Kim25

I feel kinda bad. First things first, I'm a woman who dates other women. I have genital herpes, hsv2. I've been talking to a woman for about two weeks now. Last night she invited me over and things got heated. I told her I didn't want to to do anything below my waist. So I kept my pants on. She kinda grinded on my stomach without underwear and then I performed oral sex on her. Although I don't believe she is at risk since she didn't touch me and I dint touch myself, I feel horrible because I know that I should of had the talk with her before becoming intimate. I'm thinking about telling her today. I could really use any support or advice because I'm really nervous.

Thank you dancer for the information. I am feeling better. Trying to worry less. Right now I am trying to connect with my higher self. Meditate, connect with nature.

Thank you Henry the Herp and Dancer! You both made me feel so much better! Also Henry, I am going to wait until she comes back in town! Also thank you dancer for posting successful disclosure stories! Ok so yesterday, 30 mins after making this post. I received a call from my doctor and she told me I tested positive for HPV. I thought all I contracted was herpes and I was over it, but now HPV all from that one sexual encounter. I contracted herpes and hpv back In October - ugh!!!! Now I have to tell her I have two STDs! Please send me good vibes :)

Hello Everybody, I've been following this forum since I found out I had herpes in Oct 2013. Since October, I haven't dated or anything until recently - 2 weeks ago. Also I just started taking suppressive therapy last week. Ok so I met a lovely lady 2 weeks ago and we've been having a great time. I really like her. Before our first date, I was worried about if this would even work because of my herpes condition. Plus we have the same circle of friends, so I'm like if I tell her, what if she tells all our friends (because people like to confide in their friends). So by our 3rd date, she spent a night and we cuddled in the bed and made out and that was it - I made sure to not do anything else because I didn't want to put her at risk. A few days later, we had dinner at her house and then I followed her to her bed. We made out and I made sure to not do anything else. She got kind of excited and started grinding on my leg. We both had shorts on, no underwear. So she is straddling my leg, and then she almost reaches In to my shorts but I grab her hand so fast, lol, and bring it back up to my chest. After that, I just told her I was tired and we stopped. During this time, my vagina did not make contact with any part of her body, because we had shorts on and I made sure not to go near her in that way. Still she may have received some vaginal liquids on her body from my shorts but I'm not sure. I read that herpes cannot be passed through fluids, only skin to skin contact so I thinks she is fine right? So I feel really guilty because even though, we did not have full on sex, I should have told her before we got intimate. I want to tell her tonight about my condition. But I'm also scared because she is about To go out of the country- and I won't see her till July. I was thinking about telling her then when she comes back but I feel like I need to tell her now. I'm going to apologize and explain what herpes is and also give her the handouts. I'm really nervous and scared. I feel guilty but I am trying not to beat myself up because this is going to by my first disclosure and I am learning from my mistakes. Any advice is greatly appreciated.