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Tallboy38

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  1. Thank you for the good advice @PositivelyBeautiful. My gut is telling that is the right plan of action as well. I've never been the type of guy to just have flings so its ironic that the one I had led me to the situation I am in now lol. I'll be sure to let you know when something happens.
  2. Im really nervous about disclosing to a girl I have been talking to. I am a senior in college and have had hsv2 for about a year. One stupid hook up after a bad break up changed my life in a way i never expected. Over the past year I have not only disclosed to two separate girls who were both completely accepting, but I have learned to accept and love myself once again. I just need some advice right now... I go to an extremely small university. The school is 1000 kids total. There is this girl who I have been talking with and am starting to like. We have gone on some dates and she has said how much she likes me. Although I am very excited about this, it scares me. Unlike the two prior girls I have disclosed to, she goes to my school... It is for this reason I am so nervous to tell her because if she is uncomfortable with my situation, I feel as if her even mentioning it to anyone would spread like wild fire around my school and id be known as the guy with herpes... I like her and like spending time with her but I don't want to lie to her and lead her on by trying to keep my diagnosis a secret (ps we aren't having any sex or anything). I just don't know if the risk is worth it... :/
  3. Hey Everyone, I was diagnosed with HSV2 about 8 months ago. I have been really lucky because after my first out break, I hadn't experienced another one for 6 months! This gave me a lot of optimism that things wouldn't be so bad after all. Get an OB every 6 months or so, I can do that. However, I just woke up this morning to find another OB. This new one makes 3 OBs in the last 2 months... Didn't feel any prodromal symptoms, just showed up. How can I go 6 months without any OB to having 3 in the last 2 months..? Sure Im a college student with plenty of stress but its the end of the semester and stress is letting up. This is starting to get really discouraging... Any words of advice or input?
  4. Pretty cool articles surrounding current efforts in developing a vaccine. http://medcitynews.com/2014/10/herpes-vaccine-maker-genocea-reports-positive-results-year-first-dose/ http://medcitynews.com/2014/10/race-tight-genital-herpes-vaccine-agenus-genocea-announce-positive-data/
  5. Really awesome interview @Adrial (Mr. H Opp). Made my night to listen.
  6. Hey Prettyinpinkrn, Around my initial OB, I experienced some of the same worries regarding my enlarged taste buds, sore throat and swollen lymph nodes. I got a oral swab done and it came back negative. Like you are about to do, I did schedule an appointment with the nurse practitioner that I originally had seen about my first OB. She told me it wasn't anything like oral thrush but basically a reaction to the antivirals I had begun taking (valtrex). She suggested I take a pro biotic and sure enough, my taste buds have reduced in size. Hope this helps!
  7. You all are so funny lol. Not gonna lie, I had a bit of a downer kind of day but you all have cheered me up with this thread.
  8. Oh definitely, I have done A LOT of research and understand how asymptomatic viral shedding happens. My question was prompted after watching this...
  9. Thank you both for the insightful feedback. I have had HSV2 for around 4 months now and have not had any reoccurring complications since my initial OB. Hoping things will stay that way! lol
  10. I've always heard that the chances of transmitting genital HSV2 orally is a very small percentage compared to transmitting it genitally. But why is that? How can HSV2 magically prefer or "know" the difference between skin in the oral region versus the genital region?
  11. Hey Man, I am a male in my 20s, had my first out break 3 months ago and was prescribed the exact dosage of valtrex you had for 10 days as well. Im sure you already know this, but the first out break is typically the worst because your body has not build up any antibodies to help control the virus. I personally think your body is still building its resistance to the Herpes. For me, my first outbreak was mild in physical sores but serious with flu and fever like symptoms. After I finished my 10 days of valtrex, all sores were gone but I still was dealing with swollen lymph nodes and off and on flu symptoms. Ironically, I had a "second" outbreak of sores a week after I finished taking my medication. However, I believe this to be a continuation of my first outbreak. (First outbreaks can last up to 4 weeks in some cases). Just stay strong buddy, it gets easier. Since my initial outbreak, I have not had another nor experienced any symptoms. I'm hoping the best for you.
