Kelly_H

This whole discussion gives hope to people living with H that you can find someone that will accept you for all that you are. Thank you for sharing. I hope this relationship continues to grow and become more then you had ever hoped for. I will definitely be checking in to find out :) Congrats

Thanks everyone. To answer your question Dancer... my doctor called me this morning and it is H... HSV2. Can I still get that if he had a cold sore and then performed oral? Can I get it in my mouth if I performed oral on him and he has H and doesn't know it? In any case, I can't believe I allowed this to happen to myself. When I went in she only did a swab test and not any blood work. On a positive note I'm clear of Chlamydia and Ghoneriha. I asked her if she knew if this was a virus new to me or if I had had it for a while and she said she didn't know for sure but that she thinks that it most likely came from him since, like you said, it fits the time period of my first OB. She also thinks he probably doesn't know he has it. I've seen him twice since I went to the doctor and I tried each time to tell him but I never did. I was partially waiting so I knew if I for sure have H but I was also waiting because I needed this advice. I think it's hard for me because even if he did give it to me I feel like the dirty one and that I did something horrible. I also don't want to be the one that puts this huge burden on his life.... BUT I do know that even though I have these feelings that I have to tell him. It's the only fair and right thing to do... As for using a condom... no. What a mistake. Maybe I could have avoided all of this if we would have :( My doctor told me to take a pregnancy test and I'm going to start bc on Sunday. Lets just hope the results from that test are negative I'll definitely check out those links and maybe show them to him.... if he doesn't run away when I tell him.... I've been reading almost anything I can find online (hopefully all good info) and I've also seen some people's stories. I hope mine turns out for the better. Thank you Unbroken and NSgreenville as well. Knowing that there are people here that I can actually talk to helps.

Hey all... Three weeks ago I scheduled a gyno appointment for yesterday (Tuesday) so I could start birth control but little did I know I was going to want that appointment for other reasons. On Sunday night after having sex for the third time with a guy I have been seeing a month I found that I was very sore and it hurt when I urinated. Sadly, Monday night I found the all bumps, felt so uncomfortable, it hurt even more when I urinated and I had a discharge. When I went to the doctor yesterday she told me I have herpes and started me on a medication. I am still experiencing all the symptoms but with little to no movement I feel ok. It sucks. With all of this I don't know what to feel. I'm upset that I let this happen to me, I'm worried about the rest of my life, I feel dirty and sometimes I just feel like it's a horrible dream. I can't believe I'm going to have this for the rest of my life. If I was single I may be able to deal with this easier and just seclude myself but I don't think i can do that with my current relationship. We have only been seeing each other a month but I would feel horrible leaving him without saying anything and without telling him he should go get tested. My doctor thinks he may be living with the virus and just not realize it since so many people don't have outbreaks that make them think they have Herpes. We had sex on Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday morning and Sunday night and I saw symptoms on Monday night.... As of right now I don't know if I got it from him but if I didn't, I could have given it to him. So how do I tell him? If he wants to breakup that's fine but I want to be able to give him all the information I have and tell him that we could still work. I need advice, both with my guy and in how to live with this...