Jump to content

Helzbelz88

Members
  • Posts

    87
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Everything posted by Helzbelz88

  1. Yeah it certainly seems like the very bottom of the class. I'm in NZ I will be finding a new doctor and not just a GP before October
  2. So I had to physically see a doctor to get repeats for 6 months worth of antivirals. Then he says after that lot we will take me off them, if I have 2 out breaks close together I may go back on them. I said can we wean me off them rather than go cold turkey, because Im more likely to have issues if I just go off cold turkey... He actually laughed at me and said it's either suppressed or not. So I said but when you take something that's daily away there's likely to be a bigger reaction regardless and that it also protects my partner more whom I've only been seeing for 2 months. He said yeah it does help with that I guess - so I said even 6 months from now we will have been together 8 months that is not long for me or him to feel comfortable without the antivirals. Pretty much ended with him saying we will start taking you off in October, and me saying we will review the best options for me and my partner. Also recently had to see an emergency Dr for a shoulder injury. Stupidly told them I was on antivirals - they had to look it up. Then the Dr spent more time asking me about herpes... Once I told him it was for herpes not hep c. He wanted to know if I have to get it from the hospital, and how long I've used and how long I will use it and how I got herpes. Was like he genuinely saw me as intriguing because I had herpes... Even though I was there about a shoulder sports injury. Kinda feel like My doctors live under rocks...
  3. So I must have finally had enough OB's for my doctor to think I should be on suppressives. I just wanted to get a double up on the 5 day meds rather than have to come back again soon. The doctor didn't even have to see me just the receptionist told me I could have a 5 day or start suppressives for 3 months at a time. So I have recently had 2 OB's in the last 3 weeks, wasn't quite that bad that I'd think I needed daily meds. I had hoped to try get my body used to it but it would be nice not to have it happen every few weeks. I had all these questions and the receptionist kept running into the doctors office to ask them for me - was kinda weird. Guess it can't hurt to try them.
  4. I don't know much about all the tests available ... But from what I've read on here.... I guess western blot too! Xx hugs lovely
  5. Your welcome Hun, from what you've just said you are well on your way Xx
  6. Hey @Snyperx, I have HSV2 Yeah I was texting him and told him, this was after we had talked for a bit though and I'd decided that he seemed respectful enough to have the convo with. I don't know much about herpes whitlow, but I imagine it is what it is and should still be disclosed. Try not to overthink the disclosing part because this can be more stressful than actually doing it. Decide if you are ready to talk to her about it and you could even have some information printed out with you, try to give as much information without it being scary. Be honest and genuine and she will see that even if it is a deal breaker for her, if it is don't take it personally because it isn't, just the same as you may have things that put you off from a potential partner. If it is some one you are seeing I would try to do it face to face if you can, then she can see you and you can see her reaction for what it is. Check out the successful disclosures section - there are lots of good examples there. Xx
  7. Well I met the guy and we talked quite easily for an hour - I don't find it hard to make conversation and engage so this for me is not a new thing. Then we walk to his car because he has something to give me, he has a bunch of flowers in his car. Right there if a friend was telling me this story I would have gone awwww, this wasn't quite what happened in reality. Personally I have not had much affection given to me and find it hard to give in return, he is an old fashioned romantic but I didn't know how to react so it was pretty awkward. I drove away thinking every girl wants flowers what is wrong with you, are you so cold and heartless or just independent that that's really not what you want. this is leaving me with a lot of self reflection, he feels he has been able to open up to me and talk to me so openly and has not had a connection with some one like this before... I don't know if this is because of H but I am generally pretty open and approachable so I'm not yet convinced it's a connection for me. I have told him that an hour isn't enough time for me to make a decision on a relationship and I would like to get to know him a bit more as a friend but cannot promise anything more, also that I cannot put him at risk unless I am 100% into it - think this is what it comes down to for me. Guess there's also the realisation that just because a guy is ok with H and treats you how you deserve to be treated, doesn't mean that's enough ( hope no one thinks I'm horrible for saying that as I know everyone is at different stages regardless of H). I know I deserve to be treated nice and given affection, just not sure why I don't seem to want it. Sorry about the sort of off topic on this post, think I just needed to put it in words to reflect on. Xx
  8. Been talking to this guy for a few days not yet met, may meet as friends to begin with not sure. This is his reaction to me telling him via text about H "no that doesnt put me off at all if we were together we would deal with it together not a major. Sorry you have had to go through that. Sending u a hug. As said doesnt put me off & yeah would deal with it together if we ended up seeing each other xox" Stil doesn't mean itll be anything or that there won't be a deal breaker for me but shows once again there are those that are ok with H. :) take care all xx
  9. Been talking to this guy for a few days not yet met, may meet as friends to begin with not sure. This is his reaction to me telling him via text about H "no that doesnt put me off at all if we were together we would deal with it together not a major. Sorry you have had to go through that. Sending u a hug. As said doesnt put me off & yeah would deal with it together if we ended up seeing each other xox" Stil doesn't mean itll be anything or that there won't be a deal breaker for me but shows once again there are those that are ok with H. :) take care all xx
