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Thanks :)

Thank you :) I know the risk is really low statistically, but all our bodies work differently so if anyone has experience with this, please share!

I've always been pro-condom, before and after herpes. I have a new partner who's been aware of my condition since before we were dating. The first month or so, we pretty much were religious about condom use, and then the whole "we're out of condoms but what the hell" thing inevitably happened...and here we are a few months later. Neither of us is HIV+, and I haven't had an outbreak in the time we've been together. Is it likely that he'll get herpes from me? He's already said that it's a risk he's willing to take for me (bless his heart), but of course we'd like to avoid that. My last partner and I had stopped using condoms after a while, and he never got it from me either. No, I'm not on valtrex. Has anyone else had experience with a long term partner and not using a barrier method consistently?

I feel like making a joke out of it lightens the situation and makes it seem less dire (because it's not dire and imo herpes kind of is a joke), and it might help some people for sure.

I feel incredibly lucky :)

I've known this guy since I was 13. I moved away when I started high school but we kept in touch regularly. A couple months ago we really started skyping a lot, and we decided he should come stay with me for a couple weeks to visit, plus we were considering pursuing something romantic since I'll be moving back to where he lives quite soon. So I knew I needed to tell him about my status in case we had sex while he was here. That was a daunting task for me because while I've had a positive outlook about this whole thing since I've had it, I haven't been able to come out yet to a partner. I usually find a way to end the relationship before it comes to that. I am not a big risk taker ;) So we were skyping one night and I said there was I needed to tell him that might make him reconsider us (WRONG way to go about that, I know). And I got pretty sad. I almost cried. He said the usual stuff about nothing would change his mind etc. but I still couldn't bring myself to say it. I kept dropping hints though, and eventually he GUESSED it! Shoot! He said, "does it rhyme with beef jerky?" And then he LAUGHED AND LAUGHED and told me how silly I was being by getting so worked up over that. He didn't care. He didn't even have any questions. Later, after we'd been intimate a few times and I mentioned being worried about giving him herpes, he said he wouldn't be mad if that happened and just to stop worrying about it. :) He is crazy about me and his response was actually the exact thing I'd always hoped for but never really imagined I'd get. He just went home a few days ago, but he's coming back for the holidays, then I'll be moving back in February. We skype every day and Im just really ecstatic lately :)

Hi! I found out on my 20th birthday (almost a year ago) that I have HSV 2. I've coped well and have a great attitude about it, and since then have had a couple friends open up to me about having it so I know I'm not alone. I've lurked around this and other sites for a while and decided to join you friendly people :) nice to meet you!