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WCSDancer2010 has this blog http://supporttruthanddialog.com/. It has all kinds of tips on how to deal with outbreaks.
The first outbreak more times than not is the worst. There is a six month to a year learning curve on outbreaks. Every one has a different pattern. You might talk to your doctor about taking an antiviral in suppressive dosage while you are in training. That could help keep the outbreaks at bay and stop you from having anymore interruptions.
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Not a lady but I think you can find the answers your looking for at this link http://supporttruthanddialog.com/
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MMissouri is right about learning as much as you can. Adrials videos are very good. The eBook and handouts are good. This blog http://supporttruthanddialog.com/ is a very good read too.
Good luck to you!
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If I'm not mistaken Valtrex is just a more powerful dose of Acyclovir. Famvir is another option. Hopefully your doctor will have a good idea.
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Hello @NeedHope_
As a nearly 30 year veteran of herpes I would say you are doing very well so far. You are at the part of all this that really sucks. You are doing the right thing by posting here and seeking some support. Back in the day this was not available, wish it had been. Educate yourself first and foremost. After awhile I believe you will find things aren't as bad as they seem at the moment.
@WCSDancer2010 has a blog at this link http://supporttruthanddialog.com/. Its very informative and has a lot of advise you may find useful.
Ella Dawson is a young woman about your age. She has a blog at this link https://ellacydawson.wordpress.com/. She is a few years ahead of you on this road and may be a good source of inspiration for you.
Adrial has a number of videos you can watch if you haven't done so already.
Just remember you are far from alone in this world of H.
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Not sure about cross reactivity, but the IgG is a more reliable test than the IGM. That being said, an IgG result below 3.5 has a 40% chance of being a false positive. A WB makes perfect sense in this situation. Contact Westover Heights about arranging the WB.
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Giving him a BJ should be fairly safe. Make sure he's tested too.
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Hello @premiumbanana,
1. If a GP is all you have seen for this you need to go to an OB or other doctor that specializes in sexual health. From what you have described you should be on an antiviral, Valtrex, Acyclovir or Famvir. GP's have a tendency to be way behind the times where herpes is concerned. I always had very good results when I took Acyclovir. I think you would benefit too.
2. I am assuming you are having genital outbreaks. Have you been swabbed or had an IgG blood test? If not you need a blood test at the very least to see what type you have. Next outbreak get to Planned Parenthood or other sexual health clinic and get it swabbed. On the left side of the page is a link to download the ebook and handouts. Tons of info you need to know in them. Check out this link http://supporttruthanddialog.com/. It is a blog written by @WCSDancer2010. It is well worth your time to read, very educational. You can most definitely have sex again, Just be sure to educate yourself about herpes before you do.
3. An outbreak is shedding on steroids. Asymptomatic shedding can be a little trickier. Being on a suppressive dose of an antiviral can help cut down on the shedding. Stress is a major trigger for herpes. Certain foods can be a trigger for herpes also. You should be able to find out more about that at the link above.
Hope this helps. Educating yourself about herpes is the most important step you can take.
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1. Generally herpes is not serious. It doesn't cause cancer or sterility or any other problems that other STD's do. (The main reason I believe herpes is not included in the standard std panel.)
2. When this happens it usually affects newborns exposed to the virus at birth or people with extremely compromised immune systems. It is very rare in the grand scheme of things. There is also a theory that HSV1 may be linked to alzhiemers. Its still being debated and studied amongst the eggheads.
3. The handouts and ebook are good sources of info. @WCSDancer2010 has written a blog http://supporttruthanddialog.com/. It is an excellent source of information, I highly recommend it.
4. Taking meds is pretty much a personal choice. Sounds like you are not having a problem with frequent outbreaks, so you may not really need them. If in the future you enter a relationship with someone who is HSV negative you may consider taking an antiviral to help protect them from transmission of the virus.
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Hello @neergmas,
There is really no exact way to disclose. If you haven't done so already download the ebook and handouts. They have a lot of info on herpes. This blog, http://supporttruthanddialog.com/ as lots of great info also.'Using Herpes As Your Wingman' is an excellent starting point. Educate yourself all you can.
Read all the Herpes talk success stories you can, the link is to the left. Many have gone before you and have faced down the same fears as you and lived to tell the tale. You can learn all the various ways folks have gone about it. I imagine you'll be able to get some pretty good ideas.
Good luck to you...
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2-21 days is what I understand it to be. I'm sure the egghead numbers people could probably break it down further than that. The 2-21 days may be a broad range. Most people that show symptoms probably show before 10 days would be my guess. Most people I've seen post in here seem to get symptoms in the first 10 days. Anecdotal evidence, but that seems to be the case.