  10. Also give it a go but here in NZ don't generally do a blood test for it mainly swab when there is something to swab
  11. Thanks guys, Yeah I have some close friends that know and my sister who I live with is really awesome about it. I realised never to make a decision while having an OB moods go up and down and emotions run a bit higher than usual. I didn't end up telling them and I'm ok with that. Xx
  12. Hi @sw85! Welcome and first of all you will be ok. As said above people choose about if they want to take meds daily or just around and OB to kick it quickly. If you do end up experiencing frequent OB's you may want to take daily medication to begin with but again that's up to you. I take Lysine daily to help keep OB's down or if I feel and itch I might up it for a few days or when I have an OB. You could also look up the foods that can provoke it especially when your body is just getting used to it. I generally stay away from coffee and chocolate is very limited but everyone is different so Lysine might not help and foods might not be an issue. Although it has calmed down with the meds do still get tested properly to find out for sure and what type. Also keeping healthy overall can help keep OB's down, eat well, exercise and keeping stress down. Stress can be a big feeder. Have a look at the frequently asked questions and also the successful disclosures posts there is a lot on here to read that might help you right now. Lurk all you want everyone here is really supportive and I'm sure there will many more responses to come.
  13. Thanks @willow , still a rookie with my comments :)
  14. Yeah it's ok, I used the last relationship to make the decision about this one too. Better a few months and it ends than years of a mess to clean up. Parents are happy too - funnily enough they were waiting for me to tell them this news. They always seem to know :p Xx
  15. I know you've already made your decision just thought I'd chime in too. I've never trusted flu shots and don't want to cause panic but know of people who have passed away from flu shots because they were the slightest bit unwell when they got them - yes not overly common but can happen.
  16. Hi Dave1! First of all just because you knew of the risk doesn't mean you have to be ok with it straight away. Like anything it is an adjustment and this will take time. I guess the first thing you'll want to look into is getting tested to get confirmation. I know where I am if I have an outbreak I have a course of 5 day medication I take, you could talk to your doctor/ health professional about this to try to minimise the blisters if any appeared. Remember H loves and feeds off stress so try as best you can although hard to keep this to a minimum. Have you talked to the other person about it? They may be able to offer some support for you? In terms of the itching and the walking right now you could try a cream to try to lesson the friction - I use zinc castor oil ointment if I'm going to the gym or sports and worried about the rubbing. Other people on here will be able to suggest better creams / remedies that may be more helpful but for now the frequently asked questions section would be helpful to have a read of. Also you will be very much more aware of tingles down there and sometimes the more you focus your thoughts on it the more tingles there are. Make sure you get tested to get confirmation of your status. Try not to be too down for too long things will get better and if it is H you will learn to deal with it and you will be ok. I'm sure otherwise will chime in with more advise and wisdom soon. Take care ! Xx
  17. Well that's done now. Time to move on again.
  18. Thanks Dancer. That does apply - 3 and 4 definitely. It becomes my fault for why he's angry or treated me that way. He doesn't apologise unless I seem like I'm going to break up with him. And if I leave him alone he'll come to me asking if I'm still grumpy - as if I had the issue. Then it'll be that I was going on about something and I was pissing him off. If I don't address what's just happened he then goes on normal and will be surprised if I don't seem too happy. When I brought it up with him and addressed it he's told me to go F myself twice. He has diabetes so explains it as his moods change because of that and then his memory is bad so he forgets he's just been horrible to me. He's trying to be really nice at the moment and is saying that it's been hard for him and because I'm busy at work and then sports after work he feels there is no time for him ( he is recovering from foot surgery) so he's kinda saying my absence is causing this. Very Jekyll and Hyde to be honest
  19. Thanks Dancer. That does apply - 3 and 4 definitely. It becomes my fault for why he's angry or treated me that way. He doesn't apologise unless I seem like I'm going to break up with him. And if I leave him alone he'll come to me asking if I'm still grumpy - as if I had the issue. Then it'll be that I was going on about something and I was pissing him off. If I don't address what's just happened he then goes on normal and will be surprised if I don't seem too happy. When I brought it up with him and addressed it he's told me to go F myself twice. He has diabetes so explains it as his moods change because of that and then his memory is bad so he forgets he's just been horrible to me. He's trying to be really nice at the moment and is saying that it's been hard for him and because I'm busy at work and then sports after work he feels there is no time for him ( he is recovering from foot surgery) so he's kinda saying my absence is causing this. Very Jekyll and Hyde to be honest
  20. Thank you. I have but the problem is his moods go from being fine one minute to angry and saying mean things to me then back to as if nothing just happened I should just move on even though he wasn't very nice to me. Then when he sees I'm serious about not being treated that way he says everyone would be better off without him then I have to have the don't do anything stupid talk. I don't know, H or no H I just don't have the energy for being treated like crap again. We see each other once a week then maybe on the weekend, and I think I might just be better off single. I feel good about myself because of me and am happy apart from him. Maybe my last relationship made me cold but I am quite happy being free to do my own thing and am happy with my own company. Hope your okay @whitedaisies xx
×
×
  • Create New...