RunningScared

Haha... my kitty kat is coming over tonight to spend the night and the day tomorrow... and she's bringing me dinner. Sweet as hell, and that's why I'm not letting her H+ condition drive me away. :)

Well guys, thought I'd update you on my decision. I've decided to stick it out with this girl and see what happens. I'm planning to take an HSV-1 & HSV-2 test in a couple weeks to get a baseline and make sure I don't already have anything to begin with. Then in a few months or if things don't work out, get tested again. Thanks for the feedback and advice everyone. She's too much of a kindred spirit to just drop because of this. Take care.

Excellent input Dancer, and I will take it into significant consideration. Thank you! By the way, is it an accurate assumption that HSV-2 transmission from genitals to the face is even more rare than genital to genital? I only ask because I'm a guy who loves to spend hours on foreplay alone...

Thank you very much for the feedback and advice everyone. It's going to be one heck of a decision, that's for sure. We talked about it at length last night and she answered all of my questions. Apparently she has both HSV-1 and HSV-2, but has only had several cold sores on her mouth over the last 15+ years. The HSV-2 affects her lower labia. She is taking Acyclovir twice daily, but she said she only takes it once per day when she's single and there is no chance of her having sex. Is that an acceptable way of taking it? Should *I* take it as a preventative? Not sure if it will prevent contraction of the disease but might be worth it if it can. She has had several partners that she was with for years at a time, and apparently they never used any protection, nor was she on antivirals at the time, and she did not pass it on to any of them. Even to this day she says she asks them about it whenever she talks to them and they say they're clean and to stop worrying... lol. Is it possible that some people might be less likely to pass it on than others? As much as I like her I just don't know if I can justify the risk... if it's not already too late for me. :( Thanks again all.

Haha... yeah I guess that was inadvertently a bit comical. Shows you my level of ignorance though... ugh. Do you and your BF regularly have unprotected sex and oral? According to my calculations, if the female-to-male transmission rate is 2% per year of regular sex when an antiviral but no condom is used, that equates to roughly a .0015% chance of transmission per round of sex (assuming sex 2-3 times per week). So "theoretically", there is roughly a .0015% chance that I contracted it last night? I'm also guessing significantly less than that for the oral portion? Does that sound accurate?

Hi everyone, No easy way to say this so I'll just come right out... I had unprotected sex yesterday with a girl I really like who has had genital herpes for well over 10 years. She has been on antivirals (aciclovir?) for a long time and said she hasn't had an outbreak in over a year, and has never to her knowledge passed it on to any other partners. To be honest, and much to her credit, she informed me in advance of her condition, but in a moment of passion I rather stupidly decided to just inspect her visually and then go for it. I was under the impression that it was only contagious during the OB period, and wasn't aware of asymptomatic shedding until I started researching later. I wound up doing unprotected oral on her for over an hour, and for a few minutes later on we engaged in intercourse, along with plenty of other genital-to-genital contact, all unprotected. Now, the next day, I am of course freaking out and kicking myself for being so reckless... I spent all night and all day today googling information, which led me here. So my question is, what are the chances that I've picked up the virus from this event, taking into consideration the length of time she's had it, the constant medication, and long time since her last OB? Am I fairly safe or am I hosed? I'd like to be in a relationship with her because we click really well and like each other a lot, but really don't want to pick up the disease for the sake of my future love interests, if we don't work out. Not to mention for my own personal health. If I stay with her it will be nearly impossible to resist more unprotected sex and oral... am I pretty much guaranteed to pick it up in this case? I'm a crazy jumble of thoughts right now and don't know what to think or do. Thanks in advance for your input.