Greetings,
I am a 31 year old woman who 6 weeks ago was diagnosed with HSV II via blood test. I had no reason to believe I was positive, but noticed during my last "full" panel screening during my annual that I was not and tested and requested it. Well, as it would happen I'm positive and experienced an onslaught of emotions ranging from anger, to sadness, to faux-acceptance, and still no outbreak! The waiting has to be the worst. I requested suppressive meds from my doctor, but she said that by taking the meds, given that I haven't had an outbreak may lead to an outbreak -- seriously! My test result of 1.62 it would indicate a recent exposure, but my last sexual encounter was fully protected with no malfunctions at 9 weeks prior to testing. I realize this means nothing, especially if the individual I was intimate with was asymptomatically shedding, or a lesion was present outside of the condom -- I thought I checked thoroughly. Even now as I type there are so many things that I want to say, but want to keep it brief yet informative and hopefully someone in my position can shed light, and perhaps give insight on the condition, especially when asymptomatic. To add a layer to my emotional game of jenga, I have abruptly cut off the gentleman I was dating - who by the way is phenomenal and he thinks the same of me. We communicate via text, email or phone almost everyday, but I have declined to see him due to my returning to graduate school and I am swamped with assignments and readings *wink, wink*. I cannot bear to see the look on his face when if tell him, and it breaks my heart every time we converse because all I can see are my dreams of a life with him dashed. He is a man I can love and build a life with; amazing in so many ways. He gets me, and I get him but I don't want to give him this. The emotional toll it has rocked me, before this I was young, vibrant, beautiful, in good shape, intelligent, ambitious, and funny; now I drink too much, can barely muster a greeting and don't care to leave the house, with the exception of work and occasionally the gym. I know I will get through this because I'm not too keen on the other option; I just need to know that I will be okay and I will have love from another. I don't feel dirty or useless, just sad that my prospects in dating have been significantly reduced -- and some would say that's a blessing. I'm not seeing it yet. *Heavy sighs*