LoveTheBeach7

Thanks for your response. What do I say to him?

Concern is HSV-2 to him orally and do I tell him now?? We had an awesome date, barely getting to know each other and there was total chemistry at the end of the night!! I met him on a non-herpes dating site...so who knows if he is pos or neg. One thing led to another, very, very fast. I have only been with 1 other man since my divorce 2 years ago and I dated him for 9 months...he knew and we had great sex without transmitting herpes. I wasn't prepared to have the herpes talk or be in any physical situation for a long time. Pants came off me, not him — fast. Down there...His hand and kissing — I pulled him up, but he was down there. I've never had an outbreak down there (mine was on the nipple once a year ago) and am on Valtrex daily and have had shedding checked 3x on the cervix and everything has come back neg (I know shedding is random so the neg result isn't to be totally trusted), so I'm hoping he is ok from the kissing/oral!! Honestly I didn't think I would hear from him again, but he has turned out to be awesome and wants to see me again and calls and texts daily....it's been almost 2 weeks. I did a terrible 'risk' move and the guilt is overwhelming. Should I end it, or tell him after some casual dates if we keep liking each other? I don't know if I can ever get the words out since I put him at risk so soon in the relationship. I dated someone in college with herpes and I remember he told me on date #3 when things were very casual and how much I respected that.