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  1. So my ex-boyfriend and I have been talking about getting back together for some time and I felt we were at the point that he should know about my HSV2 status before we proceed. He listened and the next day sent the sweetest text about how I should t blame myself, that it doesn't change who I am as a person, etc. but when I asked him how he felt about wanting to still proceed with a relationship, he said he was unsure. A week later(after not talking) he tells me that he still sees a future with me. I am happy, but want to make sure I give him all the info he needs to feel informed. What sites/information do you recommend I point him too? I want to protect him! I really do love him very much!
  2. @mmissouri I don't have outbreaks. Never have. Only prodrome symptoms. I have HSV2
  3. YogaJ12, I am having the same thing, minus the outbreaks. I have had a sensation of tingling since I was diagnosed with herpes, that seems present everyday. It has only been 8 months for me, so maybe I just need to be patient like Dancer said.
  4. Is it possible for a mother with herpes to pass on her antibodies to the virus to her child? I just found out that my mother has herpes and had it before I was born. Now I have it. Could that be why I never had the traditional first outbreak? I have only had prodome symptoms, but never a lesion, or anything visible.
  5. Hi all! I hope everyone is having a great week. I have enjoyed being in the background for the most part over the past few weeks as I have dealt with depression. I start counseling tomorrow and am looking forward to a church support group I joined to get over past hurts. However, today I think I might have had a slight break through. I really think I have been thinking about herpes in such a negative way that has me still feeling shame after 6months (post diagnosis). I thought to myself, what if I reframed it? Do you think it would be wrong for me to describe herpes as cold sores that come up in an inconvenient place?
  6. Would you mind sharing what you say or think to keep yourself from thinking negatively about yourself and Having H?
  7. oh, @chinup That would be great. Private messaging you now!
  8. Thank you guys! I'm looking forward to getting to the other side
  9. As of lately (and I know its still early in my healing process--just found out in June), I keep rehashing my relationship with the man that brought me Herpes. There were so many signs and so many times that I should have walked away before we became intimate, but I still did and without a condom. I think I was so wanting that relationship to work that I just lowered my standards and for that, I keep beating myself up. I am also still wondering why he hasn't called me to let me know his test results. I am assuming then I should just believe he indeed was my "gifter". I really feel like I am on a hamster wheel--going through a vicious circle of beating myself up for the poor choice I made. It can be so easy to magnify something that probably isn't a big deal into something so big. I just want to feel better and like myself again.
  10. Unbroken--thank you! I am two months post-diagnosis and am struggling in the same area as hope24. Thank you for your words. I am truly loving the support and non-judgemental environment on this forum. You guys rock!
  11. Congrats!!!!!! Enjoy your weekend!
  12. I am earnestly trying to come to grips with my diagnosis. I realize that I have to be kinder to myself--it has only been two months since I found out. But I am REALLY struggling with forgiving myself. Would people mind sharing how they forgave themselves and what it is like on the other side of sadness of the diagnosis? Thank you so much in advance!
  13. Hi all :-) I have a question for the seasoned ones who have had "h" for awhile. I am two months in and still processing things and learning to forgive myself. My question is about relationships and I guess this would be geared towards those that are in serious committed relationships or are married (or have been post herpes). After disclosure, did herpes come up a lot in the relationship? How did you deal with it? How did you know for sure your partner accepted you for you and did not fixate on herpes? The bottom line is that I just want reassurance that it is possible for me to have a relationship in the future that will not be dominated by what I have. Hopefully, I make sense lol
  14. Thank you @diversgirl, @WCSDancer2010, @ihaveittoo, @whitedaises @angelina. Your posts really helped me out. I have my moments of positive and then those moments when my negative sinks me into a hole. I know I need to be kinder to myself like you suggested and to know that It gets better. And not to shame myself and learn how to accept this.
  15. thanks! I was trying to delete my extra post, but couldnt figure out how. when I hit the post button, it looked like my computer was thinking, and didn't post it. :)
  16. Thank you all! I already feel the support! I think I feel my processing is crazy and I am having all of these emotions because I am also dealing with the fact that I am also trying to find a job as well. Worrying about job uncertainty as well as dealing with a new diagnosis is not easy. Also, I have only experienced the prodomal symptoms. I have never had an actual outbreak with lesions, just a tingling sensation. In fact, I had to see three ob/gyns before the last thought to test me for herpes. That's when I found out that herpes wasn't included in a normal std panel smh!!!!!!!! I am definitely seeing the connection between stress and diet already. Any recommendations on how to get rid of a sugar addition? I know sugar is a big suppressant to the immune system, and I am struggling with giving up my "comfort food"....lol I know I prob just need to reduce it. Currently I have sweets every day smh!!!!!! I think I also struggle because of my religious faith. I definitely was not supposed to have sex before marriage and I feel like herpes almost "dirty's" me.I don't feel that God is punishing me, but I do wonder if I will be able to find a Christian man that will be able to look past that. When I write that, I know that if they are a true Christian, they are supposed to love like Jesus and love unconditionally, but I struggle. I just have alot of things going on: the new diagnosis, my self esteem, needing to find a job to pay my bills, etc. I definitely feel that once I figure out the job situation, that maybe everything else will be easier to deal with.
  17. Forgive me if I sound dramatic, but I am 33 and newly diagnosed with herpes. It has totally blindsided me. Not that I don't know how I got it. But I am still in that phase of beating myself and blaming myself for my poor choice. And he didn't even care about me the same way that I cared about him. And I am also sad because I wanted love so much that I settled for less than I deserve. But now that I have this, how am I supposed to begin to repair my already bad self-esteem? I wonder about someone loving me for me in spite of herpes. I know that things could be worse, so please bear with me. I am only one month post diagnosis. My question to the group for those who have had herpes for awhile is how did you begin to pick up the pieces and truly come to terms with the disease and begin to truly love yourself more than you ever have? (if that was an issue). How do you stop "shaming" and blaming yourself? I want to be married and I want children and I feel I have so much work to do before I could be in a place to receive healthy love.
  18. Forgive me if I sound dramatic, but I am 33 and newly diagnosed with herpes. It has totally blindsided me. Not that I don't know how I got it. But I am still in that phase of beating myself and blaming myself for my poor choice. And he didn't even care about me the same way that I cared about him. And I am also sad because I wanted love so much that I settled for less than I deserve. But now that I have this, how am I supposed to begin to repair my already bad self-esteem? I wonder about someone loving me for me inspite of herpes. I know that things could be worse, so please bear with me. I am only one month post diagnosis. My question to the group for those who have had herpes for awhile is how did you begin to pick up the pieces and truly come to terms with the disease and begin to truly love yourself more than you ever have? (if that was an issue). How do you stop "shaming" and blaming yourself? I want to be married and I want children and I feel I have so much work to do before I could be in a place to receive healthy love.
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