Orchid49

Adrial, I just want to thank you for our conversation yesterday, and overall for what you're doing with the website. The fact that you personally reach out and spend 30 minutes of your time talking to newcomers is the most amazing thing. Your manner, words, ideas, and philosophy transmitted new ideas and understanding to me in a way that was welcome and accessible. THANK YOU. I downloaded the book; will read this weekend. I feel energized about the possibilities, and will keep you posted on the forum. You are a pretty amazing guy, and I am happy to have had contact. Best, Julia

I don't have time this morning to respond properly to this amazing reply. Thank you so much. I am trying to move forward in every aspect of my life (at this stage!!) with no fear, and your response reminded me of that plan. No fear. I will download and read the ebook. I have an appointment with my therapist, with whom I have never discussed men, because it was a non-issue for me . The journey continues, with hope and yes....still giddiness. THANK YOU for helping me lose some of the angst.

I am over 55. I was married for 25 years, and my husband (from whom I caught genital H when we were dating) wanted out. We divorced three years ago, and I swore off men. I don't get outbreaks often, and never even thought about herpes and relationships. Well, suffice it to say, an old friend ALSO divorced after many years of marriage, got in touch via a social network, and we have been having dinners, long talks, etc. for the past month or so. By mutual agreement, taking it very slowly. But it's obvious where things might go. They seem to be heading that direction. The whole thought of having that conversation, which I know needs to be sooner rather than later, is so intimidating. (Do I have to do it in person?? A nice, informative email?? Probably not...) Being this age and experiencing this angst, along with a good bit of giddiness, seems just crazy. This is a very dear man who I believe is looking for a meaningful relationship, but I keep thinking, why would he possibly want to deal with all of this? It is tempting to make some excuse and just walk away. Ideas?