  12. I really like the idea of this post man, thanks. Before Herpes: Long term relationship that failed... rebounded with unsafe sex vs After Herpes: More knowledgeable, safe and hopeful for my future. Like you said, finding more meaningful connections with people. First found out: After being sick with flu like symptoms for a week and finding out, I was terrified to tell my family and I felt like a leper. VS 3 months later and I am hopeful I will be for the most part, asymptomatic. Emotionally I am doing okay, physically I can't tell I even have HSV2. Just working on becoming a stronger individual (school, working out, creating new relationships and nurturing old friendships even more) I have read the tread talking about you disclosing to your current girlfriend now, really happy for you man. I am hopeful I will someday be able to experience that type of connection. Much love, Logan
  13. I have wondered something about a deficiency as well... I plan to visit the doctor within the next couple days... I'll keep you posted.
  14. Thank you for the insight. I have an ora-brush which is just a soft bristled tongue cleaner. If I don't clean my tongue every night, my mouth feels absolutely disgusting in the morning. Might consult a doctor about it... Just so sick of having to have so many doctor's appointments in the past month lol.
  15. I have a couple questions about oral HSV2... Are there really no documented cases of it occurring? Is the likely hood of transmitting it 1%? I was diagnosed with genital HSV2 a month ago. Since this time, I have been extremely aware and possibly paranoid about any changes my body has been experiencing. Lately, I have begun to notice that my taste buds appear a bit larger... When I had my first outbreak, I had a sore throat, had a culture taken from there and my genitals but only the genitals came back positive for HSV2.... I have also been doing a lot of reading about how your tongue can tell a lot about your health. The past month has been filled with lots of stress and anxiety so Im not sure if my tongue is reacting to that, valtrex or oral HSV2... Any thoughts? Ps. I have had a second genital outbreak but did not get any sore throat or visible sores in my throat... My taste buds just appear consistently larger, especially after I brush my teeth and tongue.
  16. Thank you @WCSDancer2010. I will definitely share the handouts and cdc facts with him. Like you said, it isn't like I don't condone him "hooking up", he just really needs to understand how his actions can affect others now that he is H+. Thank you for the helpful information!
  17. The thing is, they aren't even in a relationship. My friend tends to have a "player" mentality and merely hooks up with girls... When I talk to him, it seems like he listens but then does the opposite. Im trying not to turn him away by reprimanding or yelling at him but he cannot keep acting so carelessly...
  18. Hi all, Recently I found out that one of my friends from work has been diagnosed with HSV2. As for me, I have been diagnosed for about a month now. Since my diagnosis, I have become very optimistic about my situation, found amazing support from my family and this wonderful H community. The problem is that my friend is in denial and is already putting others' health at risk. This week I received a facebook message from a girl who I was acquaintances from my old gym. She was asking if my friend "had anything". To my surprise, I did not realize these two knew each other. Turns out my friend had unprotected sex with this girl AFTER knowing his diagnosis. When she was consulting me about the situation, I was horrified! I immediately called my friend about the situation to see what the hell he was thinking. Despite me previously telling him about asymptomatic viral shedding, he claimed he didn't think anything would happen if he wasn't showing symptoms... I don't think I have ever been so disappointed with someone in my life. For me, I can handle HSV2 but the thing I wouldn't be able to handle is knowingly putting someone at risk for transmitting it as well like he just did. I did not disclose to the girl about his specific condition because it isn't my place to disclose for anyone else. However, I did strongly urge her to get tested, and to abstain from sex until she knows any further information. Currently, I am trying to break through to my arrogant friend by getting him to man up by being honest with this girl and the risk he has put her through... Any advice in how to get through to him?? I feel like Ive tried pleading every angle with him... I just don't want him to put anyone in danger...
