Hello,I'm 20 years old and live in San Diego, CA. I have been living with herpes for the past year and a half. In December 2012, my ex-boyfriend knowingly passed the virus to me. When I confronted him, he convinced me it was hot tub rash (he played the nice guy very well, gifted con-artist).
Later on, I broke up with him after I found out he cheated on me during our entire relationship. It wasn't until September 2013 that I got my second outbreak. i was concerned so I went to get tested. That's when i found out. I was completely devastated. I felt so betrayed, angry, upset, and felt so much hatred (and still do) for my ex boyfriend. I feel like he ruined my life and I didn't ask for this to happen.
I slowly coped with it, especially when doctors tell me that my strain is very mild and that it's not a big deal. I even told guys about it and they were ok with it. It is until I told this other guy about it. He was sympathetic and said he felt bad for me but he said that I should have told him before we made out. I told him that it's extremely rare to get hsv-2 orally but he said "well, surviving a hellicopter crash is rare but here I am". I said that I don't need to be judged. He said that he said he wasn't judging me and that I needed to calm down. He said the only person he's judging is my ex. I told him that I didn't want to talk about it and that i was going to cry. He later texted me saying that he wishes he could give me a hug. He also says he appreciates me telling him and that I'm the nicest person ever that doesn't deserve this
The next day we talked a little. Then he texted me wondering if I was ok. I said a little bit. Then he sent me a picture of myself and said you're very pretty.
I'm not sure if he feels bad or what. At the same time, maybe he's being manipulative. I admit, I'm kind of a "man-hater". I don't really trust men and believe most of them to be narcissistic assholes. I'm quite surprised so many of them are ok with herpes. I just want to ultimately know, how often does rejection happen? Is it possible to have a normal dating life with herpes? Are most people generally understanding? Do I need to go on a herpes dating site for the rest of my life? Another thing I'm confused on is if doctors say it's possible to have children in the future, how is that possible if you pretty much can't have unprotected sex again.
One more thing, I have asked the doctors to be on suppression therapy. How much exactly is my shredding? I'm reading everywhere without medication it's either 5%, 20-30%, and many other crazy numbers.
Thank you :)
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