again. Tinder gal and I just had a fun second date. It must have been pretty well since she told her friend about me ( PS gal) who recognized my name and picture. Of course when asked, I was honest. I understand the desire to protect her friend still... I would have preferred she contact me instead of messing this wonderful opportunity. Of course she is freaked out and wants to run far far away from me. I can't blame her for that. *sigh* I'll see if I can calm her down and put things in perspective.

ok, I'm going back up in my tree.

The only person I had an actual live conversation with, from PS, outed me to my Tinder date before I even got to disclosure. I am thinking of playing the lottery more often.

1. Yes and yes/no - ( after Oral sex ( at that point, I didn't know it made a difference. How many other viruses are only local... :( 2. Just that one time. 3. Yes... 4. No... she "couldn't afford" them... or didn't seem to know they reduced transmission. Didn't mention that anyways... I would have been glad to pay for hers instead of my own...