Help, help, help. I am amazed there is such a community like this and you all seem so wonderful and supportive.
I apologize in advance. I am in a bit of despair to say the least.
Where do I begin. 4 months ago I had sex with a high risk woman. Used a condom. I did not do oral or touch her but she did oral and we had intercourse. She also touched herself and, not sure with same finger, but touched me too.
Since then I have had itching, burning, particularly rectal, debilitating pain, extreme back pain, tingling, the crawling under my skin feeling...felt flu like, nausea, swollen down there, discharge both front and back. Unable to concentrate. Exhausted all the time. Sleep problems massive.
Been 4 months since encounter. Have had a myriad of tests done. All negative. All blood or urine since no visible blisters have shown.
Only thing that can explain in my view is herpes. Doctors are telling me it is all in my head. I finally told my wife over 2 months ago. Causing problems at home and work.
My wife also believes it is only in my head. A urologist diagnosed as non-bacterial prostititus and told me to relax since all the serological tests were negative.
Since my wife believes it is all in my head she has engaged me sexually (using condom but I know this is risky).
Then I did oral on my wife and now I think I might have gotten oral herpes. Worse is that means I have it genitally and even worse have given it to her...and back to me orally if so.
Same symptoms - burning, itching in face. Crawling under the skin. I now have long white blisters in my mouth. Having my dentist look at them tomorrow morning.
Seeing an infectious diseases doctor without my wife knowing because she basically threatens to leave me if I persist in seeing doctors. Since she thinks it is all mental to be redundant but clear.
I, on the other hand, think I must. What a conflict.
So 4 months later I have been experiencing debilitating symptoms with no diagnosis.
I read that the blood tests can produce false negatives. This is what I assume Is happening?
Most recent herpes bold test was 3 weeks ago. Negative HIV, all the bacterial ones negative. Have had herpes test (blood) at least 4 times. First was 3 weeks post exposure. Then at weeks 6, 11 and 14 or so.
Help me? I am dying. Any thoughts?