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What did the doctor say when the swab was taken? Did he/she mention any other possibilities besides HSV? My hunch is this may not be herpes. Hopefully the swab results will bring you an answer.
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The chances of having an outbreak are probably higher if you are still in your first year of having the virus. If you do have an outbreak or feel one coming on you might try doubling the dose for a day or two. No more than that without talking to your doctor. If it doesn't seem to be working at all ask your doctor about trying another antiviral. Famvir or Acyclovir would be options. I had very good results with acyclovir when I took it years ago, never had an outbreak while taking it.
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Responses can be slow around here sometimes. Disclosure threads are not my strong point. Not much I can add other than recommending reading all the success stories you can. Hopefully through them you can glean some insight into approaches others have used and met with success.
WCSDancer2010's blog http://supporttruthanddialog.com/ is another source to read. The article Using Herpes As Your Wingman is a must read. The rest of the blog is worth reading too.
Having had herpes almost 30 years now I can tell you everything eventually works itself out. Good luck and I hope everything turns out for the best.
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If you're taking an antiviral their is really no need to be taking lysine. The antiviral will handle the virus just fine on its own. I would only use lysine if I weren't taking an antiviral. I did try lysine some years back but I didn't find it very effective personally. Others however swear by it, so it is worth a try to find out if it works for you.
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Once you both have antibodies built up, no. My wife and I have never had a problem. You'll want to refrain from intercourse during an outbreak though, since herpes and friction do not go well together.
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As someone who has had herpes nearly 30 years I totally agree with Peggy. I found out about a local support group 20 years ago and it made a huge difference for me. I came out of the night into the day. Due to my work schedule I have not been able to participate in the virtual support calls. Having said that I would recommend participating if you have the time.
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@Stew4 here is a link to a blog you should read http://supporttruthanddialog.com . It will answer a lot of questions for you.
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I've had herpes nearly 30 years now and I've not taken an antiviral in over 20 years. If your outbreaks are frequent and painful I would say take them. If they are not frequent you probably don't really need them.
The other situation you may consider taking an antiviral is if you're in a relationship with someone who is negative. They can help reduce shedding and lower the chance for transmission. Of course its all up to you.
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If a higher dosage doesn't work Famvir could be worth a shot. Someone posted in here once with similar circumstances and switching to Famvir was the answer for them. I'd post a link if I could remember the persons name who posted it.
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I'll second MMissouri.
Also check out http://supporttruthanddialog.com/. It is an excellent blog written by WCSDancer2010.
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Hello @chrisR,
1. The outbreaks do lessen over time. For some people that may be one a year, others it may be two or three times a year. Its different for everyone. Some people have their primary outbreak then never have another one. Only time will tell how it will go for you.
2. Once again this is a very individual decision. If you end up having frequent outbreaks you may want to take antivirals to help suppress outbreaks or take them at the first sign of an outbreak and shorten its duration. If you end up in a relationship with someone who is negative antivirals can help prevent transmission. The things you mentioned certainly help too.
3. I've had HSV2 nearly 30 years now. I pretty much stuck my head in the sand for the first 10 years. Except for one instance I avoided relationships altogether. Once I got on the internet I found out that there was a local support group. Attending a meeting did wonders. I finally met others and realized that I was not alone in this. I also finally received an education about herpes. That lead to much better time in life. By posting here you have taken your first step in the right direction. Read through the forum and informational blog. This blog written by @WCSDancer2010 is also an excellent read http://supporttruthanddialog.com/.
I had somewhat frequent outbreaks for a number of years. I had a rather physically stressful job. Eight years ago I transferred into a job that is a lot less stressful and my outbreaks went way down. My last outbreak was in July 2015. You will adjust to it, just give yourself some time.
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Others have also reported hair loss. You might talk to your doctor about switching to another antiviral.
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@Sarahnyc95, @alone777
Here is a link to some support group info https://herpeslife.com/herpes-support-groups.
Here is a link to a blog that is worth your time to check out http://supporttruthanddialog.com/. It is written by WCSDancer2010. Its very comprehensive in regards to herpes.
I too got herpes at 20. I am 49 now. Life does go on. You are one the right track in dealing with it. I attended a support group meeting for the first time 20 years ago and it did wonders. There is going to be a virtual support group meeting this Sunday night. Contact @Adrial for the details if you do not know about it already.
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I picked up the herpes virus 30 years ago. Had 3 different outbreaks swabbed and they all came back negative. Two years ago had an IgG done and it came back positive for HSV2. The doctor I talked to after that last swab said 30% of herpes cases won't test positive. I was in the military at the time and they would not do a blood test. Terri Warren confirmed what the doctor told me way back when. She also stated it may even be higher than 30%.
I agree with @optimist. Get the IgG done. You may have to be insistent with the doctor but don't back down.