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Thanks Sbabe! I'm glad you are so smart! Good luck with future dating~

You and I are on similar timelines. I am 58. My last real relationship ended in 1995. June 5th to be exact. In October of that year, I was diagnosed with H. I thought I got it from my bf. I had a restraining order against him so there was no talking to him. Since then, I only dated one guy and it was a nightmare. We only had sex once. Four years ago, my best friend put me on Plenty of Fish. I had a date within a week. It went really well. I was very excited. Then he played games. We actually had another date a year later. I wasn't really attracted to him but we got along great. Then he wrote 2 weeks later and asked how my hooters were doing. I was not happy with that question. Anyway, after the first date with this guy I got to thinking and realized that I probably got H from my very first boyfriend back in the late 70's. I also remembered a time when I gave oral sex to a guy and then worried if I got something from him. Within a few days, I had a spot on my tongue. This was in the 80's. I went to my doctor. I don't remember what he told me. But now I wonder if I have H2 in my mouth. In 1992, right before I started dating my last real bf, I got an outbreak on above my lip that lasted like a month and a half. I was diagnosed with H1. So if I were to date, this would be my first love since 1995. There is a man who is interested in me but he's like 70 something. I'm not interested in him at all. Well, now I should have addressed your concerns first. I'm sorry. You were misinformed. This is totally not your fault. I hope this man comes to grips with his diagnosis and continues to see you. Keep us posted~

I just wanted to say that I hope things work out with this guy. I personally have only had to tell one guy and he was okay with it but we didn't last very long. It was because he was on drugs really bad and I ended up taking care of his kids. Even had them for 5 weeks through DYFS and then another week on my own. That was in 1998. I haven't dated since. Dating has always been hard for me. Guys just don't want me. I am invisible to them. It was always a miracle if I found a bf. I had a dream of an ex-boyfriend the other night and it really threw me off the next morning. I got really sad. He had H but I realized about 4 years ago that I probably got it from my first bf. Anyway, best of luck to you.

I'm so happy for you! I would prefer to meet someone with H myself.

Misskellyrenee, You are handling everything perfectly.

I know what you are saying. I hesitated to put my picture out there too but I did it. I'm on Positive Singles. I met a great friend who lives 10 minutes down the street. I went on one date but the guy lives hours away and even though we had a nice date, nothing came of it. I also belong to Plenty of Fish. That's a regular dating website. I had a date recently with a guy I had a date with a year ago. I told him about my H and he didn't jump up and say he was ready to leave. He flirted with me on Plenty of Fish for a week and then disappeared for 2 weeks. Then he asked how my hooters were doing! I was so insulted. I thought he was nicer than that. But in the end, he wasn't my type anyway. Always keep the hope and keep us posted about your dating adventures to come!

Great post! I used to say that I was glad that I had OCD because it made me a better person. I think through times of trial, we do become better people. Have a great day!

That's great that you will finally see him again! I think he really loves you. He's had plenty of time to back out so don't worry about that. I've had herpes for a very long time too. I just disclosed to a guy. He's still flirting with me but he made a rude comment yesterday about my "hooters". He didn't talk to me for 2 weeks. Truthfully, he's not my type anyway but I wanted to give him a chance. Oh well. Lucky you to be so loved!

Hi Alissa, You are not damaged goods. Don't even think that way. I never felt that way. I just figured out last year that I probably have had hsv-2 since I was 19. I just had a blood test and my doctor said I probably had it since I was a teenager. I never got diagnosed until I was about 37. The guy I had been with at the time had hsv-?. I thought I got it from him. Enough about me. You have found a great forum here. Adrial is the best! You will get lots of great advice. Trust me, you will see lots of good endings too . . . like people who have had "the talk" and the other person was okay with it. I started this post yesterday. I hope you got other responses. I had major car trouble yesterday and had to put this on hold. Keep your chin up honey!

I agree with sjj238! This is so cool! Here's to a great relationship with a great guy!

Wow, so many things I can relate to on this thread. I think my parents screwed me up too. There are a lot of kids in the family who never got married. I'm 55 and never got married but I still have hope. You always have to have hope. I don't think of myself as a spinster. I call it what it is. I have had very bad luck with guys my whole life. I've been in a couple of abusive relationships. My first relationship (I was 19) was ruined by fear and OCD. I just realized last year that I got herpes from him. I thought I got it from another boyfriend from the 90's who claimed to have herpes about 2 years into our relationship. Everyone, we are all loveable. I have seen lots of love stories on here and on Facebook and other places. I just went on a date with a guy and told him. He didn't abruptly end the date. In fact, he wrote some messages to me on POF and ended one with "xoxo". Then he got cold so I don't know what's going on with him. He did the same thing to me last year.

You are certainly not nuts. I'm really sorry that you've been treated so horribly by the men in your life. I can relate to a degree. You can learn from your own post. You don't have to live the worst case scenario. You can have a beautiful life. Many, many people with H do. You are wise for your age. You can definitely find a wonderful man to marry and you can have children. I just had an HIV test myself. It was many years overdue but I have terrible luck with guys and I haven't been with anyone. An ex-boyfriend was doing drugs so I broke up with him. He owed me money and came over to give it to me and ended up in my bathroom for 3 hours. I called the police, at the advice of his son. I heard the police office say "So you shootup?" I don't remember if I had an HIV test back then or not. So I am okay. I am sure you will be too. One thing that helps my depression is walking. I was really in a bad way before I started walking. I think I look a little younger too. It's good for so many reasons. Keep the faith. Things will get better. Keep us posted!

Hi connect. You can find out a lot of answers here. Just ask. Adrial has some information on here too. I think some people get flu-like symptoms when they get an outbreak or maybe that's usually for a first outbreak. It could be unrelated too. I hope you find your answers and also, someone to talk to. I'm from NJ too! Collings Lakes!

Love these kinds of stories! Congrats Angel and Lelani!

Don't panic. Do tell him. I hope others chime in. I have OCD so I always think I'm contaminating someone with something so you can't go by me. In fact, my psychiatrist just upped my meds because I was obsessing. I do know that Adrial has something on here about transmittal that you should look at. It might make you feel better.