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This is a follow up to a previous post regarding transmission and our experience. Being a single male with H trying to date, the only information I have on transmission risk stats all come from two studies in Univ of Washington. All of them come from those two studies done on discordant couples. Going through the various blogs searching for transmission stories and dating non H. I found some common elements, Most people on the blogs were not informed by their partner about being H positive unfortunately most of them are still really anger and loath the person (lets remember this not a death sentence and our responsibility is to remove the stigma, being anger and hateful will not make anyone accept your condition) Two and more significant, there are penalty of stories of woman dating/ marrying non H man and never passing it using mainly the preventive measure of meds and avoidance during outbreaks ( good news for you ladies). Man do not share stories of dating non H woman and what has been successful and not successful measures. I have asked the question have any man transmitted or successful avoided transmission to their partner using only abstain during outbreaks and daily suppressive meds? very few responses. Only few replies from some man stating just abstain during OB and they havn't passed it. So I figured woman share stories, so I will ask the woman about circumstance of how you were gifted, any of you contacted H from situation in which your partner disclosed his status and still inadvertently got infected if so anything us man can learn from so that we can better prevent transmission. Basically has anyone transmitted or contracted H while their partner was on daily suppressive meds. Please share together we can all learn, educate and live.

Thats exactly why its difficult for man like me to date non H woman. Its discouraging to trying to educate non H woman on the real life experiences. I hope more man will speak even if they have transmitted to a partner thats also valuable learning information to the rest us. How long did they have it, how many outbreaks do they get, were they on meds. These a value lessons for all of us to learn from. Its shame that most man are in denial the rest of want to learn from each other mistakes and experiences. We all know that H is not a big health concern to live with but non of us want to spread it together we can collectively understand that risk.

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This a great question, I always wonder about this myself all the general information online is stated as manner of public health, not with real life stories to inform us on the actually risks to allows us to talk to our partners. Also it scares anyone away when they want to do their research online to weigh the risks. I have asked this question a few online groups and never get much from H + man with non H females. The few replies I received from man is they both had it 20 + years and they didn't use meds or condoms just avoided sex during outbreaks and never passed in on. My experiences I have been with two non H woman while on medication use condoms sometimes and I have not passed it on. Both the woman I have been with had previous relationship with H+ man and they never got it from them. My doctor also told me the same that transmission with Meds is very low, it can never be zero but very low. It would be great if there was a support group or website dedicated to discordant relationships and their experiences. I am curious to hear from Man as to their experiences with transmission to females.