  19. I totally understand your feelings about not wanting to disclose this new situation to any of your family or friends. I myself have had HSV2 for about a month now. I have decided to not tell any of my friends because I go to a very small university that I just don't want the risk of it getting out to people who do not need to know. HOWEVER, I will say this. It has been extremely helpful for me to be open with my family about it all. During the week I had been screened and was waiting for the results, I was freaking out. Although i had a mild outbreak, I felt very ill with the fever and flu symptoms. Even before I received my official results, i had told my mother that there was a strong possibility I had contracted HSV2. Already, a huge weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. Since my diagnosis, my mother, father and sister have all been so supportive. I have never felt such a strong connection with them prior to this. I can truly tell them about any of my problems. Just remember, you are not H, you are your parent's daughter and they will love you regardless. My family is my biggest support system.
  20. I just was prescribed Valtrex after my first outbreak three weeks ago (2x 500mg). My prescription was for 10 days and the outbreak was fairly mild. During the end of the prescription I had experienced some dizziness. I have experienced a decent amount of anxiety this week because I began feeling the fever and flu like symptoms again. Sure enough, I woke up with a smaller outbreak this morning... I am still very new to H so I have not really figured out my prodromal symptoms yet... I'm not sure if this is a "second" outbreak or an extension of my first because I was diagnosed only 3 weeks ago. I will make sure to update you if I experience any anxiety this week while taking Valtrex again.
  21. Thank you Adrial and WCSDancer2010, I am already realizing how much of a blessing this site is! Adrial, Ive taken some time to think about the questions you had for me regarding my fears and here is what I've come up with... Q: Why do you feel guilty and disgusted specifically? A: The reasons I feel guilty and disgusted are primarily due to the way I was raised and how I reacted to my recent breakup with a serious girlfriend. After having a rough breakup, I was foolish enough to stray away from my moral center and have a rebound with the girl who ultimately gave me HSV2. Up until this time, I have never had sexual relations with someone unless I was dating them. Now that I have contracted HSV2 I have been continually working to regain my self worth and not to let one mistake hinder the rest of my life. Q:What thoughts and beliefs go along with those feelings inside? A: Mainly, my Christian beliefs go along side with those feelings. It was disappointing for me that it took contracting herpes to realize how arrogant I had become in thinking things like this couldn't/ wouldn't ever happen to me. In addition, I was raised in a Christian home so having to tell my parents about the consequences of my careless actions was difficult. Amazingly, they have supported me from the moment I disclosed to them. Q: And what exactly will you have to deal with for the rest of your life? A: I suppose the thing I am most afraid about having to deal with for the rest of my life is worrying that I could transmit the virus to someone who I love. I can cope in having to "carry the H burden" but I never want to impose that onto someone else (i.e. my wife someday because I would love to start a family). P.S. WCSDancer2010, thank you for the link to that success story!! Much love to you all!
  22. I had a prescription for Valtrex filled by my doctor a little over a week ago but did not have time to pick it up because I was flying out of town. I woke up this morning with a second outbreak starting and Im really hoping I will be able to still pick up my Valtrex even though the prescription was send over a week ago. Does anyone know if there is a limited amount of time a pharmacy will allow you to have in order to pick up medication? I really don't want to risk letting my outbreak get worse by having to wait another day to have the prescription refilled by my doctor... Thank you!!!
  23. I guess I don't really know where to begin... I am a 21 year old college student from Minnesota. I was diagnosed with HSV-2 two weeks ago after mistakenly having a rebound after splitting with a serious girlfriend. The girl did not exhibit any symptoms and did not know she had it (which seems ironic after reading statistics that 70% of people who transmit herpes don't actually know they have it). Unlike her, I developed symptoms. Thankfully they were relatively mild but the entire week while I waited for official screening results was terrifying. Since my diagnosis, I have forgiven her and do not hold a grudge on her. She has been supportive and caring throughout this whole ordeal... However, having to tell my parents and sister what all had happened was the most terrifying thing I have ever had to do. We are all in a good place right now but I can't help but feel so guilty and disgusted with myself. Sure I'm disappointed that I will have to deal with this for the rest of my life, but even more so I just don't want this to affect the ones I love... I thought I was going to marry my ex and now with my recent diagnosis, I feel as if the odds are stacked against me and I will never amount to the man of any girls dreams. I don't want to be looked upon as a burden or treated like a leper due to my herpes... Any advice or stories to inspire hope in over coming this feeling?
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