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@thisisgoingtobeok OMG... So happy for you!! Thank you so much for sharing! I sat here and cried and sobbed and cried some more... And I don't even know why!! Your story is so amazing! I've lived with H for over 25 years now, and just now discovered this site. I am SO grateful! I have told many men that I have H, with variable success. It seems like, the guys that I'm not as interested in, it's easy to tell (less emotional connection, less hope for the future, less everything). But, the ones that MATTER... That's a whole different story. I SO blew it, a few weeks ago, when I told this amazing guy... I did it ALL wrong! Oy. BUT... Now, a few weeks later, we are texting again, emailing a bit, talking on the phone tonight. I don't know if we will be able to get back to the energy we had before... And if not, then it wasn't meant to be. But, I'm happy to have the chance to explore it with him, in a better place in my mind and heart. H as wingman.... What a concept! Makes me shake my head just thinking about it!

@mazedaze Wow, thank you for sharing! I cried as I read your post. I have BEEN there! You are so strong... And so wise to realize he isn't the one, and to know that pain may still be in your future, but, still putting yourself out there, and being vulnerable, and honest, and YOU! @WCSDancer Wow... Thank you for your response! I have NEVER thought of H being a GOOD way to weed out the guys who just aren't there for the right reasons. WOW! What a paradigm shift in my mind!